"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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How the hell do you text???

Reformemind

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You won’t believe how many opportunities I’ve missed and how many plates I’ve broken by not knowing how to bloody text.

Sometime I try to be funny and playful and end up being too ****y——-REJECTED

Sometimes I try to be caring and protective (of loved ones) and end up being too nice——-REJECTED

Sometimes I try to be serious and dominant and end up being too boring——-REJECTED

I can’t find the middle ground. Help me.....
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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TheProspect

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You won’t believe how many opportunities I’ve missed and how many plates I’ve broken by not knowing how to bloody text.

Sometime I try to be funny and playful and end up being too ****y——-REJECTED

Sometimes I try to be caring and protective (of loved ones) and end up being too nice——-REJECTED

Sometimes I try to be serious and dominant and end up being too boring——-REJECTED

I can’t find the middle ground. Help me.....
Save your c0ckiness, humor, caringness, seriousness, dominance , <insert trait here>, etc. for in-person interactions.

Most guys here will tell you that the phone is primarily a medium to set up dates.

You’re more likely to text your way out of her pants than in them.
 

marmel75

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Smalltalk and then set up a date. Save all the bantering for in person.
 

Serenity

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Have you tried not trying to be something just to impress them? The middle ground is showing a bit of everything, like a good personality would do.
 

sph21

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You were trying too hard. Girls know why we text them. If you aren't clear with what you want from her from the start, then she'll assume that you just want to be a friend. Be bold and ask her out on a date, and she won't be confused anymore. That way, you're showing her that you know what you want and you aren't afraid of her. Most nice guys wait for weeks or months just to ask a girl on a date because they're scared of losing her. A Don Juan is never afraid of losing a girl because he has many options. His abundance mentality will save him from putting her on a pedestal.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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