Need some help and advice

[marvinlfloresq]

well i just texted her and told her i want to **** her,, and i am going to leave it at that, i guess

? Forget it now. Are you serious?

You just told her: i have no game, will you sleep with me?
Answer: **** off creep. Or something like this.

Hit the books.

 

[Captain Canada]

? Forget it now. Are you serious?

You just told her: i have no game, will you sleep with me?
Answer: **** off creep. Or something like this.

Hit the books.

i said "i am still crazy about you and want to have sex with you, i dont know what changed but i am going to forget about you now and move on with my life and find some one new to be crazy about"

 

[Ranger]

What’s oneitis?

There’s parts to oneitis.
1) you are into just one woman. When she pulls back due to your “idea that you are obtainable with little ir no effort”. You think she’s your one or even your soulmate for some. (Download and listen to “The Rational Male” by Rollo Tomassi. This is the gold standard for a primer or introduction into this world of women.

2). You are born and raised with the idea or even indoctrinated by society and media, that there is a perfect “one” out there and you just have to find her. This is the most destructive type of “oneitis”
It will ruin your life.

There are parts that are also attached and why you adopt the concept. This is in the book. Luck. We are here to help as much as we can.

 

[Ranger]

i said "i am still crazy about you and want to have sex with you, i dont know what changed but i am going to forget about you now and move on with my life and find some one new to be crazy about"

Parts of this can be said to a woman but not in the situation you are it. Not in this context.
There is little chance in the situation or condition you are in. Then you will start spiraling down. You will only harm yourself.
Especially when you do the same things with the next one and then the next one.

 

[marvinlfloresq]

Parts of this can be said to a woman but not in the situation you are it. Not in this context.
There is little chance in the situation or condition you are in. Then you will start spiraling down. You will only harm yourself.
Especially when you do the same things with the next one and then the next one.

Exactly.

 

[Captain Canada]

Parts of this can be said to a woman but not in the situation you are it. Not in this context.
There is little chance in the situation or condition you are in. Then you will start spiraling down. You will only harm yourself.
Especially when you do the same things with the next one and then the next one.

i will download and read the book but can you clarify what this means a bit more

 

[marvinlfloresq]

Capt. Canada, I dont think you are in a healthy emotional place to date. I would read, hit the gym & develope a "coping" strategy for your new single life to save from frustration. Be well bro.

 

[Ranger]

Here is part of a conversation I had last night. Most I can’t post here. It gets pretty dirty as I use texting as a foreplay tool. I’ve seen her three times now.
Throughout it I said in part all of the things you texted her but mine is in a different context. A different frame so to speak.
My part is in the green.

 

[Captain Canada]

Capt. Canada, I dont think you are in a healthy emotional place to date. I would read, hit the gym & develope a "coping" strategy for your new single life to save from frustration. Be well bro.

i agree bro, but i had to text her and say that one final thing just to save some face in my mind and leave it with some dignity

 

[Captain Canada]

Parts of this can be said to a woman but not in the situation you are it. Not in this context.
There is little chance in the situation or condition you are in. Then you will start spiraling down. You will only harm yourself.
Especially when you do the same things with the next one and then the next one.

bro it was just like that with me and her in the first 4 weeks, then i told her i loved her and 3-4 weeks after that it went downhill

 

[Ranger]

Frame is what you operate on. Your beliefs. Your personality.
A woman can read this almost instantaneously. Your posture. Your body language. Etc. everything.

Your Frame is where you are coming from. It is a representation of what you are thinking and everything you are being.
Women are hard wired to read it like a billboard sign.
Until you “reframe”, change your thought process you will exude exactly what women don’t want. You have pain coming when you figure out why your world spun in and rather painfully. Not what you are telling yourself or what people are telling you but what REALLY happened. From the day you met her until right this second.

 

[Ranger]

bro it was just like that with me and her in the first 4 weeks, then i told her i loved her and 3-4 weeks after that it went downhill

This is unrecoverable. Face it.

 

[Captain Canada]

Frame is what you operate on. Your beliefs. Your personality.
A woman can read this almost instantaneously. Your posture. Your body language. Etc. everything.

Your Frame is where you are coming from. It is a representation of what you are thinking and everything you are being.
Women are hard wired to read it like a billboard sign.
Until you “reframe”, change your thought process you will exude exactly what women don’t want. You have pain coming when you figure out why your world spun in and rather painfully. Not what you are telling yourself or what people are telling you but what REALLY happened. From the day you met her until right this second.

" You have pain coming when you figure out why your world spun in and rather painfully. Not what you are telling yourself or what people are telling you but what REALLY happened. From the day you met her until right this second"

this part confused me,,, by the way i really appreciate your help

 

[Ranger]

i agree bro, but i had to text her and say that one final thing just to save some face in my mind and leave it with some dignity

This final impulse was another nail in the coffin.
Figure out why this impulse overcame you and why.
It was because of how you think.

 

[Ranger]

" You have pain coming when you figure out why your world spun in and rather painfully. Not what you are telling yourself or what people are telling you but what REALLY happened. From the day you met her until right this second"

this part confused me,,, by the way i really appreciate your help

In the book, you will learn about the social programming that is in you.
The day you met her...with the person (frame) you were being set the foundation of that relationship.

 

[Captain Canada]

This final impulse was another nail in the coffin.
Figure out why this impulse overcame you and why.
It was because of how you think.

yeah man because i know why because i was addicted to her attention and passion to make myself feel good, its literally like a drug withdrawal,, it makes me do uncontrollable things,, i cant make myself feel good on my own

 

[Captain Canada]

In the book, you will learn about the social programming that is in you.
The day you met her...with the person (frame) you were being set the foundation of that relationship.

i got the ebook but have no idea on how to read on my iphone,, i downloaded the app they say to download trying to figure it out

 

[Ranger]

i got the ebook but have no idea on how to read on my iphone,, i downloaded the app they say to download trying to figure it out

I use audible. It’s amazon. If you send me your digits to my private message I will send you a link to get it for free.

 

[Captain Canada]

I use audible. It’s amazon. If you send me your digits to my private message I will send you a link to get it for free.

i just got audible,, and amazon says the book is downloaded ,, but i have no idea how to get the book on to the audible app

 

[Ranger]

Open the app. Pick library