"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Here's a slightly new take on an old blow off.

SuckItUp

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I asked a girl what her schedule looked like this week.

She responded with ... the beginning of the week is pretty packed but my schedule changes constantly.

I took it as a not interested, but perhaps it's a **** test on non needy persistence?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Krueg

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I work at a grocery store and my schedule / days off are always changing. So she could have a valid excuse depending on her lifestyle. Or she's just a b!tch playing games with online dating, women will do that!

Personally, I think if you meet a girl in person. You kinda know right then and there that you want her and you can tell right away if she is interested or not.

I would consider Online Dating as entertainment...
 

SuckItUp

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I work at a grocery store and my schedule / days off are always changing. So she could have a valid excuse depending on her lifestyle. Or she's just a b!tch playing games with online dating, women will do that!

Personally, I think if you meet a girl in person. You kinda know right then and there that you want her and you can tell right away if she is interested or not.

I would consider Online Dating as entertainment...
''Twas OLD, which I should just ignore as useless.
 

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You asked her what her schedule was like and she gave you an answer. I don't see what the problem is.

Why not ask her out with a specific day and time in mind and see what her answer is instead of dancing around the issue with questions like what her schedule is.

If she accepts or gives a solid counter, she's interested. Anything other than that means she's not interested.
 

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You asked her what her schedule was like and she gave you an answer. I don't see what the problem is.

Why not ask her out with a specific day and time in mind and see what her answer is instead of dancing around the issue with questions like what her schedule is.

If she accepts or gives a solid counter, she's interested. Anything other than that means she's not interested.

This.

"I am free on _____ and I will be at ______ around 8pm. If you can join, let me know."

Seems pretty easy.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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