Decent first date, then no response.

[Trump]

Curious what this forum thinks.

Friend of a friend gives me a number of a girl. I text her ‘hi how are you, etc, etc.’ thinking of doing the usual coffee date. Then I’m thinking screw coffee, I had 2 tickets to a hockey game next day and invited her over text without seeing what she looks like. She said ok and to pick her up from her place. She looks ok, and we go to the game.

She was touching me within 10 min of meeting, laughing, drinking from my cup. Conversation during the game is very comfortable, could have flowed a bit better. I didn’t say anything about future events, or I am in love, or she looked good, or let’s do this again, or anything like comic books, or video games, or dates, or ex boyfriends, or previous sex partners or whatever. Drop her off, hug, kiss. Text 3-4 days later, no response.

I’m starting to think I’m over estimating their interest level, or should I push for the sex a little more?

 

[Glassguy]

What did you say when you texted her last?

 

[TheGambino]

Could be loads of stuff. She sees another guy and got fed up with him so decided to take her chances with you, shes not attracted enough to date again, so better options. Could be that she was out for ONS and leave it at that (happened to me too several times), so other better options.

Could be that she's testing the waters right now with ignoring you (low interest).

Basically it could be anything but assume that her interest level is low. I got a girl I flaked on yesterday because im all in the cryptocurrencies and don't got time to date, she blowed up my phone (date 2 was supposed to happen) after I flaked 2 hours earlier to convince me too come over.

When they like you they will be clingy and needy too, so assume low interest, she wouldn't ignore you and risk losing you if she was all over you. Dead case until she texts you back and says something like ''hey how are you it was so fun!''

 

[Trump]

What did you say when you texted her last?

Just invited her out for lunch over the weekend. Nothing mind blowing or sexy or offensive.

 

[Glassguy]

You invited her, she didnt respond. She obviously died or chose not to reply back.

She also knows how to reach you in the future should she change her mind (and if you're still interested if she reaches out).

Next.

 

[QuadDeuces]

She's not interested, move on.
Don't send more texts.

 

[Bob S]

Difficult to say from the information you provided. However, if she didn't reply do not pursue further via text as you will seem needy. She got your message and didn't reply. She is not as into you as you thought. She was all over you to get your interest. She is likely seeing other men and did the same to them. If you meet her in person, you could ask if she wants to do something else sometime and if she says no to that drop it for good. Chase other women over her.

 

[claudolfgeorgini]

Why did you wait 3-4 days to text her after the date? She probably lost interest

 

[Trump]

Why did you wait 3-4 days to text her after the date? She probably lost interest

Wait 2-3 days to text. Sosuave: Why did rush 2-3 days to text? Now she knows you have no options
Wait 3-4 days to text. Sosuave: Why did wait 3-4 days to text? She probably lost interest.

You invited her, she didnt respond. She obviously died or chose not to reply back.

She also knows how to reach you in the future should she change her mind (and if you're still interested if she reaches out).

Next.

Agree.

 

[resilient]

I’m leaning that she has other options and that’s why she has chosen not to reply back or her interest level cooled down based off date1 and the text game.

On the date, I think she gave you some interest with the flirting/kino, how did you flirt back? We’re you receptive, fun cool all-around vibe? If you were standoff-ish she may have thought you had low-interest in her.

Also, how as the body language after that kiss? Many women will judge whether or not to accept a second date based off that kiss because they’re hamstring yay or nay chemistry between you two.

 

[nismo-4]

A first date only went well if you get a second, and her actions back it up.

Your princess is in another castle.

When it comes to dating, second place is first loser. You need to come in first, and stay in first.

If it doesn't matter whether you win or lose, then why the f**k do they keep score?

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Yeah I've had this a few times & then poof. Not specifically a hockey game but a big event (concert etc.) in general. I wouldn't recommend it as a first date. Next time invite a buddy to the game, he'd probably enjoy it more.

1st meet up is typically more relaxed and chill. Hockey games are for buddies & or gfs, maybe a plate?

I like to call it....1st date overkill?

 

[claudolfgeorgini]

Wait 2-3 days to text. Sosuave: Why did rush 2-3 days to text? Now she knows you have no options
Wait 3-4 days to text. Sosuave: Why did wait 3-4 days to text? She probably lost interest.



Agree.

Yeah I joined this site not too long ago. I don't know everyone else's stance on this. I'm a "move fast before another guy does" type of guy.

 

[marmel75]

Wait 2-3 days to text. Sosuave: Why did rush 2-3 days to text? Now she knows you have no options
Wait 3-4 days to text. Sosuave: Why did wait 3-4 days to text? She probably lost interest.



Agree.

I stopped paying attention to "timing" rules long ago and have been much better for it. 3-4 days is pushing into an auto-reject territory from my experience unless she is REALLY interested in you.