When do girls want a relationship vs just wanna fvck?

[AlphaNoob]

I'm only 21 need some wisdom,
I do not have a large enough sample size nor the experience yet, but the two girls that I have came across recently both wanted a relationship rather than just hooking up. I don't really understand how to play it so that she only wants the latter. How do you get the girl to only want something casual? Maybe it's because she ends up asking me about my GPA and sh1t and then I end up telling them my career aspiration of being a physician blah blah blah.
Or am I missing something here? Do you have to game all the girls the same way and then say you don't want a relationship when she brings up the topic??
How do I properly handle the relationship topic when it does get brought up?? I feel guilty for telling a girl that bc it feels like I'm hurting her emotionally

 

[old_skoolr]

Tell the truth.

Your not after anything serious, being a DJ isnt about convincing a girl something, but showing your value as a man and telling what you want from the relationship if there is one.

Never hide what you want, if you want something casual then tell them, if you lose them oh well, you get on with your life.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

I believe that a "relationship" is an imaginary concept. I don't think it exists in reality.

Maybe that's part of my problem? Maybe I'm too smart for this sh1t.

 

[AlphaNoob]

I believe that a "relationship" is an imaginary concept. I don't think it exists in reality.

Maybe that's part of my problem? Maybe I'm too smart for this sh1t.

When I first found this site I thought the same too. But really though? What about when you have this one girl on your mind even if you have another on lying next to you in bed. There is only so much you can do to control/suppress emotions

 

[RichardTheFrog]

When I first found this site I thought the same too. But really though? What about when you have this one girl on your mind even if you have another on lying next to you in bed. There is only so much you can do to control/suppress emotions

That situation would never happen to me.

You don't lie in bed with prostitutes, and I don't think I could do that for free.

 

[AlphaNoob]

That situation would never happen to me.

You don't lie in bed with prostitutes, and I don't think I could do that for free.

So would you just not have deep conversations during the interactions and try to not get to know her too well to avoid catching feelings?

 

[RichardTheFrog]

So would you just not have deep conversations during the interactions and try to not get to know her too well to avoid catching feelings?

I don't really know what a deep conversation sounds like.

I have very few interactions, and they usually last just a few seconds. Most of my conversations in person are factual. I could talk for hours with a lady working at a bank about lending options, for example. Male or female, no difference because it's a factual conversation of things I actually want to know.

Online, I'm a huge creep on pay sites. Sometimes even too sexual for girls on Seeking Arrangement.

I don't get enough matches on free online sites for them to be worth my time.

 

[AlphaNoob]

I don't really know what a deep conversation sounds like.

I have very few interactions, and they usually last just a few seconds. Most of my conversations in person are factual. I could talk for hours with a lady working at a bank about lending options, for example. Male or female, no difference because it's a factual conversation of things I actually want to know.

Online, I'm a huge creep on pay sites. Sometimes even too sexual for girls on Seeking Arrangement.

I don't get enough matches on free online sites for them to be worth my time.

Hmm interesting. I think I tend to rear towards the deep conversation of like what it was like growing up, family, and I guess things you don't share with just anyone. Maybe that's what cements the emotions

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Hmm interesting. I think I tend to rear towards the deep conversation of like what it was like growing up, family, and I guess things you don't share with just anyone. Maybe that's what cements the emotions

Yea I had a friend in high school who got a lot of girls. I would always hear him talking about pu$$y sh1t like his pet cat dying.

 

[AlphaNoob]

Tell the truth.

Your not after anything serious, being a DJ isnt about convincing a girl something, but showing your value as a man and telling what you want from the relationship if there is one.

Never hide what you want, if you want something casual then tell them, if you lose them oh well, you get on with your life.

When is a good time to tell her you don't want anything serious? Like from day 1? The very first interaction when it's starting to go somewhere?

 

[AlphaNoob]

Yea I had a friend in high school who got a lot of girls. I would always hear him talking about pu$$y sh1t like his pet cat dying.

LOL maybe he was engaging their emotions. It is human after all

 

[RichardTheFrog]

LOL maybe he was engaging their emotions. It is human after all

I guess that's what I don't do. Or at least ONE of the things I don't do.

 

[sosousage]

Thats very good question!


I usually lie and say that I look for fulfilling relationship. I say that sex is important but its not what I base relationship on. This somehow makes them agree for first date (assuming the conversation was funny).


The chicks that say they are up for casual sex are Either much rarer or either are just scared of opinion.

I usually open the convo saying something about hardcore sex.

Then they all go mad saying how dumb I am.

Then I say i mean hardcore relationship* lol.

at this point these that want relationship will continue talking with me, and these who want sex might straight point it out.


Usually these up just for sex are 21-25, very beatiful, a lot of fanboys, rich instagram profiles. some of them are mad that they had sex partner but he caught feelings (lol) and they are looking for replacement.



but the ones saying it upfront they want just sex when asked (or even not asked) usually have a lot of bodybuilders male plates

 

[marmel75]

They want to fvck around the time they are ovulating if you are a high testosterone male.

 

[Macaframalama]

Just don't bring it up at all. Rest assured, that she will bring it up if that's what she's wanting. They will usually hint around or say something like... "So, what are we or what is this?" Be honest and tell her. Don't hold back on the convos either. It's just like any other situation. Do what you want to do and say what you want to say.

 

[derby1]

if she says nothing you say nothing

dont **** in your own yard

spin other plates in other villages

Less is more when you spk to them, no pouring your heart out BS, cancel on them a few times with notice"! not as a last minute PUA fck around

ive had to cancel on a plate tonight cause of work, its put her head into a spin shes messaged saying shes a bit down now etc, keep her on the ropes

Shes now Messaged "Theres nothing more desirable than a hard working man"

its magic how it works, but you must actually be busy that is your mindset , not to cancel or text 2 hours later as a game plan

This is what Men do they mess in the kitchen, the DJ that initially made the woman fall head over heels with his cake recipe, instead of leaving to rise, he opens the oven door half way through, over analyzing! Becomes the woman in the relationship

 

[Urbanyst]

Women use sex to get relationships and to get kids made from good sperm. If you are HOT, then she definitely wants to f*ck. Instinctively, she would rather risk pregnancy with a high VALUE guy who has good genes, even if it means the kids get raised by some nerd.

When they are confident they can get and keep a relationship without sex, they put you in the friend zone lol.

 

[AlphaNoob]

They want to fvck when they get horny after being in a sexually stale relationship too long or cant find a decent guy to get into one with.

They want a relationship when they're sexually content and grow tired of fvcking guys that lead nowhere.

So if you are the decent guy that comes along then she doesn't want to just fvck. She will hold off sex to try to get to know you and what not?

 

[derby1]

So if you are the decent guy that comes along then she doesn't want to just fvck. She will hold off sex to try to get to know you and what not?

you do not take these women out and wine and dine on first dates or 2nd dates spending money
Probs 30 uk pound sterlings max!!! thats about 2 hours of drinks plus she should put her hand in her purse aswell, says a lot about her

by then you should have escalated back to yours wheres theres more drinks!!! this = sex in a womans head however you have worded it in a none game manner

 

[derby1]

2017..... 99% bang on the first date if circumstances allow

Also dont believe any of that BS that comes out the womans mouth when shes wet as FCk saying its been so long........

it was last week Sharon you liar with your other plate