No. However, when I was younger there were women who tried to make it seem that way post de facto--and I was naive enough to feel guilty/responsible for that.
But two things, three actually.
- You've pedestalized this chick on a very incomplete set of information. Plenty of girls who seem shy & innocent aren't that way at all & currently you're projecting your desired qualities on a mostly blank canvas. Just a word of caution.
- Women are not some delicate object you have to preserve the honor of. This is a super Blue Pill way of viewing the world. She is a girl. You aren't saving her from some special danger, you aren't some super special dude she'll never get over or some edge-lord who's gonna ruin her. Lol.
- Be honest in your intent. Some guys, who get wet for the whole Machiavellian schtick'll disagree with me--and this might seem paradoxical given what I just wrote above--but I think it's super important to have integrity in your interactions with women. Don't make promises you can't keep; don't pretend to offer things you won't follow through on; if you have to lie to get in her pants you are doing yourself & her a great disservice (and expect drama on the back end). Be clear in your intent--you'd be suprised how many girls are just down for a strings-free romp, but they can't come out and say that until you've already lead them in that direction.
The thoughts you're having are young men thoughts. I certainly had them--they dictated several years of my life and not generally for the better! lol. But chances are, given the social conditioning you've been exposed to, you'll have to wrestle with them, even as they stand in direct contrast to what you experience in the real world.
It's gold.
I've got the whole " I damaged her " etc...
Cause I guess I can have narcissistic, BPD, fear of commitment etc...
Or it didn't work out the LTR etc...
Fastlife gave really short points that cover alot of stuff.
Honesty is the number 1 thing you should value in your interactions.
How many chick's thought the guy was LTR, dated him.. Only to be rejected after sex?
All chick's had to face some "judgement, violence, harassment.. Sexual or not" ... and it came just from Man like from Woman.
Even a virgin/innocent girl has some tricks in her bags.
They have an agenda, you fit or not.
However, it's the betrayal of that agenda that damages them (like my example of the guy who pretends just to sleep with her and dump her)
Any betrayal will damage you (guys here all know what I am talking about).
You will only reveal the women to herself... she was attracted to you.. For a reason.
Look at all the girls who become prostitutes or are running away by a pimp.... Most of them could have lead decent lives... but something happened that damaged them, and the damage just keep getting wider.
You can only damage someone when their heart is open... that's why so many people are afraid of commitment and keep to plate-spinning.
Always be honest.
Screen well for the right person... take your time if you must.
All girls will forgive you or learn to deal with the issues if they can trust you and you are honest with them (even the girl who virginity you took)... some might even offer you their help.
Just be good to one another.
We talk alot about the "past" but its for a good reason.. Everyone has bagages, the more bagages, the longer it takes to move them