"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl I like clearly thinks I'm a player. Bad thing?

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Lol she now thinks I'm like Tyrion and Ned Stark from Game of Thrones.


She thinks I'm the former because he ****s every girl around, and Ned because he likes what's 'just'.


Don't know what to think about this.

I know she probably thinks I'm a player, though, she certainly alludes to that.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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No worries, be simple, fun and sweet. Let her wonder and be mystery never say yeah I am.
 
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TheGambino said:
No worries, be simple, fun and sweet. Let her wonder and be mystery never say yeah I am.
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So you don't think this is necessarily a bad thing, do you?

She does tease me quite a lot about it.
 
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Desdinova said:
It's not a bad thing. Women like the challenge of "taming" their men. Just don't let her think it bothers you. If anything, show her you wear that badge and let your sexual desires flow. She'll love it.
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Is it a sign she likes me?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Advice from the old lady:

Perhaps. Own who you are without apology.

As long as she's playful about it (as opposed to neurotic or insecure) you're good.

Just enjoy each other & let things develop organically. Good things happen existing in the present. No need to create paralysis of analysis here.
 
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Not a bad thing at all. Just be playful and it will be fine.
 
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