"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Ryan Adams

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i know your supposed to set the date up and dont text until the day of the date to confirm but how do you go about it when she wants to text alot and tell you about what's she's Doing etc? just ignore, be short with her talk back etc? im lost
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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marmel75

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First of all I dont recommend doing thst initially. You'll have more flakes if you go ghost til the date. This advice is not in line with what actually happens irl.

That being said don't blow her phone up either. Its a good sign she is texting you that often...high interest level. Just respond here and there...maybe 2 or 3 times in a day. No serious convos...no political talk...no judgmental stuff...just keep things light and fun.
 

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yeah I always kinda thought the nc until date logic is flawed they'll think you've lost interest?
 

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Respond but keep it short and try to set up a time to see her. Example:

Her: Hey... what's up!
You: Doing great, would be better if you were here, are you free [whenever] to meet up?

When chicks reach out they want you to do something and that something should be MAKE A DATE.
 

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youll text yourself right out of a date, considering there so obsessed with texting women , they take every word to heart

as other DJ's have said low contact, no good morning or good night BS...............polite and light texting 3-4 texts max then leave the convo intiate with her every so often aswell

Women are hugely attracted to men they have to wonder about

if your sitting there texting her for 2 hours on a saturday night, it tells her everything she needs to know
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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First of all I dont recommend doing thst initially. You'll have more flakes if you go ghost til the date. This advice is not in line with what actually happens irl.
this. unless you're 100% sure that anything you say will screw it up, then take your chances with going ghost
 

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Textgame sucks more than Dolly Buster. Have you ever gotten a boner because you "read something"?
Just write "Hate chatting, calling ya in 5 minutes" and then take it from there.
 

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Textgame sucks more than Dolly Buster. Have you ever gotten a boner because you "read something"?
Just write "Hate chatting, calling ya in 5 minutes" and then take it from there.
you cant do this all the time

women are strange creatures , you have to find a happy medium, they want to text there obsessed with it

also if you put that you"hate texting" shell gradually stop texting you, this gives her nothing to wonder about, women love to wonder

why hasnt he text me back instantly? does he still like me? etc etc

always have a phone call aswell though i agree
 

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I lost a lay with a hb9 because I got judgmental towards her
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Respond but keep it short and try to set up a time to see her. Example:

Her: Hey... what's up!
You: Doing great, would be better if you were here, are you free [whenever] to meet up?

When chicks reach out they want you to do something and that something should be MAKE A DATE.
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