What low IL dating looks like

[resilient]

I read this meme today online. It looks like it's been circulating around in recent years, but this was the first time I read it... still funny. I had to share with DJ brothers who are currently struggling with plate spinning or with plates that are giving off mixed signals, push/pull, or straight up low IL:

"Let's be friends, just friends. I'm not ready for a relationship but I expect you to do things with me considered inappropriate in terms of a friendship. We're not together, you can't claim me, you can't be with anyone but me. I need you to be loyal but I'll do what I want and when you get mad, I'll tell you we're not together. If you catch feelings, I'll become distant. You knew what this was... I told you, I'm not ready for a relationship."

One of the personal lessons I learned this summer is don't friend them on your socials. It usually doesn't end well if neither are serious or reached exclusivity yet.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Not sure the point.

Cucks and betas beg for female attention. They then marry cratered SMV. They reformed virgin because this makes sense when pushing forty and her best years are done.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Not sure the point.

Cucks and betas beg for female attention. They then marry cratered SMV. They reformed virgin because this makes sense when pushing forty and her best years are done.

So she trained to be a piece of shyt for relationships all these years and now she wants to grab a supportive and together beta male to fvck his life up?

 

[resilient]

So she trained to be a piece of shyt for relationships all these years and now she wants to grab a supportive and together beta male to fvck his life up?

I know right? I just can't imagine women who ride the carousel or AW their way through dating for years via social media and dating sites/apps... dropping dudes left and right when they catch feels are going to have a long and successful relationship with a near perfect guy after never investing in a relationship.

I figure the higher the SMV the guy she lands, the higher the chance she has of him using her for pump & dump when he loses interest. That's the thing about karma... it always finds a way of coming back around.

I wish this toxic trend would change in dating in terms of entitlement spoiling attitudes, yet I feel the only thing we can do is screen better, watch behavior closely for reciprocity in building a solid LTR that isn't heavily skewed one way or the other.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I read this meme today online. It looks like it's been circulating around in recent years, but this was the first time I read it... still funny. I had to share with DJ brothers who are currently struggling with plate spinning or with plates that are giving off mixed signals, push/pull, or straight up low IL:

"Let's be friends, just friends. I'm not ready for a relationship but I expect you to do things with me considered inappropriate in terms of a friendship. We're not together, you can't claim me, you can't be with anyone but me. I need you to be loyal but I'll do what I want and when you get mad, I'll tell you we're not together. If you catch feelings, I'll become distant. You knew what this was... I told you, I'm not ready for a relationship."

One of the personal lessons I learned this summer is don't friend them on your socials. It usually doesn't end well if neither are serious or reached exclusivity yet.

This "not ready for a relationship.... But maybe.... " All that bs is so 2018.

What it means is I "like" you and your a great guy, but I'm not done hoeing around.

You can stand in position as backup while I live my life. I need you to take care of me, spoil me, but you don't own me.

Shell give you occasional crumbs while getting dyck down by the guys wize enough not to help her, pu.p and dump and ignore .

 

[resilient]

After making a plate a main plate last year and once again this summer too early in the courting phase without fair evaluation of behavior... I learned an important lesson in dating and advice I picked up oddly from the late Maya Angelou:

“Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.”

To fix that moving forward, I would like to see a woman invest more in building something with me. As we often say here, women are the gatekeepers to sex while men are the gatekeepers to relationship. If she's not a good soldier, hasn't invested in a LTR, disrespectful, dishonest, deceptive, not trustworthy; she's demoted to plate rotation.

The trick is not giving into or giving away power amidst the lovebombing. See through things more carefully, you know?

 

[nismo-4]

Second place is still first loser.