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[Igetit!]

I don't agree. The common complaint guys are stubborn about involves them wanting a specific babe but she's not interested enough .

Yep.

The most common piece of advice given on this forum when a guy starts to encounter difficulty with a girl is to "Next" her, which I totally, 100% disagree with. If a chick is obviously not interested,and mean to the point where she saying "No", or is being completely disrespectful.... then fine, next her. But other than that, I believe a guy to do everything within his power to try to make things work out with the girl........be it a new girl he's trying to date, or a girl he's already in a relationship with and they're having difficulties.

The reason I say that is because, if you run into a problem with a girl but don't know why the problem happened,and you just decide to move on to a new girl,eventually the same problem will show up with the next girl. That's why I think that nexting should be a last resort.....you should give your all,your 100% best.... and if things still don't work out, Then you can move on,knowing you did all you could do.


Because believe me.... The last thing you want to do is go through girl after girl, opportunity after opportunity, and have everything fall apart each time....FOR YEARS..... only to find out it was something easily you could have fixed. Because eventually, you going to meet a girl who you really really like, who you really really want things to work out with,and if you haven't learned anything from your past dating,you'll screw things up with her too,then you're REALLY going to kick yourself and be upset.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Yep.

The most common piece of advice given on this forum when a guy starts to encounter difficulty with a girl is to "Next" her, which I totally, 100% disagree with. If a chick is obviously not interested,and mean to the point where she saying "No", or is being completely disrespectful.... then fine, next her. But other than that, I believe a guy to do everything within his power to try to make things work out with the girl........be it a new girl he's trying to date, or a girl he's already in a relationship with and they're having difficulties.

The reason I say that is because, if you run into a problem with a girl but don't know why the problem happened,and you just decide to move on to a new girl,eventually the same problem will show up with the next girl. That's why I think that nexting should be a last resort.....you should give your all,your 100% best.... and if things still don't work out, Then you can move on,knowing you did all you could do.


Because believe me.... The last thing you want to do is go through girl after girl, opportunity after opportunity, and have everything fall apart each time....FOR YEARS..... only to find out it was something easily you could have fixed. Because eventually, you going to meet a girl who you really really like, who you really really want things to work out with,and if you haven't learned anything from your past dating,you'll screw things up with her too,then you're REALLY going to kick yourself and be upset.

It sounded like you where hitting bullseyes in 2009 with your responses.

But I disagree in doing everything that you can to make it work out . You see, your chasing, your already doing too much.

I believe a man should withdraw all attention and deal with other babes . Have sex, she's not your wife. Do things that add to your growth, pride and self respect . Don't respond to texts or call s unless it's about hooking up. You see most of these babes know the guy wants him and he probably won't leave so they use him as a validator. Remove the validation.

Perhaps she may become interested, but maybe she won't and you move on.

No more free attention unless it's a actual friend and they do it for you.

I think most of the guys will be surprised when he starts ignoring her and takes good care of himself by having sex with another that he will find that strangely that same babe wants him.

 

[Roober]

Yep.

The most common piece of advice given on this forum when a guy starts to encounter difficulty with a girl is to "Next" her, which I totally, 100% disagree with. If a chick is obviously not interested,and mean to the point where she saying "No", or is being completely disrespectful.... then fine, next her. But other than that, I believe a guy to do everything within his power to try to make things work out with the girl........be it a new girl he's trying to date, or a girl he's already in a relationship with and they're having difficulties.

The reason I say that is because, if you run into a problem with a girl but don't know why the problem happened,and you just decide to move on to a new girl,eventually the same problem will show up with the next girl. That's why I think that nexting should be a last resort.....you should give your all,your 100% best.... and if things still don't work out, Then you can move on,knowing you did all you could do.


Because believe me.... The last thing you want to do is go through girl after girl, opportunity after opportunity, and have everything fall apart each time....FOR YEARS..... only to find out it was something easily you could have fixed. Because eventually, you going to meet a girl who you really really like, who you really really want things to work out with,and if you haven't learned anything from your past dating,you'll screw things up with her too,then you're REALLY going to kick yourself and be upset.

Listening to Jordan Peterson the other night and he believes staying single isn't ideal. Stated that the longer someone stays single, the more they will drift. They drift away from reality towards... drum roll... their weakness. As their weakness is their comfort zone.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

But relationship this day and age is

Listening to Jordan Peterson the other night and he believes staying single isn't ideal. Stated that the longer someone stays single, the more they will drift. They drift away from reality towards... drum roll... their weakness. As their weakness is their comfort zone.

Listening to Jordan Peterson the other night and he believes staying single isn't ideal. Stated that the longer someone stays single, the more they will drift. They drift away from reality towards... drum roll... their weakness. As their weakness is their comfort zone.

But relationship this day and age is being taken advantage of.

 

[Roober]

But relationship this day and age is


But relationship this day and age is being taken advantage of.

The easy access to new relationships through numerous channels (tinder, social media, etc) has made people from both sexes more inclined to cut a good partner loose. They know it is much easier to find a new partner than it was 20 years ago.

If a woman has ever done OLD, she will know that she can get tons 9f desperate men and her beckon call. If she has any bit 9f intelligence, she will know there are very few legitimate options available to her.

 

[Glassguy]

You need to do both: know when to play the game a little further to work on your wrinkles, and know when to withdraw when playing it out becomes counter-productive.

And that's the hardest part of all of this advice giving.

I occasionally will give guys my perspective on how to correct situations that are not too far gone to do so, but by doing that, it can often draw the ire of other members who are "next"-crazy. I've even had some guys accuse me of being some kind of Loveshack operative for even trying to help guys in that way.

And then, of course, at times I do suggest moving on is the best option, the same thing happens: next next next! That's the only advice on the boards.

Damned if you do.

Damned if you don't.

Discussions between experienced members that may not always agree with each other but can still find common ground is where a lot of growth can be found for less experienced members of the forum.

Agreed.

Simple rules to follow:

*If it isnt a benefit to what you want, eject from her after you make your expectations known and she doesnt fulfill them
* If you feel like you are chasing, you are chasing. Back off. Go silent. She either picks it up and starts initiating again or she doesnt
*While I agree with Igetit! and the process of going silent for a few days, I will VERY rarely reach back out. If she didnt pick up what I was laying down then its on to another one. Simple as that.
*If she is not making it fairly easy to go out, have fun and escalate, use silence and distance and find another one.
*If you have to ask if her interest is low, it is. Find another one.

There are 2 types of people in the dating world (as in the first couple of months of seeing someone): Those who get what they are after or bounce if they dont and those that are doormats and stick around without getting what they need.

Choose wisely.

The old saying "You never get what you dont ask for" is always true.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

The easy access to new relationships through numerous channels (tinder, social media, etc) has made people from both sexes more inclined to cut a good partner loose. They know it is much easier to find a new partner than it was 20 years ago.

If a woman has ever done OLD, she will know that she can get tons 9f desperate men and her beckon call. If she has any bit 9f intelligence, she will know there are very few legitimate options available to her.

A good partner doesn't necessarily have a better checklist .
It will be the one you can grow with. The one who was there for you.

So someone prone to looking around you need to cut em loose .