"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Progress Report - 8 months at the Gym compared to 6 months

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  • On the left is the photo I showed earlier at 225 lb (mirrored as the other photo is mirrored).
  • On the right is me Sunday at 215 lb (right after I ran into my ex who I hadn't seen since May).
My skin is shinier now as I've removed toxins. I got my body into a fat burning state and I'm dropping one pound per week. @guru1000 who requested updates, thanks.

I am 6'5".

 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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My body really started looking ripped when I started doing burpees and pull ups. I have a better body now than I did in my 20's and I used to work out in my 20's too.. but not as much as now.
 

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Honestly you lost some weight but my God man...does your trainer have you lifting weights? I see no muscular progress at all...for 8 months if you have been lifting you need a new trainer...dead ass serious.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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My body really started looking ripped when I started doing burpees and pull ups. I have a better body now than I did in my 20's and I used to work out in my 20's too.. but not as much as now.
Do you do burpees everyday? How many sets do you do
 

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Good work on the fat loss Neil.

Perhaps you could share your gym routine, particularly the weight lifting side of things, to see if there is any Thing you might be missing
 

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Good work on the fat loss Neil.

Perhaps you could share your gym routine, particularly the weight lifting side of things, to see if there is any Thing you might be missing
These photos show 2 months progress, not 8 months progress.

My lean muscle mass is around 190lb. Not sure how much muscle you guys think a person is supposed to have, but Tom Brady doesn't have much more.

I work out M, W, F from 6am-7am. Chest/Back/abs, Legs/Abs and Arms/Shoulders/Abs. 10 min per session cardio.

Note: Tom Brady is 6'4" 225 and 16% fat. So he has 189lb of lean muscle mass. I have close to those numbers.

http://hollywoodmeasurements.com/sports/tom-brady-height-weight-body-measurements/
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Tom Brady also does 100000% the cardio you probably do. And even if he doesn't. Who looks up to Tom Brady as the person they want to physically look like?
He isn't build nor is he buff. Because he does not need to. He's never been known as a mobile quarterback either. He just has a great arm for throwing and pinpoint accuracy
 

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These photos show 2 months progress, not 8 months progress.

My lean muscle mass is around 190lb. Not sure how much muscle you guys think a person is supposed to have, but Tom Brady doesn't have much more.

I work out M, W, F from 6am-7am. Chest/Back/abs, Legs/Abs and Arms/Shoulders/Abs. 10 min per session cardio.

Note: Tom Brady is 6'4" 225 and 16% fat. So he has 189lb of lean muscle mass. I have close to those numbers.

http://hollywoodmeasurements.com/sports/tom-brady-height-weight-body-measurements/

No point exercising your ab muscles.

Which exercises? Are you squatting? Are you deadlifting? Are you doing rows, pull ups, and bench press and military press? And how many reps and sets? What weight?
 

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Good work Neil. I would say you are at about 17% bf, so target weight would be 200 lbs at 10% bf.

1) Focus on compound exercises to build your core:
a) Squats;
b) Dead Lifts;
3) Bench Press;
4) Barbell Rows.

2) Try to add at least 5 lbs on each of these core exercises each week striving for a 5-7 rep range. Higher weight translates to greater muscle development.

3) Once you shed the 15 lbs of fat and build your core, we'll see what your physique looks like and tweak for aesthetic lifts.
 

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Not bad Neil...

I just recently started my cut while mid-way through the Arnold Blueprint to Mass bodybuilding.com workout.

I'm doing 8% incline on the treadmill at 3-7 MPH almost every day as per @Espi's suggestion. I don't get off the treadmill until I hit my milestone of 400 calories burned.

Stepped up the clean eating and I'm watching my sugar/starch intake like a hawk.

I've done this for a week or so daily. Too early to see results. I have two body fat % readers, but they aren't accurate.

I'm anywhere between 10~20% bf at 5'8", 162 lbs. o_O
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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i agree with the others neil obviously proud of your effort but you have no muscle change.....do you take creatine 4-5 grams a day? within 10 days lifting of me first taking creatine it looked like 3 months work in the gym
 

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These photos show 2 months progress, not 8 months progress.

My lean muscle mass is around 190lb. Not sure how much muscle you guys think a person is supposed to have, but Tom Brady doesn't have much more.

I work out M, W, F from 6am-7am. Chest/Back/abs, Legs/Abs and Arms/Shoulders/Abs. 10 min per session cardio.

Note: Tom Brady is 6'4" 225 and 16% fat. So he has 189lb of lean muscle mass. I have close to those numbers.

http://hollywoodmeasurements.com/sports/tom-brady-height-weight-body-measurements/
Who in their right old trains to look like Tom Brady? Why don't you aim for someone like Nigel Bradham or JJ Watt??
 

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Who in their right old trains to look like Tom Brady? Why don't you aim for someone like Nigel Bradham or JJ Watt??
  • Tom Brady is the greatest and one of the healthiest quarterbacks of all time and is married to a supermodel. He is close to my age and follows an organic diet like I do. He's not into heavy weight lifting.
  • Nigel is a 6'2" 240 linebacker. I'd need to be 260 to look like him.
  • JJ Watt is my height - he is 295 lb. Absolutely an unhealthy weight. Probably did steroids. Our knees and ankles can't take that weight, not at my age.
Those guys tackle Tom Brady and he gets right up. And women would rate him the best looking. My ex girlfriend was from Atlanta and watched the Super Bowl with me and after he won his 5th she said "He's so handsome!"

My aim is to be healthy and strong.
 

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You can't really do both (toning and bulking up) simultaneously so far as I know.
Exactly.

Our body will first burn off the fat, then purge toxins, then take on a specular shine, then add muscle. Plus I'm 47. I don't add muscle that fast.

For a 2 month period (set up by 6 months of working out), I'm happy with the results.

I've been eating tons of organic berries (granted with vodka). Avoiding dairy. Cutting down on grains. Bone in Texas beef. Marrow. Homemade salsa.
 

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  • Tom Brady is the greatest and one of the healthiest quarterbacks of all time and is married to a supermodel. He is close to my age and follows an organic diet like I do. He's not into heavy weight lifting.
  • Nigel is a 6'2" 240 linebacker. I'd need to be 260 to look like him.
  • JJ Watt is my height - he is 295 lb. Absolutely an unhealthy weight. Probably did steroids. Our knees and ankles can't take that weight, not at my age.
Those guys tackle Tom Brady and he gets right up. And women would rate him the best looking. My ex girlfriend was from Atlanta and watched the Super Bowl with me and after he won his 5th she said "He's so handsome!"

My aim is to be healthy and strong.
Yeah but secretly Giselle dreams of spending a night with Nigel Bradham and getting her pvssy destroyed by a jacked, muscular guy...

And I know plenty of women who would pick JJ Watt's look over Tom Brady.

JJ Watt is 6'7" btw...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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