So I was volunteering for this girl who I was really into. I didn't know she had a bf until a few months after I knew her. They live together but she said they're on and off for 3 yrs. I never really see him around at her events, only a couple random times.
Once, before I knew she had a bf, I told her half jokingly I should be the only one she looks at. There was some physical interaction a few times after that, but I think it was borderline flirting. A while after that we were both scheduled to speak at the same meeting so I asked if she wanted to get coffee after, she wanted food since she hadn't eaten all day so that's fine with me. That's when she said she had a bf, but the way she said it, she seemed like she wasn't very interested in talking about him or revealing she was in a relationship. Immediately after she asked about me.
After that meeting I pretty much went no contact on her for six months. About a week ago she called me out of the blue to catch up. Initially I didn't answer, but I called back two hrs later so not to seem desperate. She didn't answer. Three days later she texts me that she missed my call and to let her know when a good time to catch up is. I said I'd be at one of her events a few days later and we could catch up there if she had a chance. There were too many people around then to talk one on one but we did talk. So we finally scheduled a call a few days after that, late at night and we talked for almost an hour till almost midnight.
The next day I invited her to an event with a few friends but it fell through because she had an event at the same time. I told her I'd be there instead (my event also fell through), she sent a heart reaction to that text. At the event she came up to me and said hey, later at the end of the event she came up to me again locking eyes and thanked me again for coming. We chatted for a few minutes, I made her laugh, and I suggested we should catch up for real and not some random call. She seemed interested but that she's just been crazy busy. She thanked me again for coming.
So I'm wondering, is she sending me mixed signals and interested? Or am I just reading way too much into this?
Once, before I knew she had a bf, I told her half jokingly I should be the only one she looks at. There was some physical interaction a few times after that, but I think it was borderline flirting. A while after that we were both scheduled to speak at the same meeting so I asked if she wanted to get coffee after, she wanted food since she hadn't eaten all day so that's fine with me. That's when she said she had a bf, but the way she said it, she seemed like she wasn't very interested in talking about him or revealing she was in a relationship. Immediately after she asked about me.
After that meeting I pretty much went no contact on her for six months. About a week ago she called me out of the blue to catch up. Initially I didn't answer, but I called back two hrs later so not to seem desperate. She didn't answer. Three days later she texts me that she missed my call and to let her know when a good time to catch up is. I said I'd be at one of her events a few days later and we could catch up there if she had a chance. There were too many people around then to talk one on one but we did talk. So we finally scheduled a call a few days after that, late at night and we talked for almost an hour till almost midnight.
The next day I invited her to an event with a few friends but it fell through because she had an event at the same time. I told her I'd be there instead (my event also fell through), she sent a heart reaction to that text. At the event she came up to me and said hey, later at the end of the event she came up to me again locking eyes and thanked me again for coming. We chatted for a few minutes, I made her laugh, and I suggested we should catch up for real and not some random call. She seemed interested but that she's just been crazy busy. She thanked me again for coming.
So I'm wondering, is she sending me mixed signals and interested? Or am I just reading way too much into this?
