"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Ha, he said alot of guys look creepy and do stupid **** cause they ain't getting puzzy. That their vibe is all messed up and female can see it . He said they need a "starter h0e". Lol . Man this is some fundamental advise.
 

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Notice he likes men to spread their wings as players and later in life to make a family.
I agree with this.
Also notice females choose .
Not so much this though, it's at least inaccurate or oversimplified. Easy to think ONLY women choose, but we can choose too. Easy to think they can choose whatever man they want, but they too get rejected. So I'd like to clarify the statement and say a man can't choose a woman who hasn't chosen him.
Ha, he said alot of guys look creepy and do stupid **** cause they ain't getting puzzy. That their vibe is all messed up and female can see it .
True, I agree.
He said they need a "starter h0e".
While that will temporarily help immediately it must be kept up constantly to work. It is not impossible to solve this without instant gratification, that way guys will also learn how to be cool without depending on women, a much stronger frame IMO.
 

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I agree with this.

Not so much this though, it's at least inaccurate or oversimplified. Easy to think ONLY women choose, but we can choose too. Easy to think they can choose whatever man they want, but they too get rejected. So I'd like to clarify the statement and say a man can't choose a woman who hasn't chosen him.

True, I agree.

While that will temporarily help immediately it must be kept up constantly to work. It is not impossible to solve this without instant gratification, that way guys will also learn how to be cool without depending on women, a much stronger frame IMO.
I felt like my vibe my mojo is fvcked up going long periods without sex or deep female interest. The women who want me don't make it too hard so it's not alot of effort to keep it going.
 

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I felt like my vibe my mojo is fvcked up going long periods without sex or deep female interest. The women who want me don't make it too hard so it's not alot of effort to keep it going.
There's nothing wrong about keeping it going. But knowing you can easily pick it up again if you take a longer break is an extra layer of protection from resorting to desperate behavior if there's ever a threat of not getting pvssy for a while.

It separates your self-esteem from external conditions, which is healthy. There's no reason you should feel a lack of confidence from not having fvcked in a while, especially if you've had good game in the past. If you did it back then you can do it now.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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@Grewd nails it. There was a time in my younger years, that I felt only as good as my last lay. Validation from external sources, as he mentioned. I'm much more aware, experienced and secure these days. I have a pretty high sex drive and horny men tend to do horny chit and give off that vibe mentioned above (social retardation). There are times, when I just get bored, tired of the game or just feel I need to direct my energy and resources to accomplish other goals. Being aware and keeping a close eye on the dynamics of your interactions and calibrating accordingly, when you do decide to get back in the game is key. Another thing that helps is continuing or ramping up your social interactions, with not just women, but everyone if you are planning on taking a break. Helps keep the wheels greased and a much more seamless transition, when going back and forth, between goals in life. Alot of us here have already ran the gamut several times over and it helps to keep that in mind. Same chit, different day brother.
 

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@Grewd nails it. There was a time in my younger years, that I felt only as good as my last lay. Validation from external sources, as he mentioned. I'm much more aware, experienced and secure these days. I have a pretty high sex drive and horny men tend to do horny chit and give off that vibe mentioned above (social retardation). There are times, when I just get bored, tired of the game or just feel I need to direct my energy and resources to accomplish other goals. Being aware and keeping a close eye on the dynamics of your interactions and calibrating accordingly, when you do decide to get back in the game is key. Another thing that helps is continuing or ramping up your social interactions, with not just women, but everyone if you are planning on taking a break. Helps keep the wheels greased and a much more seamless transition, when going back and forth, between goals in life. Alot of us here have already ran the gamut several times over and it helps to keep that in mind. Same chit, different day brother.
Have you ever had a 3 month a 6 month or even a 12+ month drought? Maybe it's not your fault at all, but the women you normally fvck with black balled you? Cause at some point of sexlessness, your drive and masculinity starts getting beat back.
 

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@mrgoodstuff I had a 5 year drought without even previously having good game. It took just a couple of weeks to get a stream of pvssy going. How? I refused to engage in a defeatist attitude and had every belief that I could do it. I didn't know how to beforehand, I just plunged into it and did my best.

Our attitude has tremendous influence over our behaviors, I understood that pretty quickly. If you think the fact that you haven't had pvssy in forever will stop you, then that attitude most certainly will shine through in how you walk and talk. If you think it won't matter and wholeheartedly believe you can nail it, then you're a lot more likely to be right about it.

“Whether you think you can or think you can't, you're right.” -Henry Ford
 

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Have you ever had a 3 month a 6 month or even a 12+ month drought? Maybe it's not your fault at all, but the women you normally fvck with black balled you? Cause at some point of sexlessness, your drive and masculinity starts getting beat back.
My longest drought was 8 or 9 months. I wanted to do alot of reflecting, self-improvement and see what celibacy was all about. The goal was 12 full months of no sex, but spring rolled around and well, we all know what that's all about, so I caved. I don't think I've ever been black balled before. I'm pretty discreet outside of close circles and even then. I've always seemed to gravitate or end up hanging with rowdier individuals, so there's really no room for suppression of masculinity. A guy would catch quite a bit of h3ll and everybody's doing the same thing pretty well. Chasing pvssy. If she's not ****ing, because of something stupid, she's kicking rocks. Personally, if a guy feels he needs to lower his standards a little to get the ball rolling, I don't see a problem with it. I feel you have to be practicing your craft to get good at it. You don't have to be fvcking them to reap the benefits. Opening chicks a notch or two below your pay grade at the bar can prime you for opening the women you really want and see walking around bar. In everybody else's eyes you are just seen as an outgoing guy who is cool with and knows everyone. Use the opportunities with lower level women to start calibrating and you can also experiment, push boundaries and afforded a bit more leeway, because you simply could not give a chit if you blow one or a few out. You don't want to fvck them anyways. Reminds me of my first date after my last layoff. Long story short, we were making out, when she mentions being on her period, so I try talking her into a BJ, what basically amounted to begging reflecting back on it at the time. She just kept playing with my d!ck talking about she won't be getting anything in return. Not going to lie, it was frustrating and I could have packed up and stomped home, then it clicked and the fangs came out and it wasn't until semi-roughly grabbed her by the hair of the head, told her she was going to svck the d!ck and pushed her down on it, that I got my BJ. It sounds dangerous, but if she were to show any resistance after that, then I'm not trying to catch a charge like that, but we had talked about porn, fantasies and chit, so I knew it was likely a good move, but still risky. She was one of those chicks. Not a complete scallywag, below what I normally fvck with, didn't care if I blew it out, nevertheless reminded me of what I'm about and how I operate.
 
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