The dreaded question of "What do you do?"

[Tilex]

This question in my mind allows women to put you inside a box and label you.

If you're a man of many talents and skills, being labeled into one category is extremely insulting.
Even if you have a high paying job, you're still being judged by how boring your job is and theoretically being labeled as a boring individual.
I always run into this problem when I cold approach group sets and haven't fully inserted my charm into the conversation.
How do I bypass this question without being labeled as a man with limited talents?

 

[PeasantPlayer]

Tell them your pretty flexible

 

[Billtx49]

Everything I want to do…
What do you do?

 

[Who Dares Win]

Cant really help you if your goal is provide value from your work, personally I simply avoid the question with humor.

I can make an example if you want but its riskful if you cant deliver.

 

[Tilex]

Cant really help you if your goal is provide value from your work, personally I simply avoid the question with humor.

I can make an example if you want but its riskful if you cant deliver.

I'm not worried about risks anymore. I'm past that stage.
I've learned from experience that taking bolder risks leads me to higher success.
Any examples you provide would be greatly appreciated!

 

[RangerMIke]

If you are insulted when a chick asks what you do then you need to work on yourself. There is nothing wrong with a chick asking you what you do, most men define who they are by what they do... chicks know this and they respond to it.

If you don't like talking about your job, tell her about your hobbies. Then start asking her questions, get her talking about herself.... change the subject. You are the man, lead the interaction.

 

[Alvafe]

This question in my mind allows women to put you inside a box and label you.

If you're a man of many talents and skills, being labeled into one category is extremely insulting.
Even if you have a high paying job, you're still being judged by how boring your job is and theoretically being labeled as a boring individual.
I always run into this problem when I cold approach group sets and haven't fully inserted my charm into the conversation.
How do I bypass this question without being labeled as a man with limited talents?

why you care? why you want to validate yourself to the woman? if that question piss you off that much make a joke out of it, say you play video games all day or you are porn director, if you can't take a question like that, make a joke out of it

 

[marmel75]

This question in my mind allows women to put you inside a box and label you.

If you're a man of many talents and skills, being labeled into one category is extremely insulting.
Even if you have a high paying job, you're still being judged by how boring your job is and theoretically being labeled as a boring individual.
I always run into this problem when I cold approach group sets and haven't fully inserted my charm into the conversation.
How do I bypass this question without being labeled as a man with limited talents?

But you do have limited talents. Your conversational abilities and ability to think on your feet quickly are limited if you cant get around this or dont know how to react. I'd suggest starting at that point to figure out what to do.

It would be like someone saying how awesome they are at programming and you ask them to write a "Hello World" program and they can't do it. How likely is that person to get the job? Not very likely

 

[Murk]

I tell them what I do, what firms I work for and I tell them where I work. I've been using my job to get laid as soon as I put the suit on 5 years ago.

If you don't want to tell them either lie, make your job sound more appealing, or make a joke of it.

 

[Who Dares Win]

I'm not worried about risks anymore. I'm past that stage.
I've learned from experience that taking bolder risks leads me to higher success.
Any examples you provide would be greatly appreciated!

I say with a plain face "I'm a far right terrorist", then after a couple of seconds "but we dont harm civilians like those sand n*****s, please dont consider me like that"...only then I crack a loud laugh.

The first part shows you're not concerned about the outcome nor trying to hard, the second part reinforce the first one and shows if you're dealing with a SJW according to her answer.

Dont try this unless the girl you are dealing with is very goodlooking and clever, it takes confidence and humor to really get it for a girl.

 

[Trump]

I always run into this problem when I cold approach group sets and haven't fully inserted my charm into the conversation.
How do I bypass this question without being labeled as a man with limited talents?

Insert your charm sooner.

 

[The Duke]

I used to get put in a box as soon as I told them what my job title was. They automatically labeled me as the stereotype they had in their mind way before I did anything to indicate otherwise. To get around it I told them I was a project manager which is basically what I do anyways. That title doesn't cause any issues.

Tell them you are a dentist or plastic surgeon and see how interested they get. Make sure you know lots about implants if you tell them you are a plastic surgeon because they will ask questions.

I recommend you experiment with telling them different things, makes for a good laugh. But humor is the best way to derail them. Tell them you are a certified dating expert.....its guaranteed to spark a fun conversation.

 

[skinnyguy]

Women will get wet if you tell them you’re a dating coach

 

[Spidah]

Scarcity mindset.

Who cares what women think? Don't answer the damn question if you don't like it. I do it all the time.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

I would love for them to ask me that question as I step out of my Lambo.

They usually follow it with "how long have you been doing that for?"

 

[zekko]

If you are insulted when a chick asks what you do then you need to work on yourself. There is nothing wrong with a chick asking you what you do, most men define who they are by what they do... chicks know this and they respond to it.

If you don't like talking about your job, tell her about your hobbies. Then start asking her questions, get her talking about herself.... change the subject. You are the man, lead the interaction.

Fully agree with this. Even guys ask each other this question, it's only natural to want to know. I don't know why guys here are so sensitive about this question.

I'm living off of my passive income now, but when I was working I never liked talking about work. My reasoning was I thought about work plenty while I was at work, I didn't need to spend any time thinking about it when I wasn't. So I would just answer the question to get it out of the way, and then quickly change the subject (lead the interaction, like you say). It's a perfectly legitimate question. What you do can reveal a lot about you, and can also be the jumping off point for more conversation ("Oh, my dad was an engineer", or "My best friend works there", or whatever). Seems like if you try to hide that most basic information about yourself, you wouldn't be willing to share anything.

 

[BeExcellent]

Agree with @zekko and @RangerMIke on this. I've always thought men who avoided this question (which is pretty basic in a social interaction) are ashamed of what they do or they are paranoid as to a woman's motive for asking.

You can say your industry if you do not want to overly reveal specifics. You can say healthcare rather than doctor, you can say finance or real estate or business to cover a million different things in those fields. You can say management, you can say the service industry as examples. And you keep pedaling along leading the conversation elsewhere if you don't care to elaborate.

Like Zekko my guy has passive income & doesn't work. He tells women with a straight face that he is "unemployed." If pressed he will say he's retired on a fixed income (true). And he keeps pedaling the conversation along.

But it's a normal enough question. Have a simple go to answer & drive on.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

 

[wifehunter]

This question in my mind allows women to put you inside a box and label you.

If you're a man of many talents and skills, being labeled into one category is extremely insulting.
Even if you have a high paying job, you're still being judged by how boring your job is and theoretically being labeled as a boring individual.
I always run into this problem when I cold approach group sets and haven't fully inserted my charm into the conversation.
How do I bypass this question without being labeled as a man with limited talents?

Let them put you in a box! Then break out!

 

[Murk]

Disagree with you Midnight, many times it's just a harmless question, I find myself asking girls this. I don't care if they're gold digging because I simply won't be spending my money on them (something my ex found out and was quite pissed off with).

My money is my own, I'm effectively an orphan with very little support/affection from what family I do have. Everyone except me can fvck off, I matter the most.

I had this conversation yesterday with a girl from work who was asking me about various girls she'd heard me mention this year. She was shocked I don't pay everything on dates, "why do they come back for a second date" - this is the mentality of women, she genuinely couldn't understand how I do well with women while not showering them with gifts and money. They either come back or they don't I'm not pandering to that BS this is 2018 and I'm the prize.

Even guys on here will shower girls with money and dates and use the excuse that they can afford it so why not, I'm not knocking that, but it's just not for everyone, certainly not me. I'll spend money on people I love or see a future with.