"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Unplanned night out...

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I was heading home from working and decided to stop in a bar at 12:30am, they close at 2am.

First, I saw that things might be easier if I could dance. I saw the guys that were dancing and they weren't doing anything special. Basically just standing there. Dancing is a stupid creation of females that has no actual value.

Also, I should drive my Lambo every time I go out. No reason not to. I ended up just sitting outside because it was too crowded outside.

I saw the guys that some of the "hotter" girls were with and I don't even understand their appeal. They look like normal people. They were just playing beer pong. Not exactly fun to me at this point in my life. Maybe they're all just young.

Also, I'll repeat for the millionth time... Females have such ridiculously delusional opinions of their own worth. It's almost to the point where I wish someone would drop a nuclear bomb on this place.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Each time you got the urge to whack or "nuke" any women, always repeat this mantra; I am the guy with the Lambo, the uber tough-ness who has succeeded being in jail and mental health institutions, who r they but undeserving minions that's beneath my glorious perfection of a man !

That should calm you down a notch or 2..
 
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Each time you got the urge to whack or "nuke" any women, always repeat this mantra; I am the guy with the Lambo, the uber tough-ness who has succeeded being in jail and mental health institutions, who r they but undeserving minions that's beneath my glorious perfection of a man !

That should calm you down a notch or 2..
Everything you say is stupid. I have you on ignore, but I click "Show Ignored Content" sometimes.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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and banned again, serious does he ever learn?
 

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and banned again, serious does he ever learn?
and banned again, serious does he ever learn?
It appears that he never learns on any level whether it be the advice he has been given on her in attempts to help him socialize with the ladies or how to keep his aggressive behavior at bay.
 

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Any idea why he's banned?
name calling again? he should have posted more then just here

we can't even call him jaded by bad experiences, he is just too hatefull, he want to use resources to look like he is living the dream, but he is empty, he force himself to go to places he don't like, he think he deserve something, but is incapable of work for it, he want shortcuts, when there is none, serious if he want to use resources to get laid go for hookers far cheaper, he could even choose one kind of girl each day for a long time over that lambo, he need to let go a lot of things one of this is his ego
 

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name calling again? he should have posted more then just here

we can't even call him jaded by bad experiences, he is just too hatefull, he want to use resources to look like he is living the dream, but he is empty, he force himself to go to places he don't like, he think he deserve something, but is incapable of work for it, he want shortcuts, when there is none, serious if he want to use resources to get laid go for hookers far cheaper, he could even choose one kind of girl each day for a long time over that lambo, he need to let go a lot of things one of this is his ego
I told him his inner game was weak, and his reply was "why would you think that?"
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Sneaking feeling that he has the propensity towards voilence against women or basically people whom he finds weaker and beneath him.

I hope that's not the case.
 

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Usually when someone gets banned, they just come back and quickly get banned again. It makes you wonder how likely it is that people ever really change? Not just people who get banned, but everyone on SoSuave who try to change themselves for the better.

A lot of the self improvement stuff that goes on here could be looked at as being part of the maturing process. And some people mature later than others. I do think people can change, but I wonder just how many really do?
 

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Usually when someone gets banned, they just come back and quickly get banned again. It makes you wonder how likely it is that people ever really change? Not just people who get banned, but everyone on SoSuave who try to change themselves for the better.

A lot of the self improvement stuff that goes on here could be looked at as being part of the maturing process. And some people mature later than others. I do think people can change, but I wonder just how many really do?
People can change and do change, but they must 1st destroy themselves; their "old" self and build anew into something better.

The old frame needs to be shed and a new frame put into place.

Which is why it's extremely hard and many failed to understand this.
 

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They look like normal people.
they are... and I bet the girls with them were giggling, laughing and having fun.
this is why girls are attracted to normal guys.
girls like to laugh, have fun and be stimulated emotionally (fun, something new.different, adventure, stimulating and uncommon conversation)

btw: 20yo is still at my place... so how does a 52yo with bald head, floppy arm and a 2002 Golf get her?
And I know 100% your Lambo with turn her head, but shes sucking mine and continues after you drive off... alone.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Usually when someone gets banned, they just come back and quickly get banned again. It makes you wonder how likely it is that people ever really change? Not just people who get banned, but everyone on SoSuave who try to change themselves for the better.

A lot of the self improvement stuff that goes on here could be looked at as being part of the maturing process. And some people mature later than others. I do think people can change, but I wonder just how many really do?
I've been banned on websites then come back under a new name/account and kept the new account going for years

I simply stopped doing the stuff that got me banned in the first place

That's the thing that trips most people up. Here most people get banned because they refuse to learn from their mistakes, that's why everyone i can think of who got banned is some measure of prideful and pig headed (poon king, play her man, urbanyst, tenacity, bigneil, etc.) None of which strike me as the kinds of people who'd admit they were wrong and simply behave differently.
 

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First, I saw that things might be easier if I could dance. I saw the guys that were dancing and they weren't doing anything special. Basically just standing there. Dancing is a stupid creation of females that has no actual value.
I saw the guys that some of the "hotter" girls were with and I don't even understand their appeal. They look like normal people. They were just playing beer pong. Not exactly fun to me at this point in my life. Maybe they're all just young.
Angrily scowling in the corner isn't the way to pickup girls unless your target demographic of women is twilight fans.

Most women like to have fun and don't want a guy who is overly serious and tense.
 

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Angrily scowling in the corner isn't the way to pickup girls unless your target demographic of women is twilight fans.

Most women like to have fun and don't want a guy who is overly serious and tense.
Exactly.

Chill, fun, cool yet indifferent to the outcome will get you laid.

Hatred toward women and gaming them will not. Thus why he had to get hookers.

And he didnt want to spend the time and energy developing his mind into a stronger, more fun and chill frame. It's sad really. But at least he has that Lambo and Bionic d*ck.

Just the facts.
 
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