How important is what women say in the heat of the moment or in the heat of a discussion?

[lizardking82]

You saw the question in the title. Say a woman tells you something that offends you, or even something intentionally disrespectful. Taking into account they are mainly emotional creatures, is it just a feeling of the moment or you take it seriously if she crosses your lines?

 

[Urbanyst]

Depends on if her statement is true or false.

 

[Atom Smasher]

I always hold women accountable for their inane comments. I will usually say something subtle but firm in order to indicate NOT my disapproval as much as the factual stupidity of her comment.

We as men need to hold women accountable for what they say and do, without fail. The whole reason we are in the mess we are in is because men have abdicated their authority and position of rational guidance.

Having said that, I will usually let some things slide in the heat of the moment. Interestingly, with my gf of 1.5 years, there hasn't been even one heated exchange. But with other women, depending on the circumstance, I might say, "i'll let what you said slide because it was in the heat of the moment", just to let them know I'm aware and judging what she says. We men should always cultivate a frame of judging everything she says, not the other way around. Once that dynamic is established, a man can loosen up and enjoy light, spontaneous conversation with her because she's learned to avoid pushing against your boundaries.

Have you guys noticed that in day to day observation, we can see a subtle dynamic of the woman judging everything about the man, even in casual conversation? We need to reverse that. I'm able to do it, and my life is a lot easier now because of it, and women respect me because of it.

You are a man. It is your privilege to judge every woman's words and actions within your sphere.

I think the "ignore it" school is dead wrong. It is possible to point out a woman's foolish or disrespectful words without appearing invested or ruffled. It is more like conveying surprise that a woman can be so foolish. Sort of a surprised amusement, with a dash of "how sad".

 

[lizardking82]

I always hold women accountable for their inane comments. I will usually say something subtle but firm in order to indicate NOT my disapproval as much as the factual stupidity of her comment.

We as men need to hold women accountable for what they say and do, without fail. The whole reason we are in the mess we are in is because men have abdicated their authority and position of rational guidance.

Having said that, I will usually let some things slide in the heat of the moment. Interestingly, with my gf of 1.5 years, there hasn't been even one heated exchange. But with other women, depending on the circumstance, I might say, "i'll let what you said slide because it was in the heat of the moment", just to let them know I'm aware and judging what she says. We men should always cultivate a frame of judging everything she says, not the other way around. Once that dynamic is established, a man can loosen up and enjoy light, spontaneous conversation with her because she's learned to avoid pushing against your boundaries.

Have you guys noticed that in day to day observation, we can see a subtle dynamic of the woman judging everything about the man, even in casual conversation? We need to reverse that. I'm able to do it, and my life is a lot easier now because of it, and women respect me because of it.

You are a man. It is your privilege to judge every woman's words and actions within your sphere.

I think the "ignore it" school is dead wrong. It is possible to point out a woman's foolish or disrespectful words without appearing invested or ruffled. It is more like conveying surprise that a woman can be so foolish. Sort of a surprised amusement, with a dash of "how sad".

Thank you for being one of the few people to take the time to write a proper answer.

I completely agree. I hold them accountable for every little thing. Thing is, gotta find a kind of balance because some women will say silly to stupid things all time. If she keeps on saying things like that often, it becomes a problem and I judge whether it is worth continuing with the whole thing or not. But I also say no matter what the context or the situation, do tell her what you think she said that's stupid. Always.

 

[lizardking82]

Let me try again then for somthing more proper. Context.

Lets say she comes home and that afternoon her mom pissed her off to no end. So you can tell shes fumeing and you say somthing and she calls you an azzhole. Ok or whatever might erk you. So if you have any awareness youll know that her frustration is being vented BECAUSE OF her mom. Not you.
So you may let it slide.

Next context is your out with friends having FUN tbe vibe is good and maybe shes under the radar moody or somthing.
And while shes telling a story you throw a mild piece of your opinion in there or a neg maybe and she then openly tells you to shut the fck up azzhole im talking. Shes obviously just being disrespectful dik. This one is a boundry perhaps for you.
Context is alot with what a lady is saying. Tied in with her actions. Woman_ese is a real language.

No, dude, I don't agree with you for the simple reason that when I am pissed off with my own things, I don't go around taking my nerves out on the person I like/love. I solve it with myself. If she does that, she is losing some good points with me.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Right. A woman should always fear losing you and should not feel free to dump on you. You are not a dumping ground for her to unload on so she feels better.

 

[highSpeed]

Thank you for being one of the few people to take the time to write a proper answer.

I completely agree. I hold them accountable for every little thing. Thing is, gotta find a kind of balance because some women will say silly to stupid things all time. If she keeps on saying things like that often, it becomes a problem and I judge whether it is worth continuing with the whole thing or not. But I also say no matter what the context or the situation, do tell her what you think she said that's stupid. Always.

If she keeps saying stupid things, move on man, move on. Look, if you were going to, at any point, seriously consider a LTR with this person and she's already saying stupid as* sh*t? What's it going to be like when you live together? Buy a house together? Get married? Have kids together? None of those life situations is going to decrease her saying stupid sh*t. So if you're supposed to be in the interview/honeymoon phase of the relationship and she's already saying stupid sh*t? Time to move on or time to simply bust a nut on her face when you need to and move on.

 

[lizardking82]

Well lizard i respect your opinion dude. But tell me whens the last time you met a woman that could handle her emotions??

If that example of context wasnt clear to.you i cant help you then. Your not there yet. Keep searching

I have met women who were able to control their emotions most of the time and even when they did go off, they went off in a way that doesn't break your balls. And then there's women, most of them, who do what you said up there, coming home and fuming about her mom that pissed her off. That is disrespectful and I will let that be known. If it continues, she's off. I am not gonna be with some woman just not to be alone. I will be with her if I get positive energy and a good time most of the time.

The example of context was quite clear to me. I would maybe tolerate the first case at first, but it would cast doubts about the overall stability of this person for sure. You know what the problem is? Most people do not have a personal standard of wanting to feel good most of the time in their relationship. They will take just about anything solely for the purpose of getting that pusy in the end. Personally, since a good deal of months, I am at peace with myself and with who I am and I am that everyday more and more. My energy is quite positive most of the time and if some woman or person thinks they will be able to act ****ty around me and stay close to me, that's not gonna happen. When I meet a new woman, I am calm and composed. If she ****s up big time with some things, it takes away the positive, good feeling I had about her and in general, people who do that end up getting out of my life anyways.I look at the "little" things in the beginning because that is when you're the least emotionally involved and you have a chance to evaluate what this relationship might look like in the future. If you have fights often with a woman in the first few weeks or months, it will probably just become ****tier over time. I quit that. Definitely. Standard is quite high now. Am only gonna stay with a woman who is up to my standard and I have had them and I know they are out there. I will have that and only that for a relationship. Otherwise, I can have good sex with other girls and all is fine.

 

[Trump]

Taking into account they are mainly emotional creatures, is it just a feeling of the moment or you take it seriously if she crosses your lines?

You have to take it seriously. If you don't take it seriously she can always cross the line and not be worried about the outcome.

Don't be a sucker.