Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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A LADY FRIEND COMMITED A SUICIDE, and AFTER I PMD THE BF IF ITS TRUE. HE WANTS TO MEET WITH ME?

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Hi DJs, it is obvious that people will question the most important person of the one who commited a suicide.

I can’t believe she did it to herself.

What do you think about the situation?

I did not meet with the bf yet, need your inputs.

I might be missing something here.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'm assuming she's dead.

What's the point of meeting her bf?
 

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Yes she’s dead.

That’s exactly why i’m asking.

Why would the boyfriend wants to meet with me before her body is prepared for the wake?

She has 2 kids. I just can’t believe she killed herself.

Isn’t that a little bit of inappropriate?
 

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Why would the boyfriend wants to meet with me before her body is prepared for the wake?

She has 2 kids. I just can’t believe she killed herself.
You can’t believe it and have questions. The BF does more so, and is probably seeking answers from people that knew her. He’s probably taking it really hard.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I think it's best you stay out of it unless the bf is a good friend of yours and needs some emotional support.
Yes, that’s my decision but still seeking answers myself.

He told me that he’s out for dinner that day and he’ll just pm me the convenient place where we should meet.
 

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You can’t believe it and have questions. The BF does more so, and is probably seeking answers from people that knew her. He’s probably taking it really hard.
But why would he wants to meet with me before I go to the place where the wake takes place???
 

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It's up 2 you man.

If it's me, I'd rather offer my condolences 2 her family and would typically ask if they need any help - donating some $$ if it's within my means to do so.
 

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It's up 2 you man.

If it's me, I'd rather offer my condolences 2 her family and would typically ask if they need any help - donating some $$ if it's within my means to do so.
Yes, I would rather go to the funeral directly rather than meeting the bf first.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If there was no foul play involving you, then it’s not a problem…
No problem with me, but i’m just trying to be precautious here.

We might not know what he’s up to.

That’s why I’m asking some second opinions.
 

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No problem with me, but i’m just trying to be precautious here.

We might not know what he’s up to.

That’s why I’m asking some second opinions.
The future is Never as bad as it can be imagined beforehand…
Think about that for a few minutes.
 
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You have to meet him, but public places with witnesses and cameras in broad daylight only

Enough privacy to have a chat, but not so much privacy that he can flip out, blame you and pull a gun or try to "tie up loose ends"

Maybe you can piece the puzzle together
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Two kids?

Who gets them?

Are they his?

Is he maybe trying to pin them on you?

Maybe he blames you and want to kill you.

Maybe he's just blindsided and looking for answers.

Although if he's blinded and looking for answers, he might have called. Does he have your number?

Texting to set up a meet if he's blindsided might be a bit odd.

What's your gut tell you?
 

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You have to meet him, but public places with witnesses and cameras in broad daylight only

Enough privacy to have a chat, but not so much privacy that he can flip out, blame you and pull a gun or try to "tie up loose ends"

Maybe you can piece the puzzle together
My gut feeling says no.

I don’t want to risk.

There’s something fishy going on, since he told me he will inform me where he is when I get there.
 

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Two kids?

Who gets them?

Are they his?

Is he maybe trying to pin them on you?

Maybe he blames you and want to kill you.

Maybe he's just blindsided and looking for answers.

Although if he's blinded and looking for answers, he might have called. Does he have your number?

Texting to set up a meet if he's blindsided might be a bit odd.

What's your gut tell you?
Hahaha

Good post
 

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Two kids?

Who gets them?

Are they his?

Is he maybe trying to pin them on you?

Maybe he blames you and want to kill you.

Maybe he's just blindsided and looking for answers.

Although if he's blinded and looking for answers, he might have called. Does he have your number?

Texting to set up a meet if he's blindsided might be a bit odd.

What's your gut tell you?

No, the 2 kids belongs to the deceased. not his.

That’s why it’s questionable.


How can a mother with young two kids kills herself and leave her children alone???


We pmd me on facebook.

My gut tells me that there’s something wrong.


Killing yourself if your in a relationship always questions the other party.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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