Met 21 Year Old from Facebook - Is she playing games or just not interested?

[Misterchaos]

Wow...

 

[AJ84]

Sorry I didn't even realize you were a female. I gotta admit when I'm wrong so I'll do that now, my apologies. So I'll update on this situation which basically went to shvt lol I'm just really trying to figure this scenario out as I've had similar experiences with girls in the past. Was she really not interested at all or was this some kind of game? A lot of times if a girl isn't interested they just ghost or will tell you via text or something. In this scenario I felt we had a good date and she even said in her texts to me she thought we hit it off. But she definitely became distant after we met. In hindsight its obvious to think I should have been more direct in just asking her out again

So now I'll admit I went AFC butt hurt on her lol After that last text I posted above where she was trying to tell me what I was supposed to text her in ways of an apology I ended up texting her like 7 hours later at night not even acknowledging what she said. This was in the evening close to 9pm

Me: You free to talk in an hour?

Well she didn't respond at all... a few hours later I saw she was active on her Facebook messenger so I sent her a message there
Me: Peace lol
2 minutes later on Facebook messenger
Her: Peace?

I then send a follow up text to her phone saying something about her medical condition causing her to play games (low blow I know)

So I ended up going to bed and then i see 3 text responses on my phone close to 1am in the morning from her

Her: Yeah!
Her: And if by chance I don't answer I'm picking up the dog from my parents
Her: What?

So basically what I think is she tried to make it like she responded to my texts earlier and they just came in later... but I'm not buying it... I think she was trying to save face

I responded later that day with "What do you mean what" and she didn't respond back. That night I sent her a final text 'you're an idiot"

So that was the end of that. So again I'm just trying to figure out what the deal here was... Like I said I thought our first meeting went well and we kissed and everything but she seemed to be coy afterwards. While I agree a lot of girls with high IL like the fat chick I made out with who texted me randomly throughout the week will reach out is it normal for hotter girls to play coy like this? I mean isn't this what they call a shvt test? If so I sadly have not figured out how to pass these yet.

I'm going to be frank, you came off as weird plan and simple. If someone does not seem interested, don't continue to text them and try to put them in a position where they have it explain why they are not interested. All that does is justify and confirm in their mind why they are not interested.

She wasn't sh*t testing you, you were sh*t testing her.

If you have a date again with another girl that goes well but she seems to back off don't repeat that please don't lol for your own sake. Just leave it and continue to meet other girls and if she reaches out great if not oh well. I think that's the attitude you need to have.

 

[MrWood]

first date report... Rayja take notes:

49yo HB8 (*milf to the max) Russian, met on OLD. Minimal texting
Date Monday 4pm. Takes 45 minutes to drive (i leave at 3), she text at 3:45 asking if I can come at 5, I tell her no im not waiting an hour, shes ready at 4:20
has a friend... bleh. Sees my floppy arm (no warning her), seems put off at first cuz shes very sporty.
I tell her if we go out again she is to be on time, she said sorry and it wont happen again
Girls want to see town, friends first time in Helsinki. We start in my car and I suggest a waterway tour to my part of town and coffee.
Put them in my dirty Golf, start driving... start conversation, she is wearing short skirt and 3/4 tshirt. As I drive we talk, I make a point of touching her arm on and off
I raise my sunglasses to see her eyes, she mirrors this several times. I touch her leg lightly, her knee, on and off as if its natural... she leans in more to get closer as she talks
I brush her hair from face, she makes biting and growling noises... she preens, smiles and flutters her eyes
We get out to walk, I put my arm around the waist, hand on her hip bone and guide her to the sidewalk, close car door.
She reaches for my hand and we walk holding hands to cafe.
Order wine and coffee..
I tease her friend abit *kiss her cheek and ear cuz shes getting no attention.., compliment them both on their looks, I sit so i have reach access to my date... play with her bare legs, knees
A few looks from her are with "i want to fvck you eyes", I tell her looking at me like that is very dangerous
Walk on the beach, she has her arms around me, holding hands, touching my neck...
Car ride back 8pm, she cant keep her hands off me... i lean in and bite her ear and say:
"i will make your lips giggle and nipples scream with joy"
her: "ohhh you know how to do that?"
drop her and friend off in the middle of town, get a "first date peck" which from her is the "i want to wait to kiss and fvck you" kiss

did she have initial interest, yes
could I have fvcked that up? yes
how? by being insecure and caught in her beauty/status

every time I pulled away, even though she was ok with the touches
every time I went more sexual in touch, I backed off after a moment
eventually SHE was the one reaching for me, HER wanting my hand, HER reaching her arm around me

so this is technically a bad first date... she is late and brings a friend

so how and why was I successful Rayja?

 

[Reyaj]

so I recently found out this girl has had a boyfriend the whole time.. lol

 

[claudolfgeorgini]

so I recently found out this girl has had a boyfriend the whole time.. lol

She was probably trying to get something from you the entire time.

Did you promise her anything? I see in one of the posts you mentioned something about a business idea?

 

[MrWood]

my recent 20yo seems to want nothing from me, except fun and new experiences... hmmph*

*your mileage may vary

 

[apotheosis]

I started talking to this girl on Facebook just from randomly messaging her. We traded a few messages back and forth

So I end up meeting this girl on Tuesday at a cafe/restaurant.

How does this work?
What did you write to her exactly? I want to try it for myself.
I always assume girls think it's weird to get messages from randoms on facebook.
I've tried a few times but always blocked or iignored.
I can't believe you managed to actually meet up with a random girl on facebook. I'm jelly
There's so so many STUNNING girls who live near me who I see on facebook. I'm tempted to start trying my luck againand messageing random young beauties!
So in for tips!

 

[Reyaj]

She was probably trying to get something from you the entire time.

Did you promise her anything? I see in one of the posts you mentioned something about a business idea?

I thought this was possible at first but she never mentioned anything about it and I genuinely have good phone game so I know I got her IL up. I think she had buyers remorse or some bs who knows. I messaged like a few weeks ago and I said I'd call her from my new # but I haven't. Her responses were major delayed anyway so her IL is low and I saw her boyfriend's page who she had the whole time (I called her out about this jokingly afterwards and I think that might have further pushed her away). Anyway I might call her out of the blue or text her one day. I'll log the results here.

How does this work?
What did you write to her exactly? I want to try it for myself.
I always assume girls think it's weird to get messages from randoms on facebook.
I've tried a few times but always blocked or iignored.
I can't believe you managed to actually meet up with a random girl on facebook. I'm jelly
There's so so many STUNNING girls who live near me who I see on facebook. I'm tempted to start trying my luck againand messageing random young beauties!
So in for tips!

Its not easy and most are cynical you are right. I happen to have a lot of female friends on mine so sometimes that helps. But its still difficult man... I probably bat 300 as far as getting responses and those that respond I can get about 1/3 of them interested. Its a numbers game just like the whole game is itself.

 

[Reyaj]

I pvssied out... I texted her from my # and she called and I didn't answer thinking she'd be turned off it was me and felt awkward. I started playing text games with her.... I'm drinking tonight maybe I'll do it in my drunk state later.

 

[Reyaj]

I recently had another date where the girl was lukewarm.. she never texted me after, even after I followed up saying I just wanted to make sure she got home ok (she was drinking). I confirmed the ho was alive though.

 

[marmel75]

You showed you are a simp. Game over.