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Been sleeping with three beautiful women, all with smoking hot bodies and pretty. There are instances where I find myself not being able to reach orgasm. I can acheive an erection with no problem but I can have sex for hours without hitting orgasm. It was great for the ladies in the beginning but now the women have been getting upset because they feel insecure, that they arent turning me on, which isnt the case. Also, I find myself needing more and more stimulation, different positions, dirty talk, role playing, threesomes with another female. I recently started watching a lot of porn with a few of the girls where its two females and male. I orgasm almost immediately. I feel like watching porn and masturbating in the past has caused this issue. Any suggestions? Move on to new and exciting chicks maybe? I have already cut out porn.
 

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Are you taking any ED pills for performance? A lot of guys do for a boost, not because they have ED. I use Viagra once in a while, especially if I've been drinking a lot, and it does really delay my orgasm. I only need a tiny bit too, like 10mgs to get an effect.
 

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I'd be careful with those ED pills.

I experimented once for a threesome using ED, it was great for the 1st 1/2 hour, the girls were enjoying themselves, moaning all sort of pleasurable words to get me going but I couldn't come nor will my d1ck settle down, even when I was fvcking worn out !

I've since stopped, fvcking weird seeing your d1ck saluting for hours...
 
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I'd be careful with those ED pills.

I experimented once for a threesome using ED, it was great for the 1st 1/2 hour, the girls were enjoying themselves, moaning all sort of pleasurable words to get me going but I couldn't come nor will my d1ck settle down, even when I was fvcking worn out !

I've since stopped, fvcking weird seeing your d1ck saluting for hours...
yeah this disconnect between desire and drive is clearly ontologically inconsistent. like why the hell do you want to have sex when your **** isn't naturally getting hard

edit: ideology is coercing you to. if you want more xplanation just ask
 

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No need man.

Tried it once, think it was abt 8 or 9 years ago, out of some stupid idea being floated by my group of friends that's it was awesome for threesomes.

Not trying it again.
 

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Stop watching porn and jerking. Will make sex feel better, you will get aroused more easily and naturally, come when you need to but also make your Johnson stronger longer and harder when he is needed.
 

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Cut out porn and wanking, and it'll be fixed after a while.
 

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ED meds do that to me... Adjust dosages...
 

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As others have said.. CUT out the porn.

When you watch porn, your sexual expectations from a woman become so much higher and unrealistic.

Most girls you will have sex with, will NOT look like smoking hot porn stars.. They will not have 3sums or 4sums etc with you.

I had a similar situation some years back.. I couldn't ***, unless I was rienacting some porn seen, or talking dirty about 3sums etc during sex.

Even the hot chick, couldn't make me ***.

Another thing was, I would lose sexual interest in them very quickly, due to viewing so many other hot woman, and wanting to have lots of variety.

Once you come OFF the porn, your sexual drive should come back to normal, also you should avoid masturbating too often.
 

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Are you taking any ED pills for performance? A lot of guys do for a boost, not because they have ED. I use Viagra once in a while, especially if I've been drinking a lot, and it does really delay my orgasm. I only need a tiny bit too, like 10mgs to get an effect.
No meds needed. No problem getting an erection and maintaining. Just having a hard time orgasming. I’m sure it’s all mental. I’ll go cold turkey on the porn. Im might even scale back on the sex a bit. I’m having long sex sessions with these women five times per week. Feels like my penis has decreased sensitivity from so much work it seems.
 

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Porn works the other way in terms of time. You have no problems finding girls, try an average or ugly girl for a change, see if you last less that way. It's kind of my problem, when I get a hot girl I can go for 20, 30, 40 minutes or more, I don't count time. But when the girl is average in bed, or ugly, or just plain boring, it's over in under 5 minutes.
 

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so that the girl was not boring in bed, she must be seduced and brought to her to become hot
 

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Porn works the other way in terms of time. You have no problems finding girls, try an average or ugly girl for a change, see if you last less that way. It's kind of my problem, when I get a hot girl I can go for 20, 30, 40 minutes or more, I don't count time. But when the girl is average in bed, or ugly, or just plain boring, it's over in under 5 minutes.
Interesting. Do you find yourself holding back orgasm so you can keep going for a longer time with hotter women? Trying to impress the hot ones. Women don’t want no one minute man. When I was younger, I found myself prolonging orgasm so I could give her hours of poundage. With the uglier women, you just don’t care if they judge you.
 

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Nothing wrong with porn imo, unless you are using it the same day. It's more likely that you are just worn down. And you should consider your rotation, your alcohol and other drug intake.

When I had a similar problem, it was basically that I was patching myself up with lots of different things and not addressing the issue of just being jaded.

So scale back. Don't have dates on both Friday and Saturday - keep Sundays short and don't let them loiter. Use weekdays for exploring different options, and have plenty of good time to yourself to recharge.

Or leave the porn alone for a while, then re asses the situation
 

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Been sleeping with three beautiful women, all with smoking hot bodies and pretty. There are instances where I find myself not being able to reach orgasm. I can acheive an erection with no problem but I can have sex for hours without hitting orgasm. It was great for the ladies in the beginning but now the women have been getting upset because they feel insecure, that they arent turning me on, which isnt the case. Also, I find myself needing more and more stimulation, different positions, dirty talk, role playing, threesomes with another female. I recently started watching a lot of porn with a few of the girls where its two females and male. I orgasm almost immediately. I feel like watching porn and masturbating in the past has caused this issue. Any suggestions? Move on to new and exciting chicks maybe? I have already cut out porn.
Are you using condoms or raw dogging them?
 

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Interesting. Do you find yourself holding back orgasm so you can keep going for a longer time with hotter women? Trying to impress the hot ones. Women don’t want no one minute man. When I was younger, I found myself prolonging orgasm so I could give her hours of poundage. With the uglier women, you just don’t care if they judge you.
No, I don't hold anything, I don't think I can do that. It just lasts longer when she moaning and fvcking you on top.
 

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Interesting. Do you find yourself holding back orgasm so you can keep going for a longer time with hotter women? Trying to impress the hot ones. Women don’t want no one minute man. When I was younger, I found myself prolonging orgasm so I could give her hours of poundage. With the uglier women, you just don’t care if they judge you.
Let's make one thing clear.

I don't care if ANY woman judges me, ugly or hot. If I want a quickie, that's what I go for. If I want to go for an hour, that's what I'll do.

Need to get rid of that mindset that says you need to please a woman. She'll be pleased if you are doing what you want to do. They don't think of sex like men do, it's not nearly as superficial to them as it is to us.
 

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Let's make one thing clear.

I don't care if ANY woman judges me, ugly or hot. If I want a quickie, that's what I go for. If I want to go for an hour, that's what I'll do.

Need to get rid of that mindset that says you need to please a woman. She'll be pleased if you are doing what you want to do. They don't think of sex like men do, it's not nearly as superficial to them as it is to us.
I have to disrespectfully disagree. If you aren’t giving it to her good in the bedroom then don’t expect her to stick around or be faithful. I know a lot of women in long term relationships that left because the sex wasn’t any good. With that being said you should always enjoy yourself but busting a nut in two seconds flat will hurt you especially with how many options women have these days. You wouldn’t dress like a slob because that’s what you “want” to do and expect to attract beautiful women. At the end of the day, you want to attract the opposite sex and you do that by excelling in all areas of life, including how you sex women. I also enjoy hearing my plate moan in pleasure and reach orgasm.
 
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Let's make one thing clear.

I don't care if ANY woman judges me, ugly or hot. If I want a quickie, that's what I go for. If I want to go for an hour, that's what I'll do.

Need to get rid of that mindset that says you need to please a woman. She'll be pleased if you are doing what you want to do. They don't think of sex like men do, it's not nearly as superficial to them as it is to us.
Oh wow. You could not be more wrong about that. Women like to have the man get her off and the man who knows how to do that well will have some powerful playing cards. I would not underestimate the importance of getting her off.
 
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