Girlfriend not as hot on sex.

[Jay25]

A few times she has denied me

Last night she was texting me horny **** and tells me I better not *** that she will make me *** later, she then never mentions it again and she doesn’t message me back for 4 hours.

How can I assure this doesn’t happen again.

Right now I’m just being subdued wifh her, not
Much affection, she is very sexual but I don’t want to be rejected again.

 

[Jay25]

Should I call her out on it? Then go cold till she tries to get some or deny her next time

 

[Ranger]

I have some ideas but no evidence. Just some past experiences. They can’t difinitively be proven.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Start fcking other women and checking out other women in front of her. She'll soon change her tone.

 

[Jay25]

Start fcking other women and checking out other women in front of her. She'll soon change her tone.

So don’t even say a word act unphased, I told her I found some old pics of me she begged to see of course one was with a hot chick who was thinner than her that can’t hurt

 

[Jay25]

Should I stop bringing up sex period, I called her out the night it happened and been pretty cold since then not giving her emotions

 

[Ranger]

Same.

On the more innocuous side...maybe she just masturbated and now isn't horny.

LMAO

 

[marmel75]

Are there other guys in the picture? She might be going with the flavor of the day.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Don't bring it up again. If this lasts anything longer than a few days or a week, something's up; another guy in the background, or she may just be losing interest generally. It happens, and sex is usually the first thing to suffer.

I had one ex who didn't like period sex, but that never lasted longer than a few days. Another used to withhold for anything up to a couple of weeks, but had untold issues going down. Other than those, I generally don't date girls who have low sex drive or are obstructive. As we say, if she's suddenly turned off for longer than a few days, there's something going on.

 

[Jay25]

Don't bring it up again. If this lasts anything longer than a few days or a week, something's up; another guy in the background, or she may just be losing interest generally. It happens, and sex is usually the first thing to suffer.

I had one ex who didn't like period sex, but that never lasted longer than a few days. Another used to withhold for anything up to a couple of weeks, but had untold issues going down. Other than those, I generally don't date girls who have low sex drive or are obstructive. As we say, if she's suddenly turned off for longer than a few days, there's something going on.

She was receptive all day when I was texting but then just kind of just stopped, I just don

Don't bring it up again. If this lasts anything longer than a few days or a week, something's up; another guy in the background, or she may just be losing interest generally. It happens, and sex is usually the first thing to suffer.

I had one ex who didn't like period sex, but that never lasted longer than a few days. Another used to withhold for anything up to a couple of weeks, but had untold issues going down. Other than those, I generally don't date girls who have low sex drive or are obstructive. As we say, if she's suddenly turned off for longer than a few days, there's something going on.

Does it make sense to back off in general for awhile, right now I’m being more cold towards her

 

[highSpeed]

Don't bring it up again. If this lasts anything longer than a few days or a week, something's up; another guy in the background, or she may just be losing interest generally. It happens, and sex is usually the first thing to suffer.

I had one ex who didn't like period sex, but that never lasted longer than a few days. Another used to withhold for anything up to a couple of weeks, but had untold issues going down. Other than those, I generally don't date girls who have low sex drive or are obstructive. As we say, if she's suddenly turned off for longer than a few days, there's something going on.

Tough to not bring up if you're in any sort of a serious relationship though. If you're married or have kids, you essentially can get locked out by someone, unless of course you're willing to go out and cheat. That has it's own perils though, as if you get busted, that's going to end even worse than if you had simply walked out. I think this should have some bearing in family court, I think that would cool down as far as women initiating divorce way more often than men.

If you're not in a serious relationship or marriage? I'd let it sit for a little bit, but if it doesn't clear up in a hurry on it's own, I'm walking. I'm not going to fight with her, nag her or anything else. I may bring it up once or twice as a statement to let her know I'm aware and she should know I'm aware but no more than that. We get to the point where I want to bring it up a third time? I'm out and she's gone.

 

[Jay25]

Tough to not bring up if you're in any sort of a serious relationship though. If you're married or have kids, you essentially can get locked out by someone, unless of course you're willing to go out and cheat. That has it's own perils though, as if you get busted, that's going to end even worse than if you had simply walked out. I think this should have some bearing in family court, I think that would cool down as far as women initiating divorce way more often than men.

If you're not in a serious relationship or marriage? I'd let it sit for a little bit, but if it doesn't clear up in a hurry on it's own, I'm walking. I'm not going to fight with her, nag her or anything else. I may bring it up once or twice as a statement to let her know I'm aware and she should know I'm aware but no more than that. We get to the point where I want to bring it up a third time? I'm out and she's gone.

It’s been 11 months so quite awhile

I’ve basically gone cold, I’m not putting in any effort

 

[ohrein]

Should I call her out on it?

I'm not going to fight with her, nag her or anything else. I may bring it up once or twice as a statement to let her know I'm aware and she should know I'm aware but no more than that.

You can not negotiate desire. Lack of desire is a bad sign and you should covertly put in place some methods to increase it. Start going out with friends, flirting with other women, get some new clothes, hit the gym more. It's much harder to desire something you already have and so that desire must come from a subconscious feeling that you could lose that thing. This is why dutiful beta men are victims of dead bedrooms. But any attempt to negotiate sex will at best result in obligation sex and never genuine sexual interest. Maintaining a relationship requires genuine sexual interest.

It’s been 11 months so quite awhile

11 months?! Do you guys live together? That's unacceptable in a relationship. But keeping score isn't as important as constant upkeep of desire and dread. Even putting in no effort isn't necessarily enough because if you cave again at the first chance you get then the frame just resets to oh he's still just there. At 11 months I'd be cutting your losses and finding a new woman.

 

[Dingo]

11 months no sex ?!

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

She was receptive all day when I was texting but then just kind of just stopped, I just don



Does it make sense to back off in general for awhile, right now I’m being more cold towards her

She is obviously acting out of the ordinary for you to bring it up. Don't be cold, because that's just butt hurt. Make yourself unavailable.

Escalate physically, not verbally. Try a couple more times, and if she continues to reject, have the 'this isn't working for me anymore' chat. Don't cause a scene or make a song and dance about it. Just go on your way.

Nowadays, whenever there's something up, I just distance myself immediately, if it's semi-serious relationahip anyway. I don't have time for being messed around.

Trust your gut instinct. If you think there is something weird going on, there almost certainly is.

 

[Ranger]

If she wants to talk to you she will. Until then move on.

 

[Jay25]

MonkeyKing

I don’t think there’s something weird I just think she feels too secure and sometimes she has ****ty behavior, taking awhile to text back, feel taking for granted, hot and cold

 

[Jay25]

If she wants to talk to you she will. Until then move on.

The next day she was trying to be all cute and I just was pretty non chalant about it all

 

[Ranger]

The next day she was trying to be all cute and I just was pretty non chalant about it all

Dismiss her. And mean it. Make sure she gets it. No anger. No emotion. As if she’s a shrub on the street. Think of her like a street slut trying to proposition you.

 

[Jay25]

Dismiss her. And mean it. Make sure she gets it. No anger. No emotion. As if she’s a shrub on the street. Think of her like a street slut trying to proposition you.

How long do I keep it up for