Need some to talk sense in me

[Cazam]

Hi guys i posted a thread in juli about my breakup due to Nice guy AFC behavior.
Now i did everything right.
No begging no crying no chasing.
I improved hit gym, new job, new car, getting my confidence back, reading the bible.
I thought i moved on.
Now since 2 weeks she tries to contact me.
How is it going etc.
Right now she texted me "**** you" since i just ignore her.
I notice i am not over this.
I just need a kick in the Ass to continue NC
almost broke it.

 

[In2theGame]

Hi guys i posted a thread in juli about my breakup due to Nice guy AFC behavior.
Now i did everything right.
No begging no crying no chasing.
I improved hit gym, new job, new car, getting my confidence back, reading the bible.
I thought i moved on.
Now since 2 weeks she tries to contact me.
How is it going etc.
Right now she texted me "**** you" since i just ignore her.
I notice i am not over this.
I just need a kick in the Ass to continue NC
almost broke it.

A few questions...

•Who broke up with who?
•How long were you two together?
•How long has it been since the breakup?

 

[Cazam]

She wasnt happy anymore.
2.5 years.
3 month.
I was Mr. Nice guy and i mean MR NICE GUY

 

[AttackFormation]

When a relationship ends, women have two goals:

1 - For her ego, she wants to know that you aren't doing better than she is emotionally or with new women
2 - For her security, she wants to confirm that you are still available to her in case, or because, her new guys (new to you - she was probably lining them up long before she officially ended it) don't work out and she regrets it

She is not contacting you out of fondness.

 

[In2theGame]

She wasnt happy anymore.
2.5 years.
3 month.
I was Mr. Nice guy and i mean MR NICE GUY

•2.5 Years is a decent time. I was with my serious ex girlfriend for 5 years.
•3 Months is still fresh dude. I was messed up for 2 and a half years.

Stay strong and meet other Women. You won't feel "connected" to other Women right now but don't worry about that at the moment. You need a nice hot warm sexy female body next to you right now.

 

[MrJack]

Hi guys i posted a thread in juli about my breakup due to Nice guy AFC behavior.
Now i did everything right.
No begging no crying no chasing.
I improved hit gym, new job, new car, getting my confidence back, reading the bible.
I thought i moved on.
Now since 2 weeks she tries to contact me.
How is it going etc.
Right now she texted me "**** you" since i just ignore her.
I notice i am not over this.
I just need a kick in the Ass to continue NC
almost broke it.

Going back to her will only bring pain and sorrow.

Keep with the NC until you are completely over her and then once you have that mindset, if she reaches out again at some point down the road, I’d try to make her a plate but nothing more. No exclusivity.

Only do this if you trust yourself not to fall for her again.

 

[Cazam]

I know she only needs validation that her puppy is still jumping.
I mean "**** you " says it all.
Yeah i know i need a warm female body.
Besides all my improvements thats the thing i lack i cant get myself to put me out there.
I only collected a lot of tinder matches but never acted on them.
I know i need to do that.
I want to get myself out there but i am stuck in that regard....

 

[Chi Town]

Why do you still have her number? Delete and continue doing you.

 

[Cazam]

I dont have her number i deleted everything number pictures i threw away her gifts, i have nothing to remind me of her except the flat we furnished together at the beginning of the year.

 

[elunium]

Texting you "**** you" when you've done nothing is just her creating drama.

Dont answer.

Keep doing what you are doing. Hit the gym, work hard and read the bible.

 

[Cazam]

Thx guys i guess i just needed that to remind myself i am onnthe right track.
I gave her my everything and in return was treated like a doormat.
I am fed up with this beahvior of mine.

 

[In2theGame]

I dont have her number i deleted everything number pictures i threw away her gifts, i have nothing to remind me of her except the flat we furnished together at the beginning of the year.

Remember, It doesnt matter what gifts you throw out, What pictures you tore up or how many things of hers you got rid of. One thing you will not immediately get rid of is thoughts of her and the emotional attachment that lingers for that girl. That's going to take some time. Every guy goes through it at one point or another, some worse than others. Take me for example, My old threads back in late 2010, I was hurting bad and reason was because after 5 years and her constantly telling me she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me, even to go so far as to setting up for our families to meet.... One day she switched and she pretty much left me cold. 3 months later she was engaged and getting married to another guy.

Physical things can be taken away but thoughts can be a b*tch to dismiss. Fight through it and you'll be alright.

 

[Cazam]

Texting you "**** you" when you've done nothing is just her creating drama.

Well i did something and that something was nothing, just ingnoring. It is almost comical how that messes with her.
But i also know i shouldnt let my ego get involved.

 

[Dash Riprock]

Good job OP on going and staying NC. Yes, it does mess with most of them, "How can he NOT want me now????" But as @AttackFormation said, it's probably (90%) her needing validation. 10% of the time they DO realize they f*ucked up. It does happen. Still, keep your pride and dignity intact and stay NC.

Look us up if you feel weak.

Good luck.

 

[ohrein]

Just remind yourself of the bad times. Remember the way she treated you at her worst. That's the real her.

 

[Glassguy]

Her (after you ignored her validation seeking attempt): "Fvck you"

Me: "Hiya. Let me check with my new women and see if they dont care. Sit tight and I'll let you know."

Me (literally a minute later): "sorry. They dont want to share. But good luck."

Also me: resume no contact and spin plates after that last text back to her.

 

[In2theGame]

Silence is often the biggest killer for Women. If she keeps texting you, just ignore. A Woman will damn near cut her wrist if she is ignored.

Off topic: Imagine if all social media shut down lol Women will start a world war and prescription drugs for depression would skyrocket. They NEED attention and validation more than oxygen.

 

[Cazam]

Man i am getting really angry right now.
What does she think who she is to start contact and then get angry when i ignore.
I dont want to be angry or anything i just wanna be neutral and detached from that thing.
She really hurt me and doesnt get it and then gets in contact as if nothing happened.
They are crazy...

 

[AttackFormation]

Remember, It doesnt matter what gifts you throw out, What pictures you tore up or how many things of hers you got rid of. One thing you will not immediately get rid of is thoughts of her and the emotional attachment that lingers for that girl. That's going to take some time. Every guy goes through it at one point or another, some worse than others. Take me for example, My old threads back in late 2010, I was hurting bad and reason was because after 5 years and her constantly telling me she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me, even to go so far as to setting up for our families to meet.... One day she switched and she pretty much left me cold. 3 months later she was engaged and getting married to another guy.

Wow..... I wonder if I'd even be able to process that. That must have just left your mind blank...

 

[Cazam]

Wow..... I wonder if I'd even be able to process that. That must have just left your mind blank...

Yeah thats so ****ed up ...
They still married ?