Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That‘s interesting. I‘ll definitely take a look into that. This woman most certainly has some issues. Thanks.Congratulations, you've just rubbed shoulders with a Cluster B, possibly borderline personality disordered individual. Your best course of action is to leave her to make her own mess of her life and educate yourself on the bullet you have just dodged. The best possible outcome of this experience is that you are a bigger man, let it go and learn to spot these girls in future. Check some of the other posts I've commented on here for an introduction to the borderline female.
Count your blessings and get wise bro.
Ignore this horse ****e......Congratulations, you've just rubbed shoulders with a Cluster B, possibly borderline personality disordered individual. Your best course of action is to leave her to make her own mess of her life and educate yourself on the bullet you have just dodged. The best possible outcome of this experience is that you are a bigger man, let it go and learn to spot these girls in future. Check some of the other posts I've commented on here for an introduction to the borderline female.
Count your blessings and get wise bro.
Ignore this horse ****e......
This is simply a convenient way to not take responsibility for anything that's happened and simply conclude that she must be a "insert mental disorder"........
You will never grow if you take this road....
Within thirty minutes of speaking with any person you should be able to tell if that person is one of life's VICTIMS or if that person takes RESPONSIBILITY for their own life experience....
A prominent feature of VICTIMS is that they throw BLAME on to other people. They blame their parents, their teachers, the government, their friends or lack of friends, the bully who was nasty to them, the clerk in the store who was mean to them one day, the football coach, they blame their exes or they blame women/men in general......for the fact that their life IS NOT THEY WAY THEY FEEL IT SHOULD BE (THEY WAY THE FEEL THEY DESERVE IT SHOULD BE). When they blame other people, it gives them a ready made excuse to NOT BOTHER TAKING ACTION in the present moment and NOT PUSHING THROUGH FEAR...........why bother they say? life has screwed them over you see............VICTIMS TALK ABOUT THE PAST A LOT. They go over the past looking for reasons and pointing their finger at people from the past.....WASTING THEIR PRESENT MOMENTS.....
People who take RESPONSIBILITY for the life experiences REFUSE TO BLAME OTHERS because they know doing so, gives the other person a TREMENDOUS AMOUNT OF CONTROL OVER THEM. People who accept responsibility for their life experience know that THEY and THEY ALONE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR HAPPINESS AND WELL BEING.............
..Victims will say "look what that person did to me" (and seek sympathy) whereas responsible people will ask themselves something like "how did I allow that situation to take place?" or "what's life trying to teach me here?"
Victims will have weak, undefined boundaries or they won't express their boundaries and then they will get passive aggressive when someone crosses their boundaries.....
Responsible people will have strong well defined boundaries and will have no problem saying the word "NO"......
Victims moan and complain about things and situation that are OUTSIDE THEIR CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE......responsible people will work diligently INSIDE THEIR CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE eventually making it grow......
We could go on......
The choice is yours: VICTIM OR RESPONSIBLE
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.