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Don Juan
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- Apr 10, 2018
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this is a little long but would love your DJs comments and experience,
Hey DJs! so I''ve been seeing this girl for 2 months and so far we've been on 6 dates, this past weekend being one of them (all overnight dates).
so far - lots of sex, she has been doing a LOT of chasing as many of her texts go unanswered to the point where she is sending stressed out/annoyed emojis - but she knows that I'm a very busy man and have an active social life.
she has been very cooperative with my plans and has enjoyed being in my world from what I can see.
however, here are a couple red flags I've noted from her end:
one the other hand - she has been very cooperative with sex, and I've never had to bargain or beg her or otherwise negotiate with her, and I know at 2 months in this is normal.
now my real question is this: how can I spot a user/manipulator?
I noticed whenever we're traveling together she always takes pics of the scenery and stuff, but never takes pictures of us. My experiences with other women have been different - they take photos of us together to keep for memories sake.
also noticed, she uses the photos of course to post on instagram - and I've read too much on women using guys to up their social game and for his connections.
here are a couple of screenshots of a conversation last night that I answered after she texted me about 7 times between Monday and Tuesday before getting a reply from me:
note that she said about the cool part after I sent her some photos I took of her at a waterfalls we visited. I'm very good with photography so she got some "cool" shots.
note - after she got the pics, she didn't say thanks or goodnight. however this morning she already posted the photos. I know this sounds like a woman talking here - but I also don't want to be with someone who's only interested in what I have to offer in my world.
note also: for the last 2 dates (overnight), she has started to invest money on the dates of over $100 - so I also like that she is investing too.
since the phone is only to set dates - I also took the opportunity last night to invite her out this weekend again. she agreed so I'm picking her up on Saturday and I'm planning a chill weekend for the next 2 - 3 dates - I want to see what her reaction or interest level will be not doing anything too "cool" or "extravagant".
Hey DJs! so I''ve been seeing this girl for 2 months and so far we've been on 6 dates, this past weekend being one of them (all overnight dates).
so far - lots of sex, she has been doing a LOT of chasing as many of her texts go unanswered to the point where she is sending stressed out/annoyed emojis - but she knows that I'm a very busy man and have an active social life.
she has been very cooperative with my plans and has enjoyed being in my world from what I can see.
however, here are a couple red flags I've noted from her end:
- she has told me her longest relationship has been 5 months (keep in mind she is 28yrs old)
- she has had F*#k buddy type of situationships that she said has surpassed 5 months straight
- she has daddy issues and she has admitted to this, but said she has overcome a lot of it throughout the years
- she has been backing away from her group of girl friends she has been friends with for over 10 years - because all they are interested in is partying and drinking, and she said she has grown tire of it
- she has mentioned a couple of times that she would love to leave home as it is too stressful for her, and she has to pay the bills, etc. (to which I don't say anything, and I don't fall into her frame or play a white knight)
- with that said, she doesn't seem to want to be home - and I can see where being in my world is so much more enjoyable because I have a lot out social clout in my country (people know me everywhere I go and follow my popular instagram travel account) and she has a lot of new experiences with me, and enjoys the places I go to
one the other hand - she has been very cooperative with sex, and I've never had to bargain or beg her or otherwise negotiate with her, and I know at 2 months in this is normal.
now my real question is this: how can I spot a user/manipulator?
I noticed whenever we're traveling together she always takes pics of the scenery and stuff, but never takes pictures of us. My experiences with other women have been different - they take photos of us together to keep for memories sake.
also noticed, she uses the photos of course to post on instagram - and I've read too much on women using guys to up their social game and for his connections.
here are a couple of screenshots of a conversation last night that I answered after she texted me about 7 times between Monday and Tuesday before getting a reply from me:
note that she said about the cool part after I sent her some photos I took of her at a waterfalls we visited. I'm very good with photography so she got some "cool" shots.
note - after she got the pics, she didn't say thanks or goodnight. however this morning she already posted the photos. I know this sounds like a woman talking here - but I also don't want to be with someone who's only interested in what I have to offer in my world.
note also: for the last 2 dates (overnight), she has started to invest money on the dates of over $100 - so I also like that she is investing too.
since the phone is only to set dates - I also took the opportunity last night to invite her out this weekend again. she agreed so I'm picking her up on Saturday and I'm planning a chill weekend for the next 2 - 3 dates - I want to see what her reaction or interest level will be not doing anything too "cool" or "extravagant".