Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Girl keeps asking me to confirm logistics for date

Prodoge

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On Monday I arraged a (first) date with a girl via text who when I suggested day and location replied "if you want". So i went ahead set it up as planned and told her I'll let you know for the exact time because I have things to do on wednesday.

Yesterday morning she texts me asking if I already know a time for the date. So I gave her a time and after that she asked me where we meet up and what car I drive etc...

About an hour ago she sent a text asking confirmation for time and place.

At least she seems interested but also insecure as hell. I am worried this could turn into some kind of orange flag.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I don't see what's so bad. She has interest so that's a positive. She's only texted twice. One to see if you made up your mind and the other to confirm. Sounds reasonable to me.
 

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I don't see what's so bad. She has interest so that's a positive. She's only texted twice. One to see if you made up your mind and the other to confirm. Sounds reasonable to me.
Guess you're right, what surprised me is that at first she did not seem too interested but still agreed on a date. Whatever i guess lol

Was it a good idea from me to have the date at a bar where I know most of the barkeepers cause I go there with friends on a regular basis ?
 

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Guess you're right, what surprised me is that at first she did not seem too interested but still agreed on a date. Whatever i guess lol

Was it a good idea from me to have the date at a bar where I know most of the barkeepers cause I go there with friends on a regular basis ?
There are positives and negatives.

Positives:

- It gives you social proof.
- It's your home turf so you're more likely to be comfortable.

Negatives:

- They could ****block you.
 

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There are positives and negatives.

Positives:

- It gives you social proof.
- It's your home turf so you're more likely to be comfortable.

Negatives:

- They could ****block you.
At least with the negatives... he'll find out they were never friends... or just extremely socially un-aware
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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On Monday I arraged a (first) date with a girl via text who when I suggested day and location replied "if you want".

So i went ahead set it up as planned and told her I'll let you know for the exact time because I have things to do on wednesday.
Right here it's getting risky. You have split up setting up a small date with a girl you want to sleep with into 2 separate texts. By the time you send the 2nd text she could be: married, pregnant, or have a boyfriend. Don't assume she is eagerly waiting for your 2nd text regarding the time.

Yesterday morning she texts me asking if I already know a time for the date. So I gave her a time and after that she asked me where we meet up and what car I drive etc...
OK that means you knew the time already and didn't care to tell her. In her mind you had more important things to do.

About an hour ago she sent a text asking confirmation for time and place.

At least she seems interested but also insecure as hell. I am worried this could turn into some kind of orange flag.
Asking to confirm time and date doesn't mean a woman is interested. She could be confirming to set you up for something.

Men, I wouldn't think about "flags" until you have sex with a woman. If you haven't had sex with her, she will make your head spin 18 different ways from Sunday regarding the flags. o_O
 

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She's qualifying you with the car question. Always flake on the first date.
 
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