10's down the garbage

[Macaframalama]

Just the fact that she was so so so so beautiful and my arrogance and confidence ruined it

Don't over-awe at her and pedestalize. You did nothing wrong with your conversation, other than failing to build rapport first. Don't lose your confidence by making too much out of this. You most likely can recover from this. If you are confident enough, you can try to go "natural" and admit your error in being too aggressive with her, and making a simple apology. Spin your aggressiveness into a positive. Women like a man that goes after what he wants. You are ambitious and approached her like you would approach your career, forgetting the human element. Try to banter with your misstep and be as genuine and human as possible.

 

[doctor1996]

I asked her how she was feeling about her midterm and was typing then stopped... And hasn't replied

 

[Macaframalama]

I asked her how she was feeling about her midterm and was typing then stopped... And hasn't replied

Just let this one go, unless she reaches out. You picked up on these, you can pick up more. Just take your time and don't pedestalize them. Learn how to banter and build rapport.

 

[wifehunter]

She knows what you want. Could you be anymore obvious?

Whatever happened to leaving space for mystery?

You know, she has 50 other guys tryng to get into her pants, too.

You're orbiting.

 

[doctor1996]

She knows what you want. Could you be anymore obvious?

Whatever happened to leaving space for mystery?

You know, she has 50 other guys tryng to get into her pants, too.

You're orbiting.

I'm so confused. You guys are saying be a mystery, yet at the same time be direct

 

[doctor1996]

Just let this one go, unless she reaches out. You picked up on these, you can pick up more. Just take your time and don't pedestalize them. Learn how to banter and build rapport.

Yeah I am

 

[wifehunter]

I'm so confused. You guys are saying be a mystery, yet at the same time be direct

I can see how you would be confused. These days, the forum is polarized. Chasee vs. Chaser

Chasing/persuing women is counterproductive and doesn't end well. One might get laid, but you were just a disposable 'boy toy'.

Success is landing a quality chick, and not doing much to make that happen. Make them work for once!

Go be you, go be awesome!

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

I got a couple of numbers at Starbucks today [ridiculously easy]. The key is not to just get the number, but have a good interaction with her. The number swap should almost appear accidental and not so deliberate... it's like you've already half organized to do something another time... and the number will just facilitate this happening.

When you text, you have to appear a bit blasé... like you are not desperate to meet. Text anything you like to communicate a cool but respectful attitude.

I am going out for a beer tonite with a mate, and am not even worried about meeting women. Simply from day 'game', I have two dates organized and five potential others lined up for next week....

 

[TheGambino]

Sheit, I got 1 steady plate that’s All, lost my rotation... dropped a couple and backburned. So yeah, Lets spin Some tonight

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Agreed with the others above. Too direct and too specific, way too soon. You have no idea if she even likes coffee, if she does, she may well prefer another brand. And as I always say, going for coffee is her standard gal pal, gay bestie date. You really wanna lump yourself in with that crowd? Use some imagination sausage.

You've really got to give them reason to even continue in conversation, a USP, something that sets you aside from every other schmuck that's hounding her. Humour is your best friend when it comes to dealing with women.

You should also learn to not take it so personally when someone isn't interested, which I don't think this one ever was. She barely invested a dozen characters in the conversation. Women who are in to you make it easy for you. Also learn to gauge interest level early on.

 

[derby1]

perhaps there should have been a little more report building,,,,he can be as charasmatic as clark kent in The original superman, it dont matter because if she liked him shed have gone for a drink ......Ive already told him to cease communication but he wont....................................................

 

[derby1]

Also just to clarify to everyone so were all clear these text convos OP is having...he is literally ****ting the pot when he is left on read and not replied to within 10 minutes, if she gets back to you in a days time SO WHAT she hardly knows you she may be seeing if you pursue, she may have a family emergency

OP NEEDS TO GET OUT THIS STATE OF MIND

 

[Atom Smasher]

I prefer to go a more natural route. I build a bit of rapport and connection and then see if she is sufficiently interested for me to escalate to a get-together. By the time I ask her out, I already know she'll jump on it and say yes.

 

[Toddz]

You asked her out way too soon. Build some comfort, rapport, and get to know each other a little bit next time... You obviously don't need to know each other's life story before meeting, but you do need to make her comfortable and curious. Try to imagine yourself from her perspective for a second. You have to make her interested in YOU and want to meet YOU, but that doesn't mean you should try to impress her in anyway coming off desperate. You get that by your lifestyle while remaining mysterious. She already knows you are interested in her, you asked for her number. Now it's her turn. Remember, women are a byproduct of your life, and should never be your focus.

Chess, not checkers.

 

[doctor1996]

What makes the tactics on this site different from what a PUA would do. Now, I feel like a PUA, and it seems very scummy. I don't understand. No plates left either

The only thing happening is, I think next Friday this girl that's into me is coming drinking. I'm not into her as much, but she has a nice personality. I think while drunk something may happen.

 

[marmel75]

Getting numbers these days is near meaningless. Just looking at the few word responses I can tell these women arent interested.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

What makes the tactics on this site different from what a PUA would do. Now, I feel like a PUA, and it seems very scummy. I don't understand. No plates left either

The only thing happening is, I think next Friday this girl that's into me is coming drinking. I'm not into her as much, but she has a nice personality. I think while drunk something may happen.

These "tactics" are typically considered normal natural game. Building rapport is the foundation for any and ALL relationships, male or female. You are pre-med and you can't comprehend this? I learned this shït almost 20yrs ago in high school. This is PSYC 101, how do you not know this?

I'm trying to understand why you think it's scummy as well.

 

[derby1]

OP i know you wont be happy with any advice we give you and your gonna go and do exactly what the little devil on your shoulder is telling you to do MUST FIX NOW MUST FIX NOW i did it about 4 months back.......BUT NOW.....the woman who i had that loser attitude with has just come back into my life and because i dont "NEED" her she constantly wants to be with ME

 

[Macaframalama]

What makes the tactics on this site different from what a PUA would do. Now, I feel like a PUA, and it seems very scummy. I don't understand. No plates left either

The only thing happening is, I think next Friday this girl that's into me is coming drinking. I'm not into her as much, but she has a nice personality. I think while drunk something may happen.

What makes the tactics on this site different from what a PUA would do. Now, I feel like a PUA, and it seems very scummy. I don't understand. No plates left either

The only thing happening is, I think next Friday this girl that's into me is coming drinking. I'm not into her as much, but she has a nice personality. I think while drunk something may happen.

Don't wait until next Friday. That's how dudes end up not getting laid for weeks on end. Get something going tonight. Round up the friends and hit a bar tonight or house party and take advantage of messenger to start building your skills and your rotation in the meantime.

 

[doctor1996]

Chess, not checkers.[/QUOTE]

These "tactics" are typically considered normal natural game. Building rapport is the foundation for any and ALL relationships, male or female. You are pre-med and you can't comprehend this? I learned this shït almost 20yrs ago in high school. This is PSYC 101, how do you not know this?

I'm trying to understand why you think it's scummy as well.

I'm a little socially inept. Additionally, I was just frustrated. But every girl I ran game on, I did the same thing. Maybe because it was so repetitive, I think it's similar to a pua