"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Wardrobe thread

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Square toes are ugly and there is a lot of revulsion against them in the fashion world.


@BeExcellent mentioned the miami vice influence this summer, and although summer is nearly over, there's still time for these outfits:

https://www.fashionbeans.com/article/best-hawaiian-shirts-men/
https://www.fashionbeans.com/2017/classic-summer-pieces-that-should-be-in-every-mans-wardrobe/



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So its basically a hawain shirt, (it doesn't have to be a loud one) and some smart shorts or chino shorts. Then some white canvas/ stan smiths type sneakers.

If its getting cold where you are or you are out in the evening, whack on a blazer over the shirt and some full length chinos. Make sure the colours don't clash.
 

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Fashion is important, but you dont need to be excessive. I believe a man that holds himself to high standards will cause his woman to mirror that behavior. I rarely leave the house looking like a slob, and 8f I do, its usually gym clothes. If I am going somewhere afterwards, I will bring a change of clothes.

I noticed this has a profound impact on women as well. They want to be the better looking person and they should be. By holding myself to a certain level, they will mirror my behavior and get themselves ready. And I'm not talking like this takes a lot of effort or time, it is merely the choices you make for clothing and bathing.

When I first started dating my girl, she would roll out in gym clothes or floppy pants and a tshirt. She sees me and is like... "your dressed so nice " in other words, not a slob. Now, she always takes the time to look good for me because she sees that I like to present myself well.

It doesn't take much effort to look sharp, so just take a couple extra minutes to distinguish yourself from everyone else.
 

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Fashion is important, but you dont need to be excessive. I believe a man that holds himself to high standards will cause his woman to mirror that behavior. I rarely leave the house looking like a slob, and 8f I do, its usually gym clothes. If I am going somewhere afterwards, I will bring a change of clothes.

I noticed this has a profound impact on women as well. They want to be the better looking person and they should be. By holding myself to a certain level, they will mirror my behavior and get themselves ready. And I'm not talking like this takes a lot of effort or time, it is merely the choices you make for clothing and bathing.

When I first started dating my girl, she would roll out in gym clothes or floppy pants and a tshirt. She sees me and is like... "your dressed so nice " in other words, not a slob. Now, she always takes the time to look good for me because she sees that I like to present myself well.

It doesn't take much effort to look sharp, so just take a couple extra minutes to distinguish yourself from everyone else.
Absolutely. I like how you put it, a man that holds himself to a high standard....your clothes are an extension of yourself. If you want to be perceived as a confident, high value type of person, you not only act/behave that way, but you must also dress the part. You have to dress/groom yourself in a way where it shows that you spent some time and take pride in your appearance.

You go out looking like a little boy, you'll get little boy results.

I have to wear dress pants & dress shirts for work. I met up with a female friend of mine recently (she's used to the jeans & t shirt version of me) I met up with her in my work clothes, she saw me, nodded her head and was like "wow, I didn't even recognize you at first". So it does matter and can make an impression.
 

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If you are anywhere from 20 to 35 you should definitely watch Alex costa on YouTube. Best fashion channel out there
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If you are anywhere from 20 to 35 you should definitely watch Alex costa on YouTube. Best fashion channel out there
Never heard of him until you mentioned him. I checked out his channel and saw a little of one video - seems like he does give pretty good suggestions for guys out there.
 
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