"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Need advice, chick that's had a thing for me for years

dk1990S111

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This chick that had made it well known she had a thing for me in middle school (I had oneitis for another girl at that time) and high school (we were both in relationships so timing never matched up).

She just got out of an ltr that lasted a few years. Been hitting me up a few times since and the last time she was pretty drunk and started talking pretty dirty. Would be an easy lay for sure, but on the other hand I wouldn't want to give her false hope of a relationship. I know I can just tell her I'm not looking for that but she's just the kinda chick that I can imagine going kinda crazy when I fvck her and end up rejecting her wanting a relationship. I am moving out of state in about a year so there's that, but she is honestly a little obsessed.

Wears lipstick a lot so can't help but be tempted for that reason alone :p

So what's a good way to go about this and not have it end up a mess when I tell her no relationship?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'd say be honest about your intentions. I have a friend who just lets the girls he's seeing know he's not looking for anything serious - doesn't seem to bother them, as they push for more.

Not saying you have to blurt it that out before or even after having sex with her - but if it comes up as a topic, be honest. She might still press for more, but if she knows where you stand, and what she's getting into - she's less likely to hold it against you.
 

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This chick that had made it well known she had a thing for me in middle school (I had oneitis for another girl at that time) and high school (we were both in relationships so timing never matched up).

She just got out of an ltr that lasted a few years. Been hitting me up a few times since and the last time she was pretty drunk and started talking pretty dirty. Would be an easy lay for sure, but on the other hand I wouldn't want to give her false hope of a relationship. I know I can just tell her I'm not looking for that but she's just the kinda chick that I can imagine going kinda crazy when I fvck her and end up rejecting her wanting a relationship. I am moving out of state in about a year so there's that, but she is honestly a little obsessed.

Wears lipstick a lot so can't help but be tempted for that reason alone :p

So what's a good way to go about this and not have it end up a mess when I tell her no relationship?
If she is attractive just fvck her...she is going to pull out all the stops sexually for you so it probably will be some amazing sex
 

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This chick that had made it well known she had a thing for me in middle school (I had oneitis for another girl at that time) and high school (we were both in relationships so timing never matched up).

She just got out of an ltr that lasted a few years. Been hitting me up a few times since and the last time she was pretty drunk and started talking pretty dirty. Would be an easy lay for sure, but on the other hand I wouldn't want to give her false hope of a relationship. I know I can just tell her I'm not looking for that but she's just the kinda chick that I can imagine going kinda crazy when I fvck her and end up rejecting her wanting a relationship. I am moving out of state in about a year so there's that, but she is honestly a little obsessed.

Wears lipstick a lot so can't help but be tempted for that reason alone :p

So what's a good way to go about this and not have it end up a mess when I tell her no relationship?
how do you know you don't want to date her if you haven't even found out her deep her throat is yet?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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dude99

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Dude. Relationships are the chicks job anyways. Not yours. Date.smash. Enjoy. Your focus isn't a relationship. Yours is to date and smash. Just do that. You lead. She will follow. When she brings up the relationship then you tell her.

Just to let you know, this will make you a challenge and she will chase you even more.
 

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This chick that had made it well known she had a thing for me in middle school
You're in a fantastic position. You made it high up on her high score list when she was young, and you've maintained your position. This chick would likely be extremely loyal to you. Women never get over their crushes from high school.

I am moving out of state in about a year so there's that, but she is honestly a little obsessed.
If you started dating her, she would likely change locations to remain with you. That is how women work when they're "obsessed" with a man. There's absolutely nothing that would stop her from staying with you. I'm willing to bet that she'll work her ass off to make you happy.

I'd say give it a go. You can always break up with her if you discover that you don't like her.
 

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You're in a fantastic position. You made it high up on her high score list when she was young, and you've maintained your position. This chick would likely be extremely loyal to you. Women never get over their crushes from high school.



If you started dating her, she would likely change locations to remain with you. That is how women work when they're "obsessed" with a man. There's absolutely nothing that would stop her from staying with you. I'm willing to bet that she'll work her ass off to make you happy.

I'd say give it a go. You can always break up with her if you discover that you don't like her.
Ya I think you're right about her being loyal and probably would move to be with me. But she's maybe a HB6 and I know that even though I'd love to find a loyal girl like that, settling for a 6 wouldn't be worth it imo.

In middle school I always thought she was a little crazy, most likely has emotional issues already. That's why I'm having to decide if it's worth fvcking her. I'm sure it would be great s3x but is it worth knowing I'm just using her and would probably fvck her up in the head even more
 

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Ya I think you're right about her being loyal and probably would move to be with me. But she's maybe a HB6 and I know that even though I'd love to find a loyal girl like that, settling for a 6 wouldn't be worth it imo.

In middle school I always thought she was a little crazy, most likely has emotional issues already. That's why I'm having to decide if it's worth fvcking her. I'm sure it would be great s3x but is it worth knowing I'm just using her and would probably fvck her up in the head even more
What makes you think she doesn't just want to fvxk no matter what happens?
 

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What makes you think she doesn't just want to fvxk no matter what happens?
Could be, but back in school she used to yell infront of both of our friends that she loves me lol I'd just be surprised if she isn't thinking relationship
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Could be, but back in school she used to yell infront of both of our friends that she loves me lol I'd just be surprised if she isn't thinking relationship
Don't make the mistake of thinking for someone else
 

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Ya I think you're right about her being loyal and probably would move to be with me. But she's maybe a HB6 and I know that even though I'd love to find a loyal girl like that, settling for a 6 wouldn't be worth it imo.

In middle school I always thought she was a little crazy, most likely has emotional issues already. That's why I'm having to decide if it's worth fvcking her. I'm sure it would be great s3x but is it worth knowing I'm just using her and would probably fvck her up in the head even more
You are thinking about this too much. Date. Smash. Enjoy.

The rest will unfold how you want because you will be the one leading. You will be the one who gives less f!cks.
 

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This chick that had made it well known she had a thing for me in middle school (I had oneitis for another girl at that time) and high school (we were both in relationships so timing never matched up).

She just got out of an ltr that lasted a few years. Been hitting me up a few times since and the last time she was pretty drunk and started talking pretty dirty. Would be an easy lay for sure, but on the other hand I wouldn't want to give her false hope of a relationship. I know I can just tell her I'm not looking for that but she's just the kinda chick that I can imagine going kinda crazy when I fvck her and end up rejecting her wanting a relationship. I am moving out of state in about a year so there's that, but she is honestly a little obsessed.

Wears lipstick a lot so can't help but be tempted for that reason alone :p

So what's a good way to go about this and not have it end up a mess when I tell her no relationship?
Who cares about her expectations. Think with your dvck
 

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Why do men worry about hurting women? Jesus... they can get over a man as fast as another dude cvms in her mouth.

Who gives a **** if she has expectations... just **** her let her worry about what it means.
 

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Why do men worry about hurting women?
a guy who's good at heart is gonna want to try and avoid causing unnecessary amounts of suffering, tis a sign of good character if you have at least a little reluctance of possibly screwing someone over
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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a guy who's good at heart is gonna want to try and avoid causing unnecessary amounts of suffering, tis a sign of good character if you have at least a little reluctance of possibly screwing someone over
If a chick is even halfway attractive she has a backup plan. The guy with a good heart will be soon forgotten. She has her agenda you should have yours. The good hearted guy will get run down by her if he happens to be between her and what she 'feels' is a better man.
 

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Why do men worry about hurting women? Jesus... they can get over a man as fast as another dude cvms in her mouth
This one's a bit different. He's been on her high score list for years. If he breaks up with her, it WILL fvck her up. The good news is he can get back together with her later, and she'll take him back.

This is a unique and rare situation to be in. Mark my word, this chick will do damn near anything he asks of her.

I still say he should go for it.
 
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