"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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What's the best way to nuke a woman's hamster?

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Glassguy,

I've been on here a few years . I'd say the main couple of problems are:
#1. Trying to raise a females interest level.
#2. Pedastalling "hot girls"
#3. Trying to get an ex back

We need to be fvcking the bytches that we can and not overanalyzing things.
#4. "BPD" women.
 

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Glassguy,

I've been on here a few years . I'd say the main couple of problems are:
#1. Trying to raise a females interest level.
#2. Pedastalling "hot girls"
#3. Trying to get an ex back

We need to be fvcking the bytches that we can and not overanalyzing things.
I agree. Women with a high interest level will make it easy to get them out on a date and eventually fvck them. Plain and simple. If they are not making it easy, they need a "next". Spin more plates, fill up your rotation based on the available time you have to see chicks and go from there. If you next one by stopping communication, and she comes back around, put her back into your rotation but on the bottom of the list.

If a woman doesnt make it easy in the beginning, she isnt going to make it any easier after you finally chase her around and get her out.

Ex's should stay exes. There is a reason it didnt work. Most of the time when guys get an ex back things go right back to the same way if not worse and you just waste more of your life on some flakey bytch.
 
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I agree. Women with a high interest level will make it easy to get them out on a date and eventually fvck them. Plain and simple. If they are not making it easy, they need a "next". Spin more plates, fill up your rotation based on the available time you have to see chicks and go from there. If you next one by stopping communication, and she comes back around, put her back into your rotation but on the bottom of the list.

If a woman doesnt make it easy in the beginning, she isnt going to make it any easier after you finally chase her around and get her out.

Ex's should stay exes. There is a reason it didnt work. Most of the time when guys get an ex back things go right back to the same way if not worse and you just waste more of your life on some flakey bytch.
They say a bytch or assh0le will try to come back to see if your still stupid.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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There was a woman I was trying to hook up with a while ago. She was playing hard to get so I decided to next her.

Now she's chasing after me. Constantly blowing up my phone, sending me pictures, asking when can we meet up etc. I am currently seeing someone else and have no interest in her anymore.

Do I tell her I am seeing someone else or let her see me with the new woman?
Either hook up with her or ignore her completely. No need to waste time.
 

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El Payaso is a calm, cool, well educated poster when it comes to women as apparent in his responses and thought processes.

That being said, the wisest of people still try to gain others opinions from time to time. We should all be trying to always improve not only with women but all areas of life and that's part of the process.

Most millionaires aren't geniuses but are smart enough to surround themselves with people who can contribute just as much as they do to their own personal success.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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When a woman is into a guy, she doesn't play hard to get, she's responsive. This woman wasn't responsive, you were not her top choice and her coming around now is likely her attempt to use you as a fall back between her preferred choices.

So don't be the fall back. Let her know that you are with someone and just leave it at that. No point in ruining a current thing you have going for revenge/ validation sex with a woman who rejected you before and is likely wanting an ego boost from a guy who she knew was interested, while she continues looking for her preferred choice.

This is how women build orbiters and back up plans.

Don't give her the satisfaction :)
This might be the best advice I have ever read @ SoSuave.
 

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I was expecting this thead to be asking for some sort of elaborate sex tips until I vaguely worked out WTF "nuking the hamster means".
 

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If your not getting none take what you can get till you can get what you want.
I prefer not to be a slave to my biological urges. I'll pass on the yeast and do something productive with my time, thanks.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I prefer not to be a slave to my biological urges. I'll pass on the yeast and do something productive with my time, thanks.
3, 6 or more months go by there will be some losses man. Women don't like to fvck someone who isn't fvcking. It's not being a slave to your urges. It's knowing what you need as a man and whats good for your psyche. you can bone a friend a couple times a week without being a slave to your urges.
 

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3, 6 or more months go by there will be some losses man. Women don't like to fvck someone who isn't fvcking. It's not being a slave to your urges. It's knowing what you need as a man and whats good for your psyche. you can bone a friend a couple times a week without being a slave to your urges.
I'm a recovered alcoholic and I view sex like alcohol. I enjoy it but I don't need it. I can go without either indefinitely if it's what is best for me. I don't believe sex is good for your psyche, necessarily. It releases the same chemical ****tail that drugs do. Although I'm sure there's research proving me wrong on that one.

I didn't notice an overall increase in mood after the sex with my girlfriend became regular. Obviously the immediate and hours after you feel great but that's not a good reason to chase sex recklessly.
 

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I'm a recovered alcoholic and I view sex like alcohol. I enjoy it but I don't need it. I can go without either indefinitely if it's what is best for me. I don't believe sex is good for your psyche, necessarily. It releases the same chemical ****tail that drugs do. Although I'm sure there's research proving me wrong on that one.

I didn't notice an overall increase in mood after the sex with my girlfriend became regular. Obviously the immediate and hours after you feel great but that's not a good reason to chase sex recklessly.
Do you believe we are all wired differently? Some of you are wired to prefer to be alone, not want to be close to someone. With me it's a definite and long lasting mood improvement. I'm more impervious to stressful situations. My confidence higher. Part of my MALE IMAGE is that of being a SEXUAL male, so you just can't kill that without hurting my image some.
 

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And I learned that SEX and the easy access to it affects your subconscious and people can see it. They are more attracted and charmed by a sexually active man. Versus a stressed, sex starved man. That's not attractive. But then again some men are not passionate lovers as part of their image and sex was all about domination and that's it, almost equivilent to masturbation to those types. they can fill that domination need from wrestling with men. A man like me is going to be AMPLIFIED inside of a feminine woman. It is not a DISTRACTION to you rlife unless your being stupid behind it. It greases my wheels and allows my creativity and heat to rise and hold at a higher height. That's ME and I"m okay with it.
 

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Versus a stressed
Stress is the trigger for any addiction. Just because an addiction isn't a problem yet, doesn't mean you're not harboring a mild one. People use all sorts of things to self medicate their stress, whether it's eating, alcohol, drugs and even sex. If you're relying on something chemical to deal with your stress, you're not mentally healthy in my opinion. That's not an insult, just an opinion.

Do you believe we are all wired differently?
In some ways yes, in other ways no. I have a high sex drive when I am with a woman, particularly one I like. But sex is like eating. You can be healthy about it or you can use it as a tool to self medicate, at worst it can be harmful.

It greases my wheels and allows my creativity and heat to rise and hold at a higher height. That's ME and I"m okay with it.
Yeah, I'm not saying don't do it. I don't think you have a problem at all, I'm just saying be aware of your drives. Control them or they control you.

And I learned that SEX and the easy access to it affects your subconscious and people can see it. They are more attracted and charmed by a sexually active man.
I think it's less the physical sex itself and more the lack of caring. But I'm open to being wrong on that because it is a phenomena I have experienced. But since I'm not desperate for sex, I don't have trouble running game even if I have gone without for a while. There's not a super noticeable difference to me. I'm a Buddhist and practice CBT so I'm very calm and stress free most of the time, regardless of what is going on around me.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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