"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How do most average guys actually date???

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Most men I know have girlfriends and dating lifes even though most men look like garbage, dress like garbage, make mediocre money and are horrified of cold approaching anybody. With how immensely difficult dating is for me, as a man who is top 0.1 to 5% in everything men get judged on, how does the average man ever date? I just don't get it

It's not like these guys are cold approaching women at bars or gyms or stores. Women at those places make that process insanely difficult. The only guys who have success on online dating look like male models. Most guys I talk to are deathly afraid of cold approaching.

Is everybody just getting lucky meeting someone through friends or work and same thing is not happening to me?
 
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Most men I know have girlfriends and dating lifes even though most men look like garbage, dress like garbage, make mediocre money and are horrified of cold approaching anybody. With how immensely difficult dating is for me, as a man who is top 0.1 to 5% in everything men get judged on, how does the average man ever date? I just don't get it

It's not like these guys are cold approaching women at bars or gyms or stores. Women at those places make that process insanely difficult. The only guys who have success on online dating look like male models. Most guys I talk to are deathly afraid of cold approaching.

Is everybody just getting lucky meeting someone through friends or work and same thing is not happening to me?
i get dates from tinder and badoo
 

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Using confidence and being a challenge. It's not all about the looks bro, ESPECIALLY for men.
 

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Using confidence and being a challenge. It's not all about the looks bro, ESPECIALLY for men.
i get dates from tinder and badoo
neither of you guys are average

the average guy on the street is deathly afraid of cold approaching and is nowhere near attractive enough for online dating. I'm about a 8/10 and I'm not attractive enough for online dating and I'm better looking than 95% of men at least
 

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neither of you guys are average

the average guy on the street is deathly afraid of cold approaching and is nowhere near attractive enough for online dating. I'm about a 8/10 and I'm not attractive enough for online dating and I'm better looking than 95% of men at least
i am not attractive neither lol but ive got shirtless photo
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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muscles don't matter with online dating you dolt

women on dating sites want someone who looks like David Gandy
Yeah he has some muscles.

of course they matter unless thats sarcasm

and why dont you just invite fatties over for sex. do you really need her to be 100% quality if its just for sex.
 

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Yeah he has some muscles.

of course they matter unless thats sarcasm

and why dont you just invite fatties over for sex. do you really need her to be 100% quality if its just for sex.
I don't give a **** about strictly sex

I want a relationship and they have to be extremely high quality...I'm an extremely high quality man.
 

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how extremaly high quality man uses swearings and rages on forums? how is he that DEPENDANT on women?
dependent on women??

dude I would be asexual if I could be. I hate dating, I hate women and I hate that I desire to be with one

if I was asexual, my life would be so awesome - I could just focus on friends/family/hobbies/interests/work everyday
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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We ve told you over and over your issues r internal. You don't want to accept that so if you're not a troll y waste your incredibly valuable time here!
 

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Most men I know have girlfriends and dating lifes even though most men look like garbage, dress like garbage, make mediocre money and are horrified of cold approaching anybody. With how immensely difficult dating is for me, as a man who is top 0.1 to 5% in everything men get judged on, how does the average man ever date? I just don't get it

It's not like these guys are cold approaching women at bars or gyms or stores. Women at those places make that process insanely difficult. The only guys who have success on online dating look like male models. Most guys I talk to are deathly afraid of cold approaching.

Is everybody just getting lucky meeting someone through friends or work and same thing is not happening to me?

They are not emotional basket cases which makes all of the things you think you have virtually worthless. No women wants to be with a fruitloop.
 

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neither of you guys are average

the average guy on the street is deathly afraid of cold approaching and is nowhere near attractive enough for online dating. I'm about a 8/10 and I'm not attractive enough for online dating and I'm better looking than 95% of men at least
A high quality man who’s better looking than 95% of men. But struggles in online dating. By default if you’re 95% better that means you’re a 9.5/10

I would say I’m an 8.5/10 which would make me 85% better than most men. And I ABSOLUTELY clean house in OLD. Something doesn’t add up here
 

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A high quality man who’s better looking than 95% of men. But struggles in online dating. By default if you’re 95% better that means you’re a 9.5/10

I would say I’m an 8.5/10 which would make me 85% better than most men. And I ABSOLUTELY clean house in OLD. Something doesn’t add up here
show us your texting game
 

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Most men I know have girlfriends and dating lifes even though most men look like garbage, dress like garbage, make mediocre money and are horrified of cold approaching anybody. With how immensely difficult dating is for me, as a man who is top 0.1 to 5% in everything men get judged on, how does the average man ever date? I just don't get it
Bco's those men who you describe as garbage are still think they are Somebody, while you, with all your Top Notch "Everything", deep inside you, you still see yourself as Nobody.

 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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A high quality man who’s better looking than 95% of men. But struggles in online dating. By default if you’re 95% better that means you’re a 9.5/10

I would say I’m an 8.5/10 which would make me 85% better than most men. And I ABSOLUTELY clean house in OLD. Something doesn’t add up here
attractiveness is a bell curve

9-10/10 males are like top 0.0001% of men
 

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Bco's those men who you describe as garbage are still think they are Somebody, while you, with all your Top Notch "Everything", deep inside you, you still see yourself as Nobody.
that doesn't answer the question

Is the average guy meeting women via friends only? most men are deathly afraid of approaching women and most are very mediocre looking. Even a 6/10 woman for online sites wants a 10/10 male
 
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A high quality man who’s better looking than 95% of men. But struggles in online dating. By default if you’re 95% better that means you’re a 9.5/10

I would say I’m an 8.5/10 which would make me 85% better than most men. And I ABSOLUTELY clean house in OLD. Something doesn’t add up here
But he is good looking. Don't you agree?

That alone should be enough to get matches.
 
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dependent on women??

dude I would be asexual if I could be. I hate dating, I hate women and I hate that I desire to be with one

if I was asexual, my life would be so awesome - I could just focus on friends/family/hobbies/interests/work everyday
Perhaps you give off a bad vibe? Maybe you have nothing to offer in terms of personality? I said earlier that maybe you are dishonest in how you interact with them because you are obviously angry at them, but you don't show that anger to their face.
 

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Perhaps you give off a bad vibe? Maybe you have nothing to offer in terms of personality? I said earlier that maybe you are dishonest in how you interact with them because you are obviously angry at them, but you don't show that anger to their face.
how would I have nothing to offer in terms of personality? How do you think I make friends everywhere I go? because I'm genuinely a good person and fun to hang out with

I'm all about treating my loved ones well
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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