Let's say you never had a GF or any real dating life until 24-30, this question is for you. Was dating better, worse or the same as what you had imagined it to be?
I've suffered a lot in my life emotionally as a consequence of not having any semblance of a dating life. I think humans are social creatures and we need both platonic and romantic companionship to feel mentally balanced - every social recluse I've ever met was mentally damaged. Last year, I met a beautiful, very intelligent and very sweet woman in her 30s that I thought I would give it a try. I was seeing her for about a month to 2 months and oh my lord, it was even better than I ever imagined dating would be. I loved having her all over me, I loved having quality conversations with her - we went to a country music concert and she was super affectionate, probably one of the best nights of my life (as sad as that is to say). The problem was that she was a single mom with 2 kids and I knew I wouldn't be happy with that situation long term, even though I tried. I absolutely hated breaking it off with her, because I knew she would be very happy with me long term. She thought I was gorgeous, our chemistry was phenomenal and she would have loved to be with me in terms of how well I handle the financial aspect of things (i'm sure it's very difficult handling 2 kids being a single mom nowadays, I don't think she was getting a ton in terms of child support).
It just made me crave the real thing so much more. It made me wonder how much I've missed out in life by not having normal dating development. Then again though, did I just see the rosy side of it and I will think it's overrated once I get into an actual relationship? I'm super chill in real life, if I meet a girl and she is cool at first but she becomes a nagging annoying *****, it will drive me insane.
I've suffered a lot in my life emotionally as a consequence of not having any semblance of a dating life. I think humans are social creatures and we need both platonic and romantic companionship to feel mentally balanced - every social recluse I've ever met was mentally damaged. Last year, I met a beautiful, very intelligent and very sweet woman in her 30s that I thought I would give it a try. I was seeing her for about a month to 2 months and oh my lord, it was even better than I ever imagined dating would be. I loved having her all over me, I loved having quality conversations with her - we went to a country music concert and she was super affectionate, probably one of the best nights of my life (as sad as that is to say). The problem was that she was a single mom with 2 kids and I knew I wouldn't be happy with that situation long term, even though I tried. I absolutely hated breaking it off with her, because I knew she would be very happy with me long term. She thought I was gorgeous, our chemistry was phenomenal and she would have loved to be with me in terms of how well I handle the financial aspect of things (i'm sure it's very difficult handling 2 kids being a single mom nowadays, I don't think she was getting a ton in terms of child support).
It just made me crave the real thing so much more. It made me wonder how much I've missed out in life by not having normal dating development. Then again though, did I just see the rosy side of it and I will think it's overrated once I get into an actual relationship? I'm super chill in real life, if I meet a girl and she is cool at first but she becomes a nagging annoying *****, it will drive me insane.
