"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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amaterasu

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Hi all.

Why don't we post the conversations that we currently have with a woman, and ask anyone who's interested here to participate of what you think I should reply to her?

I thought this would be fun and helpful too, so ill start it off with this chick that I new before on facebook but only met her for the first time in an event.

During the event, with her boyfriend:

Chick: Hey, I see you are the photographer of this event, may I request some photos of me?

Me: Yes, ill send it to the organizer and she'll send it to you.

Chick: But you can send it to me on facebook.

Me: Ok no problem.

After the Event, pmd me on facebook:

Chick: Hi Goodmorning, do you have the pictures? :)

Me: ill just send it to you here on fb once I finished editing all of it :)

Chick: Ok.

The next morning chick suddenly asks:

Chick: Hi, I didn't know that you were friends with my boyfriend. Since when? long time ago?

Me: He just added me on facebook yesterday, but I can see that you are not friends with him on facebook? why?

Chick: Oh, we are totally on a war mode, we are not ok together. He is now my ex.

I was just shocked when he suddenly appeared there.

Me: Oh I see, war? really? hehe. Then why does he know you are there on that event.

Chick: Because I already told him when we're still together.

Me: Oh ok, here are the pictures btw, what do you think?

Chick: Yehey! Absolutely wonderful!


What do you think DJs? :D

What's your reply if you were me?
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Chick: Oh, we are totally on a war mode, we are not ok together. He is now my ex.
Get her out on a date ASAP. @Glassguy would probably know a good line / date offer to seal the deal for a date. Don't waste time on this one. She wants a new man.
 

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Get her out on a date ASAP. @Glassguy would probably know a good line / date offer to seal the deal for a date. Don't waste time on this one. She wants a new man.
Ok, but I want to know how would you respond too if you were in my shoes?

Just give it a try :D
 

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"Hey I gotta run but I would like to keep the conversation going. Why dont we meet up at ______ at ___pm on _______day and grab a quick drink".

Dont use a question mark at the end.
 

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Or if you really want to go for the kill:

"Glad you liked them. I did notice that you have a very nice (smile, eyes, etc) when I edited the pics ;). I am super busy and gotta run, but I am going to head over to _____for a quick drink ____night around _____pm. Why dont you head over and we will grab a drink and resume this conversation there".
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ok, but I want to know how would you respond too if you were in my shoes?

Just give it a try :D
I like Glass response with his time constraint and conveying being busy / less available.

The more direct you are with specifics, the more you lead as a man. Women don't want a wishy-washy guy. They want a guy who knows what he wants and goes after it.

If you're near a beach or a scenic place, I would invite her out to a shoot and then tell her you'll take her to your favorite local place to eat/drink.

"Hey my schedule is full this week, yet I'm doing a quick shoot for a client that needs some stock photos for her brochure, why don't you meet me at __ day at ___am/pm, and we can get a bite/drink to eat at my favorite local spot."

The whole point is to ask her out on a date while her interest level is high. She won't think you're confident or interested in her if you don't move on it.
 

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Or if you really want to go for the kill:

"Glad you liked them. I did notice that you have a very nice (smile, eyes, etc) when I edited the pics ;). I am super busy and gotta run, but I am going to head over to _____for a quick drink ____night around _____pm. Why dont you head over and we will grab a drink and resume this conversation there".
Thanks Glass!

Looks like you're the go to guy when it come to bait lines.

I'll keep in touch with you :D
 

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Thanks Glass!

Looks like you're the go to guy when it come to bait lines.

I'll keep in touch with you :D
I never look at them as bait lines. I just state what I want and they either accept or decline. And I'm good either way ;)
 
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