Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Male strippers ROUTINELY buy their pants too big to have them tailored for PERFECT fit. Tailoring of suit or pants produces highest quality results. Go for it.
Even brand new can be tailored for a much more perfect fit. Mem whose livelyhoods depend on an ultimate appearance have their clothes tailored.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I do not think they do old pants and jeans, only new stuff. I trimmed down now over 20 pounds, so a lot had to be taken in. Some shirts I am still able to wear, like t-shirts, but polos and button downs no go. I had to argue with my boss to give me new company shirts as the XL shirts the city gave me are just too big. Amazed that I fit into a adult medium. I usually shop at Kohls or TJ Maxx. I can't really afford the expensive name brands unless they are on clearance sale. That was why I wanted to save these. Christ, I just bought them over the last year. I stick with solid colors nothing really trendy so I do not have to replace my clothes too often. This Mtailor seems a bit pricey when compared to Kohls or TJ Maxx.
I understand, but I cannot buy new clothes every few months. The pants and jeans fit nicely now. Good enough for me. I needed to buy new shirts though. Wasn't worth tailoring them at 15 bucks a pop.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You did good! I got a couple pants need to be taken down.