"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Is the "sexless marriage" the ultimate beta submission?

MatureDJ

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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'Evolution'.

I have actually pondered this open relationship concept. People talk about how they have 'transcended' jealousy and contempt and whatnot, and how they can pretty much just love whoever the hell they want without any judgment, and that they just want their other partner to be happy.

The problem is, you cannot evolve past what nature has already coded for you in your genes. I have realized that with this particular mindset, there is a reason why it is not natural inherent behavior in people (just like everything else).

Let's say you have children. If everyone had that mindset, then only the mothers would care for their babies and the fathers would not care at all. Now the children all die, and the population is depleted because there are no more humans. But some people may believe in humanity enough that if EVERYONE had the mindset of the people in the link above, then everyone would care for one another.

Not so. The reason for this is because it is a universal law of nature that all living organisms strive to conserve energy (you tend to live longer doing this anyway which puts you in favor of natural selection). Well because EVERY LIVING BEING ON THE PLANET abides by this rule, then it is safe to say that it is not worthwhile to raise a child whom may not be yours. And we inherently know this too.

You should not evolve beyond what evolution has in store for us. It could mean catastrophe.
 

skinnyguy

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Most married people are in sexless marriages so this is not news
 

Billtx49

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Most married people are in sexless marriages so this is not news
Yep, they lost the spark, so they both agreed using new age language and feel good mantra, to cheat on each other…
 

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shoot me now!o_O
 

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'Evolution'.

I have actually pondered this open relationship concept. People talk about how they have 'transcended' jealousy and contempt and whatnot, and how they can pretty much just love whoever the hell they want without any judgment, and that they just want their other partner to be happy.

The problem is, you cannot evolve past what nature has already coded for you in your genes. I have realized that with this particular mindset, there is a reason why it is not natural inherent behavior in people (just like everything else).

Let's say you have children. If everyone had that mindset, then only the mothers would care for their babies and the fathers would not care at all. Now the children all die, and the population is depleted because there are no more humans. But some people may believe in humanity enough that if EVERYONE had the mindset of the people in the link above, then everyone would care for one another.

Not so. The reason for this is because it is a universal law of nature that all living organisms strive to conserve energy (you tend to live longer doing this anyway which puts you in favor of natural selection). Well because EVERY LIVING BEING ON THE PLANET abides by this rule, then it is safe to say that it is not worthwhile to raise a child whom may not be yours. And we inherently know this too.

You should not evolve beyond what evolution has in store for us. It could mean catastrophe.
Dude what are you talking about?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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RangerMIke

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These days, marriage is usually an act of desperation.

Its too stupid to be anything else lol.
LOL!!!!!

A man today wanting to get married is a form of mental illness. Any man that wants marriage has already demonstrated though his desire for marriage, that he is emotionally and mentally incapable of making decisions, so the act should be null and void due to incompetence.
 

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LOL!!!!!

A man today wanting to get married is a form of mental illness. Any man that wants marriage has already demonstrated though his desire for marriage, that he is emotionally and mentally incapable of making decisions, so the act should be null and void due to incompetence.
Well said.
 

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The problem is, you cannot evolve past what nature has already coded for you in your genes. I have realized that with this particular mindset, there is a reason why it is not natural inherent behavior in people (just like everything else).
the unique ability of the human being is to not be ruled totally by their biology, humans do biology defying things all the time
 

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the unique ability of the human being is to not be ruled totally by their biology, humans do biology defying things all the time
But not with reproduction. That’s something you cannot change. Just because someone can cut their **** off and get surgery to have a vagina placed their instead doesn’t mean they’re a woman now
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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devilkingx2

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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