"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Question about my hair to the girls on the forum

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I personally don't think you need transplants or to shave it off based on what I can see in that pic. You seem to have a full head of hair.

FYI most women don't care if a guy is losing his hair unless he does some kind of Trump combover.
 

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And to answer your question. Yes, it matters (just not as significantly as you may think). Everything matters. Maximize your potential.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Richard, you honestly are not a bad looking dude. Don't shave your hair off. Nothing is wrong with your hair from the picture. You have an attractive face, deep set eyes and a refined nose. You are NOT overweight, but you are height/weight proportional. So having said all that I think you work on style/manner of dress with regard to your appearance (I realize selfies at the job site are not going to be the epitome of style - nor should they be)...and continue working on your social skills. Your business experiences are going to assist some with building social skills...and so will chatting up various women as you have been doing at the venues you go out to as well as the working girls you interact with.

In short I think you are making progress. Seriously. Positive progress.
 
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Richard, you honestly are not a bad looking dude. Don't shave your hair off. Nothing is wrong with your hair from the picture. You have an attractive face, deep set eyes and a refined nose. You are NOT overweight, but you are height/weight proportional. So having said all that I think you work on style/manner of dress with regard to your appearance (I realize selfies at the job site are not going to be the epitome of style - nor should they be)...and continue working on your social skills. Your business experiences are going to assist some with building social skills...and so will chatting up various women as you have been doing at the venues you go out to as well as the working girls you interact with.

In short I think you are making progress. Seriously. Positive progress.
Lol. The working girls.
 
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Richard, you honestly are not a bad looking dude. Don't shave your hair off. Nothing is wrong with your hair from the picture. You have an attractive face, deep set eyes and a refined nose. You are NOT overweight, but you are height/weight proportional. So having said all that I think you work on style/manner of dress with regard to your appearance (I realize selfies at the job site are not going to be the epitome of style - nor should they be)...and continue working on your social skills. Your business experiences are going to assist some with building social skills...and so will chatting up various women as you have been doing at the venues you go out to as well as the working girls you interact with.

In short I think you are making progress. Seriously. Positive progress.
If I'm not a bad looking dude, then why do I not get anything? Especially online where it's all looks based?
 

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If I'm not a bad looking dude, then why do I not get anything? Especially online where it's all looks based?
Cause your complaining and it's messing up your head. Stop complaining and do something about it. You need to get social. No games, no tricks, just work on being more social make new friends.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You dont need to shave, not at all actually if you didnt introduce the topic, nobody would have considered a case of hairloss.
 
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