"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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RickTheToad

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Someone told me about this Bumble and I jumped on. I am a bit confused on how it works. I think it goes where two people "match" and then if they do, both are moved to a chatting cue. You then have to wait for the woman to start conversing. I have around 11 "matches", but only a few have started to chat.

Since there is nothing to ask them in their profile, what do you initially chat about? I've tried with one to move from the app to getting drinks after chatting three or for times, she said she wanted to get to know me better. I just said, I understand and left it at that. Usually, on Match, they say sure, and proceed to give me their number. She's 36, my age, so unless she wants pen-pals, I am not sure what to do.

Anyone have success with bumble? Seems more active than Match.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Bumble is great for women because it gives them all the power. It was created by a woman who got sick of men spam messaging her on Match.
 

Isildur1

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Bumble is an awful way to meet women, you're literally immediately setting yourself out as the beta when you use it. You're basically saying " I'm not good enough to cold approach or meet women or pick the women I desire so I'm gonna make them pick me. " It's an awful way to start a relationship and you will be just one of many other choices to the girl.

The best way to create options is to cold approach and join clubs of things you're passionate about. That way you will find girls who respect you for you and who appreciate your alphaness
 

RickTheToad

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Bumble is an awful way to meet women, you're literally immediately setting yourself out as the beta when you use it. You're basically saying " I'm not good enough to cold approach or meet women or pick the women I desire so I'm gonna make them pick me. " It's an awful way to start a relationship and you will be just one of many other choices to the girl.

The best way to create options is to cold approach and join clubs of things you're passionate about. That way you will find girls who respect you for you and who appreciate your alphaness
It's similar to all online dating. In my line of work, not many women around. Still mainly men dominated industry. Too old for clubs at 36. I've had nearly 14 women chat me up, so at least I've knocked down the ugly theory. Less than 5% on Match.
 

DEEZEDBRAH

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Someone told me about this Bumble and I jumped on. I am a bit confused on how it works. I think it goes where two people "match" and then if they do, both are moved to a chatting cue. You then have to wait for the woman to start conversing. I have around 11 "matches", but only a few have started to chat.

Since there is nothing to ask them in their profile, what do you initially chat about? I've tried with one to move from the app to getting drinks after chatting three or for times, she said she wanted to get to know me better. I just said, I understand and left it at that. Usually, on Match, they say sure, and proceed to give me their number. She's 36, my age, so unless she wants pen-pals, I am not sure what to do.

Anyone have success with bumble? Seems more active than Match.
Tinder 2.0 only, women must msg or it unmatched.

Women use tinder for Chad's and collect matches to blow up her sociopathy.

Bumble is not perfect but better IMHO.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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