"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Last night in the club

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Went to the club to celebrate a mate's birthday, having fun minding our own business.

At some point i was outside in the smoker area and there i somehow started talking to a girl. I wasn't even trying to flirt because of to much alcohol my conversation skills where limited.
She mentioned also that she just got dumped.

I left again and crossed her on the dancefloor where some guy was trying to dance with her. While passing we looked at each other and both of us smiled as she recognised me. I wasn't really interested in her because she was drunk and probably just looking for something to make her ex jealous or something.

Anyway all this to say nothing happened until we wanted to leave, we all got up and waited for the last to join. It happenend that she was walking towards us where i noticed her and gave her a smirk. She kept walking up to me and stopped to kiss me out of the blue. Then kept on walking.

Boy was i confused...
However it was some kind of self confidence boost, because she wouldn't do that to some random ugly fatty.

The funny part was one of my mates after it happened went: "You lucky bastard"
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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beforeimgone

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Went to the club to celebrate a mate's birthday, having fun minding our own business.

At some point i was outside in the smoker area and there i somehow started talking to a girl. I wasn't even trying to flirt because of to much alcohol my conversation skills where limited.
She mentioned also that she just got dumped.

I left again and crossed her on the dancefloor where some guy was trying to dance with her. While passing we looked at each other and both of us smiled as she recognised me. I wasn't really interested in her because she was drunk and probably just looking for something to make her ex jealous or something.

Anyway all this to say nothing happened until we wanted to leave, we all got up and waited for the last to join. It happenend that she was walking towards us where i noticed her and gave her a smirk. She kept walking up to me and stopped to kiss me out of the blue. Then kept on walking.

Boy was i confused...
However it was some kind of self confidence boost, because she wouldn't do that to some random ugly fatty.

The funny part was one of my mates after it happened went: "You lucky bastard"
You appear to be describing this as a romantic comedy

Not the best mindset to have
 

Prodoge

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You appear to be describing this as a romantic comedy

Not the best mindset to have
What do you mean ? I described as close to reality as i could plus i consumed a bit too much alcohol that night
 

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I wasn't really interested in her because she was drunk and probably just looking for something to make her ex jealous or something.
So you're making excuses to avoid an easy lay... What's so wrong about being a rebound? If it's just for sex it doesn't really matter to you why she's so damn willing to do it.

Are you turning gay?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So you're making excuses to avoid an easy lay... What's so wrong about being a rebound? If it's just for sex it doesn't really matter to you why she's so damn willing to do it.

Are you turning gay?
It would have yes, but we where on the point of leaving so i didn't really have a choice since it was a 30 minute drive.

Under different circumstances yes easy lay sure
 

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What do you mean ? I described as close to reality as i could plus i consumed a bit too much alcohol that night
Yea true, you did seem to be objective but your perception appears to be colored.

It seems like you viewed this interaction as an enchanting night. You were cool, had a fun time with your mates, hot chicks looking at you, ended up getting a kiss without trying, got props from the guys, etc.

Just pointing out thst mindset.
I'm happy for your awesome night though, bud!
 

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It would have yes, but we where on the point of leaving so i didn't really have a choice since it was a 30 minute drive.

Under different circumstances yes easy lay sure
Looks like more excuses to my eyes. There's always a choice.
 
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