"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Women discuss hypergamy as a normal dating strategy, but also that it has consequences

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I didn't realize "trading up" was so far in the conscious minds of women. Straight from the horses mouth. Prepare accordingly, gentlemen.
They were very responsible, looked more attractive as they spoke. I was thinking they would be patting women on the backs for tearing through men.
 

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Just the mindset of women. They always want better! Nothings ever good enough.
At least those two admitted it's a poor strategy. You see the men figure out what you do and no self respecting man would try to support such a female. He'd fvck and protect his wallet.
 

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Really sharp girls for being quite young. I agree with about everything they said. The Netflix and Chill/swipe left swipe right/FWB/NSA culture has destroyed monogamy and even traditional marriage. There was a time when a man and woman actually tried to make a relationship work, but finding an appropriate partner now is almost nil. Quite sad and kind of depressing.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I would refer everyone to rollos “the pet” post on his blog.
 

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Can someone put up the link to the video.... For some reason I cannot watch.
 

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They were very responsible, looked more attractive as they spoke.
Isn't it amazing how attitude/frame influences looks? Almost magical!:D
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Monogamy has been going down hill for decades, POF and Tinder just helped it slide along further, I don't it was the catalyst
 

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Really sharp girls for being quite young. I agree with about everything they said. The Netflix and Chill/swipe left swipe right/FWB/NSA culture has destroyed monogamy and even traditional marriage. There was a time when a man and woman actually tried to make a relationship work, but finding an appropriate partner now is almost nil. Quite sad and kind of depressing.
I heard this saying the other day, I thought it had some truth to it, although the atheists might find it offensive, or idiotic, or whatever:
"When they took God out of the classroom, the devil went in".
You could apply that to the country as well.
 

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I was watching a documentary on Buddy Holly last night. Bear in mind this was the 1950s. He saw a girl he had barely met and asked her on a date. During the date, he handed her a rose and asked her to marry him. The next day he asked permission from her aunt, and informed his family. Two months later they were married.

It struck me that with asking this girl to marry him (practically on first sight), that his odds of success were better in the 50s, than a man living today who does everything in his power to fully screen and vet a potential mate.

Unfortunately of course, they were only married six months before Holly was killed in a plane crash on February 3, 1959.
 

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^^ You'd ALWAYS go to the father or keeper of the gal of your affection and ask for permission to marry her. This is practice from beyond memory, certainly from the books I've read of late (about 12, 400 to 500 pages each on historical fictional romance). 1500s (back in England), 1600s (in the colonies set up in Virginia, North Carolina, etc), 1700s (native-born Americans), 1800s (Civil War and new inventions), 1900s (substantial advancements in tech) until the 1970s, 1980s. My parents married practically the exact same age as well as same month. It was common during their time and before for marriage straight out of high school, people chose and people just went with it Quick. Not much pickiness just realization among many that we don't Live Forever and we don't never not Age.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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'Trading up' was literally unthinkable a generation or so ago. The common paradigm was marriage... or spinsterhood.:D
 

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I was watching a documentary on Buddy Holly last night. Bear in mind this was the 1950s. He saw a girl he had barely met and asked her on a date. During the date, he handed her a rose and asked her to marry him. The next day he asked permission from her aunt, and informed his family. Two months later they were married.

It struck me that with asking this girl to marry him (practically on first sight), that his odds of success were better in the 50s, than a man living today who does everything in his power to fully screen and vet a potential mate.

Unfortunately of course, they were only married six months before Holly was killed in a plane crash on February 3, 1959.
Well you had to marry for sex. This effectively forced people together at a young age. Ideally, they would grow and develop together in a new family unit.

But today sex is so 'normalized' that it requires no sanction such as marriage. It's become almost as banal as brushing your teeth. :D
 
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I was watching a documentary on Buddy Holly last night. Bear in mind this was the 1950s. He saw a girl he had barely met and asked her on a date. During the date, he handed her a rose and asked her to marry him. The next day he asked permission from her aunt, and informed his family. Two months later they were married.

It struck me that with asking this girl to marry him (practically on first sight), that his odds of success were better in the 50s, than a man living today who does everything in his power to fully screen and vet a potential mate.

Unfortunately of course, they were only married six months before Holly was killed in a plane crash on February 3, 1959.
I wonder what caused things to change so much in under 3 generations.
 

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so get high musculature and good job then pump and dump girls who think they are securing a good catch - hypergamy is not that bad
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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