When do girls want a relationship vs just wanna fvck?

[AlphaNoob]

Assuming we're not talking about women who are desperate for a man, then generally speaking, yes. That is a common tactic women will turn to. I've know many attractive, provocative types who suddenly got all respectable when the right man came along. Even some desperate women will hold back and play the respectable role if the guy is the nice guy type who will patiently put up with it.

That's not to say there aren't women out there who use sex to keep a man interested or string a man into a relationship, but in my experience, most of those types end up being manipulators, cheaters, clingers, etc., which is why if you have no particular need to get into a LTR, you should not be apologetic about being honest about it early on. Saves you a lot of BS down the road.....

So girls are sleeping around bc they want sex but have not found the right guy. Is the fact that most men are too feminine causing women to sleep around bc there isn't a strong masculine man to polarize her make her stay? After all David Deida's book taught me that masculine energy is what attracts the feminine energy - something about polarity can't put it into the right words. If the guy isn't creating that polarity, then it would make sense for the girl to fvck many guys.

 

[AlphaNoob]

So girls are sleeping around bc they want sex but have not found the right guy. Is the fact that most men are too feminine causing women to sleep around bc there isn't a strong masculine man to polarize her make her stay? After all David Deida's book taught me that masculine energy is what attracts the feminine energy - the polarity is what creates the attraction. If the guy isn't creating that polarity, then it would make sense for the girl to fvck many guys.

 

[AlphaNoob]

There can be all different kinds of factors in play, and yes masculinity is often a driving force to some degree for decisions made, but what I know for certain is that we all have our needs, even women.

No man, short of church-camp guy, is going to say, "I'm really, really horny, but I want to wait on sex until I'm in a good, solid, loving relationship". Don't believe women are any different. Many may pretend to be like that, but if most women were truly honest, they would admit their minds can often be as dirty and in the sexual gutter as our own.

At some point, single women grow tired of going on 100 first and second dates that ignite no passion and go nowhere. Many times they're sexual needs aren't being met with the whole 3-5 dates of "get to know you before sex" stuff, especially if the guy turns out to be an atrocity 3 dates in and she has to start over with some other dude. Eventually, they just say "fvck it", go on a date or two, get drunk and get themselves some nasty. Then they have standards again, until the horny comes back.

There always comes a point in the life of every sexually active adult where you just can't hold out and wait for that "great" person anymore, because it takes too damn long to find them. The same is true of people coming out of dead relationships. Rebound sex. Perfect example. Not looking for the LTR. Just gotta get some for the itch.

We all have our needs, and we're all going to appease them when the time it takes to hold up on high standards is grinding on us.

Thanks for the reply that makes a lot of sense now.
I used to have close to no sexual drive with women because I was still on porn. I always told myself she's not good enough and that I would was going to wait until I meet someone good enough. Little did I know that was just an excuse and that my sexual drive was not high enough to actually put in the effort to get a real girl. I just assumed that was the case for everyone, but now I realize ppl will lower their standards to get their needs met. When I got off of porn and then I started to find more girls attractive that I would not have found attractive before.

 

[Reykhel]

No offense but this is a sort of dumb question....

the answer is that you really shouldn't care.......believe me when i say life will smooth along just nice when you adopt
that mind set.....

Think about the present moment and then....think about the next meet....bring fun to that meet and enjoy yourself.....after? chill out relax and think about the next meet.....

NEVER THINK BEYOND THE NEXT MEET WITH A GIRL

 

[skinnyguy]

Most women just want pump and dump that’s why they go on tinder. If you’re a man who says he wants a relationship you’ll get laughed at.

 

[derby1]

Most women just want pump and dump that’s why they go on tinder.

this is not quite true, most women i have sex with become emotionally attached to me, women are emotional jealous beings