Can I trust her? Red Flags vs Green Flags

[wubzzz]

I'm questioning if I should continue to be in a relationship with my gf of 4 months, we're both 22 year old students.

Let's start with the good. When we met at a music festival she had an attraction level in the 70-80 range(Couldn't keep her hands off me / got jealous when I made small talk with a different girl / we also had sex the first night). After 6 months of knowing her we've been to Vegas, Miami, New Orleans and backpacked throughout Europe. She even spent $1000 on my plane ticket just to go to Europe with her. She's a hard worker and I've also met her parents and realized she grew up in a loving household. Long story short, the relationship long is great when it's just her and I.

After we became exclusive when we're hanging out with other people, she used to make sexual jokes with my buds and even drunkenly flashed her tits once when both of our friends were in the room. I made it a point that if she ever did that again we were done; she cried and apologized. That was 4 months ago and she hasn't crossed that boundary since. Throughout our relationship she's snooped through my phone twice and got upset when she found out I was dating other women before we became exclusive. Now she's insecure and constantly ask me if I'm cheating on her. I assure her she's the only woman in my life...yadayada. When we're away from each other she'll send me nudes through snapchat, wanting my attention 24/7. The problem I have is she snapchats other guys as well as a friend of mine who saw her tits when she was drunk. I know I'll sound beta if I tell her who she can and can't snap but in the back of my mind I'm wondering what they are sending to one another. Should I remain indifferent, confront her, or next?

 

[NSX-R]

You can't sound like a beta when you already a beta .

She flashed her boobs in your buddies. That's enough and I'm sure she still does this . Drunk ? What kind of excuse is this ? I'v been many times drunk and every single time i knew the limits even when i was wasted.

Neeeeeeext

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Oh my on the boobs flash

 

[Spaz]

She flashed her boobs in front of you to your buddies?

She knows she has you by the balls and knows you are clueless as fvck.

She'll continue to disrespect you until she finds a real man and then she'll leave you.

 

[BeExcellent]

Her behavior is not only disrespectful; its classless. If everything else is good, then give her the following statement:

"I consider you showing off your boobs as private and therefore I will take carte Blanche to go back to dating (and perhaps fvcking) other women. We can revisit being exclusive once I am confident you have appropriate boundaries concerning your body...at which point I will entertain the idea of having an exclusive relationship again."

That will blow everything up more than likely. In all my days I've never sent a nude...NEVER...not even to my ex husband when we were married...and I have never and would never flash my boobs or any other private lady bits...and I'm no prude.

She is not only disrespecting you; she is disrespecting herself. Do not reward her with exclusivity for crying out loud.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

It was a definite cut at your manhood (vampire). Maybe exclusitity gets removed and you bring her around as a ho3 your buddies can share .

 

[wubzzz]

Thanks for your inputs, I need to quit bull****ting myself

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Thanks for your inputs, I need to quit bull****ting myself

Sorry that's what it is . I'm sure she done got a bigger sip of blood behind your back.

 

[Spaz]

Don't confront. Remain indifferent and next.

 

[Trump]

The problem I have is she snapchats other guys as well as a friend of mine who saw her tits when she was drunk. I know I'll sound beta if I tell her who she can and can't snap but in the back of my mind I'm wondering what they are sending to one another. Should I remain indifferent, confront her, or next?

Yeah if you tell her who she can and can't snap, that's beta

Continuing to see her after she willingly got nude in front of your best pals, that's alpha!

 

[wifehunter]

Don't confront. Remain indifferent and next.

Yep.... disappear.

 

[skinnyguy]

If a woman doesn’t respect me, I’m out. It doesn’t affect me when this happens cause there are so many women out there who do respect me.

 

[lizardking82]

Met at concert -> meh.
Got jealous at first night -> controlling, insecure behaviour.
Had sex first night -> must be a fan of one night stands, probably has done before in considerable cases.

And you say this is the good part hahahahaha

And it is now a boundary to tell your girlfriend not to flash her tits in public? What?

And you care whether it looks beta to her or not. You caring how it looks is the biggest indicator of beta in you. You actually care what a woman thinks of your actions so you tailor them to look good and acceptable to her so you can get that puss in the end of the day.

This is not about her, this is about you. This chick makes for no girlfriend material and she has possible cheated on you already or will very soon.

 

[Aspire]

I'm questioning if I should continue to be in a relationship with my gf of 4 months, we're both 22 year old students.

Let's start with the good. When we met at a music festival she had an attraction level in the 70-80 range(Couldn't keep her hands off me / got jealous when I made small talk with a different girl / we also had sex the first night). After 6 months of knowing her we've been to Vegas, Miami, New Orleans and backpacked throughout Europe. She even spent $1000 on my plane ticket just to go to Europe with her. She's a hard worker and I've also met her parents and realized she grew up in a loving household. Long story short, the relationship long is great when it's just her and I.

After we became exclusive when we're hanging out with other people, she used to make sexual jokes with my buds and even drunkenly flashed her tits once when both of our friends were in the room. I made it a point that if she ever did that again we were done; she cried and apologized. That was 4 months ago and she hasn't crossed that boundary since. Throughout our relationship she's snooped through my phone twice and got upset when she found out I was dating other women before we became exclusive. Now she's insecure and constantly ask me if I'm cheating on her. I assure her she's the only woman in my life...yadayada. When we're away from each other she'll send me nudes through snapchat, wanting my attention 24/7. The problem I have is she snapchats other guys as well as a friend of mine who saw her tits when she was drunk. I know I'll sound beta if I tell her who she can and can't snap but in the back of my mind I'm wondering what they are sending to one another. Should I remain indifferent, confront her, or next?

She is insecure. Leaving her would be for your own good and her own good.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

You can't sound like a beta when you already a beta .

She flashed her boobs in your buddies. That's enough and I'm sure she still does this . Drunk ? What kind of excuse is this ? I'v been many times drunk and every single time i knew the limits even when i was wasted.

Neeeeeeext

+1

See,the whole consent jargon is for cratered smv, rep protection thereafter she runs through the football team and cry wolf. Alcohol is the scapegoat but if she killed someone drunk driving, she goes to jail.

She's not liable for being a *****. This is female logic.


Let's say she got drunk, naked, and ****ed your city block before cutting them into tiny pieces, and eating them like Hannibal lector.

Don, she goes to jail or gets the chair in the state of Texas.

You know that drill.

#nextset

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Met at concert -> meh.
Got jealous at first night -> controlling, insecure behaviour.
Had sex first night -> must be a fan of one night stands, probably has done before in considerable cases.

And you say this is the good part hahahahaha

And it is now a boundary to tell your girlfriend not to flash her tits in public? What?

And you care whether it looks beta to her or not. You caring how it looks is the biggest indicator of beta in you. You actually care what a woman thinks of your actions so you tailor them to look good and acceptable to her so you can get that puss in the end of the day.

This is not about her, this is about you. This chick makes for no girlfriend material and she has possible cheated on you already or will very soon.

In before

 

[greatsnake]

Where is the eject button when you need it? Lol