"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How to kill remaining/false hope completely?

mac j

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Long story short - a girl chose to stay with her boyfriend instead of choosing me. Says she still thinks about me bla bla bla..

Despite not at all wanting it, I STILL hold a small amount of hope that she will change her mind / message me etc, even thought logically I know it's done. Still have to see her occasionally due to mutual friends/family.

I know this is not good and do not want this. I want to realise the reality fully and with that, be able to move forward and not have part of my mind still hoping/waiting for her.

How can you achieve this?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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marmel75

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Find new women and start banging them. Exactly my point on how guys are lazy and would rather hope for something to happen with a girl they know nothing is going to happen with because they've already got their number/"invested time"...

Stop being lazy and go find new women. Its far easier than most guys think. You could have 2 new fvck buddies by the first week of September if you put in the work starting today.
 

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im confused as to why you would bother investing hope in a chick with a man. It's as if, despite everything else that has to be overcome while you are attempting to attract a female you want to throw in the additional hurdle of her being with someone else, and having to lure her away. Not to mention if she can do that to him, she will do that to you.

SMH
you are focusing your attention and energy in the wrong places.
 

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All attractive women are dating several men, always.

The women who are 100% single are not better, more honest, more caring women. They are simply women nobody wants.
 

RangerMIke

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All attractive women are dating several men, always.

The women who are 100% single are not better, more honest, more caring women. They are simply women nobody wants.
Generally true. Attractive women will always have a number of dudes sniffing around them. A BF is simply the best of the sniffers at that particular moment. In the next moment it could be anyone. I do not let BFs discourage me... husbands and fiance's are a different story.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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RangerMIke

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Other women, keeping busy, and the discipline not to think about a chick that doesn't want you.
 
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