"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Epic last ditch salvage line?

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Scenario: You attempt to escalate texts into a phone call or date and she replies with this: "I'm sorry, I don't mean to be bad but I shouldn't be on the app since I'm moving. You're a great person but timing is bad, I don't want to lead you on. It was great meeting you and take care :) "

So lets clear a few things, you got a few other plates, she's moving, and you're looking for the quick bang. Its not a big deal if you lose her or not, I just figured, why do the boring **** other guys do and respond with a "Yea sure, no problem, nice to meet you too, take care in life" blah blah bull****. Why not try for something ****y and funny to see if you can last ditch change her mind.

What are your opinions on this:

"I'm a big boy, I won't get my heart broken. Let me give you the best 3 months of your life, and if things are good at the end, no amount of miles can prevent a great future. Let's start with dinner tomorrow night, what do you have to lose? Other than an hour of netflix ;) "

Or

"Uncertainty stimulates my imagination, I just want you to know that if things went well between us in the short time you have left, a few miles wouldn't prevent a great future. I'm glad we met, good luck in your career".

I'm assuming that her low interest stems from conflicting feelings about her leaving. Obviously option 1 is the more forward and asks her out, while option 2 banks on the fact that the statement is powerful enough that she'll text you a reply and open a door for you to make one last move.

Any suggestions?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Scenario: You attempt to escalate texts into a phone call or date and she replies with this: "I'm sorry, I don't mean to be bad but I shouldn't be on the app since I'm moving. You're a great person but timing is bad, I don't want to lead you on. It was great meeting you and take care :) "

So lets clear a few things, you got a few other plates, she's moving, and you're looking for the quick bang. Its not a big deal if you lose her or not, I just figured, why do the boring **** other guys do and respond with a "Yea sure, no problem, nice to meet you too, take care in life" blah blah bull****. Why not try for something ****y and funny to see if you can last ditch change her mind.

What are your opinions on this:

"I'm a big boy, I won't get my heart broken. Let me give you the best 3 months of your life, and if things are good at the end, no amount of miles can prevent a great future. Let's start with dinner tomorrow night, what do you have to lose? Other than an hour of netflix ;) "

Or

"Uncertainty stimulates my imagination, I just want you to know that if things went well between us in the short time you have left, a few miles wouldn't prevent a great future. I'm glad we met, good luck in your career".

I'm assuming that her low interest stems from conflicting feelings about her leaving. Obviously option 1 is the more forward and asks her out, while option 2 banks on the fact that the statement is powerful enough that she'll text you a reply and open a door for you to make one last move.

Any suggestions?
Female perspective: most likely scenario is she is not interested. If she wanted to meet with you, she wouldn't let her moving soon stop her from doing that.

She is being polite by giving you an excuse, because many women think that's better than being direct, it's annoying I'm sure, but if you have ever been insulted for telling someone you are not interested you would understand why many women just make excuses rather than be upfront.

Not saying you would insult her of course lol.

Sometimes you just have to take what a woman says at face value. And usually when someone ends a soft rejection with 'take care' that means good bye.

You have other plates so enjoy them :)
 
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The Duke

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She is being polite by giving you an excuse, because many women think that's better than being direct, it's annoying I'm sure, but if you have ever been insulted for telling someone you are not interested you would understand why many women just make excuses rather than be upfront.

Sometimes you just have to take what a woman says at face value. And usually when someone ends a soft rejection with 'take care' that means good bye.

You have other plates so enjoy them :)
Here you have it fella's.....you just have to take what a woman says at face value....from a female. Truest post of the year!

And guys are supposed to respect women because they fear the wrath for leading the guy on in the first place? And women wonder why chivalry and all that bs is dead.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"you need a slap on the ass for moving away..."

do not add more, use this exactly... trust me on this
 

Paarth Shah

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Here you have it fella's.....you just have to take what a woman says at face value....from a female. Truest post of the year!

And guys are supposed to respect women because they fear the wrath for leading the guy on in the first place? And women wonder why chivalry and all that bs is dead.
I actually think it was a typo, I think she meant to say NOT take things at face value.
 

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The best response is no response. Stop wasting time with uninterested women and work on finding ones that are interests. You cant negotiate or talk your way into her being attracted to you physically. She is or she isn't.

Wasting time trying to get uninterested women interested is where 90% of men fail. Moving on and finding women who are interested is a much better use of time.
 
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