"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Girl keeps asking me to confirm logistics for date

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On Monday I arraged a (first) date with a girl via text who when I suggested day and location replied "if you want". So i went ahead set it up as planned and told her I'll let you know for the exact time because I have things to do on wednesday.

Yesterday morning she texts me asking if I already know a time for the date. So I gave her a time and after that she asked me where we meet up and what car I drive etc...

About an hour ago she sent a text asking confirmation for time and place.

At least she seems interested but also insecure as hell. I am worried this could turn into some kind of orange flag.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I don't see what's so bad. She has interest so that's a positive. She's only texted twice. One to see if you made up your mind and the other to confirm. Sounds reasonable to me.
 

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I don't see what's so bad. She has interest so that's a positive. She's only texted twice. One to see if you made up your mind and the other to confirm. Sounds reasonable to me.
Guess you're right, what surprised me is that at first she did not seem too interested but still agreed on a date. Whatever i guess lol

Was it a good idea from me to have the date at a bar where I know most of the barkeepers cause I go there with friends on a regular basis ?
 

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Guess you're right, what surprised me is that at first she did not seem too interested but still agreed on a date. Whatever i guess lol

Was it a good idea from me to have the date at a bar where I know most of the barkeepers cause I go there with friends on a regular basis ?
There are positives and negatives.

Positives:

- It gives you social proof.
- It's your home turf so you're more likely to be comfortable.

Negatives:

- They could ****block you.
 

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There are positives and negatives.

Positives:

- It gives you social proof.
- It's your home turf so you're more likely to be comfortable.

Negatives:

- They could ****block you.
At least with the negatives... he'll find out they were never friends... or just extremely socially un-aware
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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On Monday I arraged a (first) date with a girl via text who when I suggested day and location replied "if you want".

So i went ahead set it up as planned and told her I'll let you know for the exact time because I have things to do on wednesday.
Right here it's getting risky. You have split up setting up a small date with a girl you want to sleep with into 2 separate texts. By the time you send the 2nd text she could be: married, pregnant, or have a boyfriend. Don't assume she is eagerly waiting for your 2nd text regarding the time.

Yesterday morning she texts me asking if I already know a time for the date. So I gave her a time and after that she asked me where we meet up and what car I drive etc...
OK that means you knew the time already and didn't care to tell her. In her mind you had more important things to do.

About an hour ago she sent a text asking confirmation for time and place.

At least she seems interested but also insecure as hell. I am worried this could turn into some kind of orange flag.
Asking to confirm time and date doesn't mean a woman is interested. She could be confirming to set you up for something.

Men, I wouldn't think about "flags" until you have sex with a woman. If you haven't had sex with her, she will make your head spin 18 different ways from Sunday regarding the flags. o_O
 

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She's qualifying you with the car question. Always flake on the first date.
 
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