Friend of a friend

[jaymbrs]

so I messed around with a female friend of a friend. Things were cool for a little bit until she started pulling the same ol female **** of not responding through texts at a reasonable time, etc etc. Not much there but she has requested to be friends on Facebook and Instagram to which I reluctantly accepted. However, since nothing seems to be going on between her and I should I delete her from social media? I don’t want any awkwardness to stem from our mutual friend if I do.

 

[Spaz]

Why do you care?

What happened was between u and her. So why would ur mutual friend be awkward or bothered ?

 

[sazc]

Things were cool for a little bit until she started pulling the same ol female **** of not responding through texts at a reasonable time, etc etc.

So you got a little invested and subsequently got butthurt when she wasnt pasting attention to you in the timely manner you thought ssh should?

 

[marmel75]

So you got a little invested and subsequently got butthurt when she wasnt pasting attention to you in the timely manner you thought ssh should?

This sounds really lame on OPs part.

 

[jaymbrs]

Why do you care?

What happened was between u and her. So why would ur mutual friend be awkward or bothered ?

My mutual friend is a female. And you know how females are.

So you got a little invested and subsequently got butthurt when she wasnt pasting attention to you in the timely manner you thought ssh should?

Sure, if that’s how it sounds. I didn’t want to get involved with her in the first place since I typically don’t go for friends of friends but since she escalated and I reciprocated I assumed something could happen. Since it seems like it was a one time thing and I’m not looking to be friends, I was wondering if it was petty to remove her from my social media groups.

 

[Spaz]

My mutual friend is a female. And you know how females are.



Sure, if that’s how it sounds. I didn’t want to get involved with her in the first place since I typically don’t go for friends of friends but since she escalated and I reciprocated I assumed something could happen. Since it seems like it was a one time thing and I’m not looking to be friends, I was wondering if it was petty to remove her from my social media groups.

No, actually I don't know how females r.

I'm a man and hv never been in a woman shoes nor do I desire so.

Since I am a man I only know what a man should do.

I wouldn't care what my female friend thinks abt my relations with her friend simply bcoz it's none of her business.

And it is TRULY none of her business.

And I go abt doing my business.

 

[Macaframalama]

I didn’t want to get involved with her in the first place since I typically don’t go for friends of friends

Man, this is one of the biggest perks of having a social circle.

was wondering if it was petty to remove her from my social media groups.

No sense in burning that bridge. You did it from a place of butthurt and it will be perceived by her that way too.

 

[Macaframalama]

I don’t think it’s petty at all.

Guys underestimate the chicknetwork and how they tell each other everything about the men in their lives which is why I tell them and show them very little about myself if Theyre involved with me superficially.

They’re fvcking detectives, why would I make shlt easy for them? The can say whatever’s the fvck they want about me as long as they’re not actually openly aware of what an going on in my life, who I’m fvcking, how good I’m doing financially etc

I think a little context is being missed here. His deleting her is reactionary for one. Two, he might as well break off his friendship with the mutual friend, as they are still connected in that way. I don't give a chit what others talk about though, but each their own. The op seems insignificant anyways and majoring in the minors. Playing the game vs the game playing you.

 

[sazc]

Leave her connected to your social media etc so she can see what she is missing out on

 

[jaymbrs]

No sense in burning that bridge. You did it from a place of butthurt and it will be perceived by her that way too.

Not necessarily. I’ve given it time, her and I don’t speak so I feel there’s no need to keep her around. That’s really all it is.

 

[jaymbrs]

I'd just leave her on there. It's not a big deal.

This is a problem to be aware of with social media though imo which i never seem to hear but find it quite common in female behaviour. Women try and use it to slow you down and keep you in a holding pattern. It's good to be aware of that.

It's why i don't accept social media over a number for example.

My ex was an interesting case, because she went from giving me the number in person to getting weird over text and trying to insist on social media use. I could obviously tell that things were veering off in a very dodgy direction, so i left it for a bit.

Once out on the first date, that was a completely different story, and we were dry humping on the floor even with last minute resistance. Sex on second date. So again, like with the number close, in person completely changes things and girls are more under your influence. Don't accept her putting up walls between texting and meeting on a date.

So people can tell me all day long that these things are "overly-analytical", but they seriously aren't.

I'm not against social media per-se, and i have us3d it before with women, rather that i just find it's negatives to be very understated.

Very interesting observation and I think you may be absolutely right. I tend to get a friend request almost immediately after meeting a girl. Unfortunately I rarely use Instagram or Snapchat and Facebook is for people I actually give a **** about. Im thinking I’m just going to start lying about having an account.