What do you do when girls just don’t like you?

[nicksaiz65]

I have to say, I’ve put myself out there more than ever before this year. Essentially every girl that I found attractive, I’ve asked out. I’ve also gotten flaked on and rejected more than ever in my life.

And yet, the hood dudes at my college do this and succeed effortlessly. To be real, I’m really jealous. What do you do when girls just don’t like you? They always accept them but never me. I won’t ever give up though.

What do you even do about this? The only thing that I can think of is to increase my SMV.

 

[lamath]

Keep going man
Learn from experience and adjust strategies.
Try and expand your friend circle.
Easier to meet women thru friend than cold approach imo

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I have to say, I’ve put myself out there more than ever before this year. Essentially every girl that I found attractive, I’ve asked out. I’ve also gotten flaked on and rejected more than ever in my life.

And yet, the hood dudes at my college do this and succeed effortlessly. To be real, I’m really jealous. What do you do when girls just don’t like you? They always accept them but never me. I won’t ever give up though.

What do you even do about this? The only thing that I can think of is to increase my SMV.

You could have a SMV of 1000 out of 10. If she thinks hood dudes are the pinnacle of sexuality you have no sexual value to her. You could be built with a 9.5" piece c0ck. Doesnt matter.

The entire hood dude thing was a transference of wealth and power from us to females. They want your spot.

 

[Dash Riprock]

Could someone define "hood dude" please? Tough guy, "hoodlum", bad ass, Ken Shamrock??

 

[Billtx49]

I have to say, I’ve put myself out there more than ever before this year. Essentially every girl that I found attractive, I’ve asked out. I’ve also gotten flaked on and rejected more than ever in my life.

And yet, the hood dudes at my college do this and succeed effortlessly. To be real, I’m really jealous. What do you do when girls just don’t like you? They always accept them but never me. I won’t ever give up though.

What do you even do about this? The only thing that I can think of is to increase my SMV.

It’s a numbers game. Realize that for every 20 girls you approach that don’t like you, there will be at least 2 or more that do.…
You’ve been on the forum for awhile, but you continue to ask newbie type questions. Study game until you know it inside out and it affects how you interact with women that you invite into your sphere of influence …

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Could someone define "hood dude" please? Tough guy, "hoodlum", bad ass, Ken Shamrock??

Someone with "urban" "inner city" or "street" swag. Its a style a culture a look a mannerisms.

 

[Dash Riprock]

Someone with "urban" "inner city" or "street" swag. Its a style a culture a look a mannerisms.

Ok, got it. As in living in "the hood." Most of these guys are what I call "pseudo tough guys." Tough on the outside, wimps on the inside.

OP, this is a common phase very immature and young girls go through and not all girls dig the hood look and attitude. Improve your game and maybe your look--don't go with "the herd." Start a side business, gain a unique talent (guitar, sing, draw, MMA) whatever. Be unique.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Ok, got it. As in living in "the hood." Most of these guys are what I call "pseudo tough guys." Tough on the outside, wimps on the inside.

OP, this is a common phase very immature and young girls go through and not all girls dig the hood look and attitude. Improve your game and maybe your look--don't go with "the herd." Start a side business, gain a unique talent (guitar, sing, draw, MMA) whatever. Be unique.

You cant stereo type that. I wouldnt say that to make myself feel better. Some women are going to like that.

 

[Dash Riprock]

Some women are going to like that.

Not sure of your age mrgoodstuff, but trust me, as someone who is over 40 I can say 90% grow out of it. The other 10% are well damaged trash types that like and stay in abusive relationships.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Not sure of your age mrgoodstuff, but trust me, as someone who is over 40 I can say 90% grow out of it. The other 10% are well damaged trash types that like and stay in abusive relationships.

Its some "sweet" guys in that group too. Thatll treat their lady great. So its just a look and a mannerisms that the women buy into.

 

[nicksaiz65]

It’s a numbers game. Realize that for every 20 girls you approach that don’t like you, there will be at least 2 or more that do.…
You’ve been on the forum for awhile, but you continue to ask newbie type questions. Study game until you know it inside out and it affects how you interact with women that you invite into your sphere of influence …

I’ve made a lot of improvements thanks to this website over the last year. But I need to study Game more and really keep approaching out there if I want to succeed. My self esteem issues are the main thing holding me back tbh, so Inner game

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I’ve made a lot of improvements thanks to this website over the last year. But I need to study Game more and really keep approaching out there if I want to succeed. My self esteem issues are the main thing holding me back tbh, so Inner game

Maybe your game is sticking to the 5-20% of females who respond to you.

 

[nicksaiz65]

Ok, got it. As in living in "the hood." Most of these guys are what I call "pseudo tough guys." Tough on the outside, wimps on the inside.

OP, this is a common phase very immature and young girls go through and not all girls dig the hood look and attitude. Improve your game and maybe your look--don't go with "the herd." Start a side business, gain a unique talent (guitar, sing, draw, MMA) whatever. Be unique.

Definitely. That’s just not me. I’m working hard to become a successful programmer and musician

 

[nicksaiz65]

Maybe your game is sticking to the 5-20% of females who respond to you.

Yeah. I’ve definitely read that it’s a numbers game, but it still gets kind of discouraging sometimes. Working on my Outcome Independence

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Yeah. I’ve definitely read that it’s a numbers game, but it still gets kind of discouraging sometimes

So in my salsa class there were 12 ladies. They rotate us around so we dance with all.

2-3 gave me extreme favor it helped my energy and they made me look good

7 of them where completely nuetral but friendly. So fair to most other guys as me.

3 for whatever reason where biased against me. They went by my look and attitude. My energy degrades around them unless i ignore them. They issue a bunch of distractions to reduce me. They make me look worse and go out their way to do so.

We should stick with ones that bias to us.

 

[Serenity]

What do you do when girls just don’t like you?

I try figuring out why and adapt.

 

[The_411]

1. Stop caring so much.
2. This is why your interests, your schooling, your future career are critical. Having a woman or not having a woman should never affect those things because women come and go and no relationship is forever.
3. Who cares if a woman is into the hoods. That speaks more to her quality. Just because she’s hot doesn’t make her worthwhile your time.
4. Very few women should meet LTR material. So treat the other 99% like women you want to **** without any thought to whether it will happen again.

5. Eliminate women more quickly. Guys often let their egos get in the way thinking they can somehow cajole, charm, manipulate women into liking them when a woman’s interest is low. Stop wasting time on low interest women because you’ll become frustrated.

 

[zekko]

So in my salsa class there were 12 ladies. They rotate us around so we dance with all.

How many guys in this class?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

How many guys in this class?

Its actually one or two more on most days. They arent there to pick up no one but its social and people are attracted sometimes

 

[zekko]

Its actually one or two more on most days. They arent there to pick up no one but its social and people are attracted sometimes

Are you saying there are like three guys there total?
Or like 14?
In other words, are there more women or more men?

I'm just wondering because it seems like dancing classes would appeal more to females, but males might like them so they could be around women.