"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Vladimir Putins Reaction To Man Hugs!
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
soulforge
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A firm handshake is perfectly fine with me.. Don't feel the need to be putting my arms around another dude!
However i notice, the man hug thing and hugging in general between men and woman in the workplace is definitely on the rise.
wifehunter
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
soulforge
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I think Vladimir Putin, has some guts to react in the way he did.
Most world leaders, would PLAY BALL from fear of accusations of being homophobic.
wifehunter
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The look on his face is pricless!
soulforge
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I give zero fuks about what Ukraine thinks.. I'm giving Putin some credit for THIS particular video, regarding, MAN HUGS.
No need to dig up Ukraine, that subject matter is totally unrelated..no point in getting all touchy about things bruv.
wifehunter
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I can relate to Putin, we share the same personality type. INTJ
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Serenity
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Not really, takes no guts at all. It's common knowledge that Putin is very homophobic, his reaction shouldn't come as a shock to anyone.
soulforge
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I reckon me and wifehunter, would react the same way.
I would defo AVOID man hugs, and extend my arm out for a hand shake instead.
Maybe we are homophobic
Does that include fat women too
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
wifehunter
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homowat? I'm just not into guys.
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On the other hand, nothing wrong with hugging a friend who's close to you, male or female. I don't hug male friends often but I see nothing wrong with it. Usually side-hug rather than front on, though.
I think the people who get all squeamish about hugging another man are usually the ones most likely to be repressing the fact they're gay, ha...
I'm confident that vaginas are my thing so it doesn't make me feel awkward. As long as you don't have a raging hard on there's absolutely nothing "gay" with giving a mate a casual hug/back pat, especially if they're depressed about something or feeling a bit s**t.
I think in appropriate context, hugs can communicate a friendly camaraderie that just chatting or shaking hands can't.
In a romantic context, they're also an excellent way to build early physical rapport with a woman and show confidence. But those hugs feel very different to the quick friend-hugs you'd share with a bro.
If some of u r into bromance that's fine too but it ain't for me nor would I encourage feminine traits.