How do I escalate?

[ExoticOne]

I'm on OkCupid and Tinder ... I actually struck up some convos (on both). One quick question, do I not take the girls on Tinder seriously? are they ALL there for a quick lay only?? cause I'm chatting to a gorgeous girl and having a real good convo with her, I feel like I'm gonna have a heart attack cause I don't wanna **** this up...

my big question is what do I do next, to initiate a phone call or video or just straight to meeting up? please some tips!

 

[marmel75]

Once you are worried about fvcking something up with any specific woman you already have.

The basic process is to get their number, ask them out, on an OLD chick do NOT go ghost up until the date unless you want a much higher flake percentage...dont blow up her phone either...one or two texts a day will suffice. Then go on the date, escalate in date and wash and repeat...

How do you escalate? In person. Get the date first.

 

[RangerMIke]

Yea... you are already screwing sh!t up. Never go into anything with ANY expectations. Date because you want to have fun... to do this you have to pick things YOU want to do. You already think you have something to fvck up. You have NOTHING.... ask her out, and if she shows up you know you have a chance. You should not even be giving this chick any thought WHATSOEVER until she meets you on a date.

Having said that seduction is a three step process.
(1) Have fun. be a fun guy. Get her to laugh and and make her comfortable to be with you.
(2) Build rapport, get her to talk about herself. See if you can find out if there is some kind of connection. Also important is that you should not lie... if after spending an evening with a chick, you find NOTHING to connect on.... well, go find another chick, nothing is going to work with this one.
(3) If you are getting positive BL signs, then switch into seduction mode. I usually wait til the chick starts touching me, then I know it's game on. Others will tell you to start touching first... Yea it works, but you have to work harder, and I'm lazy and I'm not desperate to make sh!t happen. Start slow then go a little farther, until she pulls away or backs away... then you do the same, back up and talk some more, she's not comfortable with you so you have to build more rapport. Again, if you can not connect emotionally, just take her home and find another chick.

ALWAYS remember... you can not make something happen with ANY chick you want. You have to have something to work with, she has to like you and she has to have the ability to emotionally connect with you. If neither of these things are present then you are wasting your time.

 

[wifehunter]

I just let nature take it's course, because it will! How the fukk do you think, we all got here?

Just being alone with a lady, things can get interesting. Brushes, bumps, peeks, etc. It's all part of the fun. When things are unintentional, it removes the 'I want to get laid' factor.

Awareness is key, here.

If seems at all forced, females will put up their guard. ..it gets awkward at this point.

Your frame should be smooth/funny/fun.

Escalation/Evaluation should be over a period of months/years not minutes/hours, unless you want a roll in the hay with a worthless slut.

 

[guru1000]

The most efficient teacher is the hand that burns on the stove. I encourage you to make mistakes and fvck up. Nothing will get your game tighter than trying (not be be confused with eagerness) and failing hard.

 

[wifehunter]

The most efficient teacher is the hand that burns on the stove. I encourage you to make mistakes and fvck up. Nothing will get your game tighter than trying (not be be confused with eagerness) and failing hard.

Some people never learn.

 

[ExoticOne]

Thank you fellas for the replies

I'm in the process of tryna set up a date with this one chick, who lives kinda far! I do not drive right now, and I really hope that doesn't matter to her, I have means of transportation thanks to my sister's car though.... I suggested she come over to hang out and meet my dogs, and then we'd go to the hiking trail not too far from my pad. She liked the hiking idea... so I hope she takes me up on the offer!

What worries me the most is holding up the conversation! It's been so damn long since I conversed with girls hah..

What I wanted to know also is... how soon do you guys suggest to meet up, or get her number or whatever. Do any of you have a recommend way to open the girl up on first message?

I figure yea, crashing n burning would be best, my anxiety is down knowing that...

 

[fanatic22]

Depends on the conversation but I ask for a meetup within ~16 messages on OLD, hers included. Also dude you are overthinking things. She should be excited to be meeting you; you on the other hand should not be worried about it at all since if it’s not her it’s the next girl. Your messages convey that you’re eager and already somewhat committed to this girl. You should feel and seem much less concerned.