"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Evaluate my clubbing experience

doctor1996

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Hi All,

A group of friends and I decided to go clubbing. We drank before going to the clubs. I was very much drunk. We enter a club, and mid-way through, I start trying to talk to girls.. Well, I noticed I was more physical as in I was touching them. Regardless, I got turned down a few times. Talked to a few lesbians. A mother.

Particularly, I do remember, I went up to two girls, and asked for their names, and said it's my birthday. They started dancing on me. I was interested in the other girl. Her friend left. But she was still dancing with me. I then bought her a drink, got her name, and number. Her boyfriend decided to come over, and was about to fight me.. My friends stepped in, but I mean.. I texted her today, and no response. I'm not sure if I ruined a relationship or not, but I don't care.

How can I improve my club game? Any tips? I was very drunk.

I do remember trying to get this girls number. She was with her friend. She told me her name. She was about to give me her number, but I asked for her name again, and she got mad at me. Additionally, I was really physical with her. And she told me it was a little creepy. I don't know why I said my jacket was worth 800 dollars, it's a Canada goose jacket. She told me it was weird that I had my jacket on, and she told me I was getting cranberry vodka on my 800 dollar jacket. I eventually gave up on her, and got her friends number, but she wasn't attractive.


I am failing miserably. I also wasted 100 dollars.. On how many girls I don't know. I might have subconsciously been an AFC, and still probably am but I dont want to be one.

I also got kicked out of two clubs..
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Dont be drunk...worst thing you can do you will act stupid. Have a drink, maybe two max.
 

Jetleg

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Are you really a doc? You sound like you are 18, not to be mean or anything. step up your game. Clubbing is for fun, girls are extra.

Imo clubs arent the place to meet girls, its loud, everyone are too drunk to even enjoy it and if you take numbers, they wont answer. Unless you are aiming for just a grind sex or For a bj in some dirty toilets, clubbing is not for you.

Maybe im getting too old for this sh!t
 

doctor1996

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Are you really a doc? You sound like you are 18, not to be mean or anything. step up your game. Clubbing is for fun, girls are extra.

Imo clubs arent the place to meet girls, its loud, everyone are too drunk to even enjoy it and if you take numbers, they wont answer. Unless you are aiming for just a grind sex or For a bj in some dirty toilets, clubbing is not for you.

Maybe im getting too old for this sh!t
In college, preparing to become a doctor
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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doctor1996

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you cant rush things.

things are going to suck often. especially when youre just starting out. embrace that fact.

eventually things will also *click* and they will go much smoother.

ive gotten kicked out of plenty of places in my past whether through my own actions or not.

you did way better than some guy thats still paralyzed by approach anxiety and just stood by the wall. theres grown men that still act like this.

too much confidence > too little

at your age this behavior is all normal. i would consider you a loser if you werent out acting this way. some people dont break out of their shell until mid 20s and then try making up for it.

eventually you will learn how to control your liquor intake and impulse control.

this shlt all takes time to kick in
I didn't go to school today, so I couldn't spin any plates. Thanksgiving break
 
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