Setting the bar to high

[Rainman4707]

Sometimes it seems don juans only want the perfect woman. One litttle thing wrong with a woman & don juans instruct you to dump her ass.

This type of behaviour will only result in one being single all their life.

People say don't settle but we are'nt perfect ourselves, so we shouldnt look for perfect women.

There are a few members who are different & actually give a woman a chance.

I've made mistakes in the past when it comes to women & have been wrong about women in the past.

 

[Serenity]

It depends what's wrong and often it's not as little as the guy himself thinks. Also, minor annoyances can grow into massive problems over time. It can build up. So better to end it early than to bring yourself more grief later.

I'm for giving a limited amount of chances though, but few men are disciplined enough to really stop at that limit. Many give more and more chances in some false hope of change. But some things we experienced guys just knows can't easily be changed. Patience must have limits.

 

[wifehunter]

Yep, NONE of us are perfect. Matter of fact... I find some imperfections, endearing.

Also, if she's TOO perfect... it's kind of, a turn off. And, I wonder, if something is up.

 

[Von]

Perfection is a lonely path

 

[bigneil]

Go for the hottest women possible. Then you will treat the rest of them the way they deserve to be treated - like they are nothing special.

 

[soulforge]

I agree with this.. I feel a girl deserves at least one or two chances.. you can't just dump a chick for the slightest thing..

One thing I believe djs have to be pretty strict about is disrespect.. If you let her get away with disrespect, then don't be shocked when it spirals out of control

And she is treating you like dog chit on her shoes

 

[Glassguy]

Settle on looks if you want a LTR, settle on character if you just want fun

I would flip flop that. Looks fade......with all women.

 

[Dash Riprock]

Settle on looks if you want a LTR, settle on character if you just want fun

Wrong order. NEVER settle on looks for a LTR. Character and integrity are in very short supply these days for men and women and should be coveted if you find it.

 

[Glassguy]

Ah.....I see what you did there. I agree with your angle on how you worded it. I read it wrong

 

[ubercat]

Well don't settle too much I'd say she should still at least be a 7. Otherwise your eye and your d1ck will start wandering.

 

[Desdinova]

Disrespectful behaviour should never be tolerated. I'm not talking about minor things like her forgetting something or not doing everything you ask, I'm talking about the things that feel wrong to your gut. She shouldn't be hanging out with guy friends, she shouldn't be using guilt trips to get her way, she shouldn't be one who wastes her money. Those are things that will destroy your relationship.

You NEED to set the bar high when it comes to her behaviour. If you don't, you're going to have a 5hitty, miserable time with her.

 

[SuckItUp]

Filtering has nothing to do with perfection. It has to do with eliminating low quality and low interest woman quickly so as to not waste time on useless woman.

No different than jettisoning a girl you have no attraction to, except you are getting of girls who are blind alleys/dead ends.

 

[Rainman4707]

Filtering has nothing to do with perfection. It has to do with eliminating low quality and low interest woman quickly so as to not waste time on useless woman.

No different than jettisoning a girl you have no attraction to, except you are getting of girls who are blind alleys/dead ends.

You may be right & I may regret my choices in the future.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Go for the hottest women possible. Then you will treat the rest of them the way they deserve to be treated - like they are nothing special.

That's how the hottest ones want to be treated. Anyone who supplicates or gives her what she wants is considered to have submitted to her.

 

[Reykhel]

When you're happy single, it takes a "perfect woman" to lure you out of it.

This is the healthy paradigm and overriding frame for men.

You as a man, are the only constant in your life. From birth until death. Women come and women go. Friends come and friends go.

We are but passing ships in the night. Some ships may sail beside us for parts of the journey, but essentially we are the captain of our own ship.

Unfortunately, there are too many necessitous men out there. Believing that the perfect woman will complete their life and make them happy.

If you cannot be happy and complete while being single, a relationship will not make you happy. It will make you codependent and needy.

The key is precisely to build a happy single life.....for you.......not with the fvcking goal of "oh if I build a happy life then I will attract women..."

........build a happy single life where you and only you are responsible for your happiness and for your well being. You and only you are responsible for your needs being met. Build a happy single life pursuing your higher purpose, enjoying your career, fitness and health, passions, travel, hobbies and interests, a real social life (face to face), sampling women in a non exclusive way..........up to the point that
you have to ask yourself "damn, even if I wanted a relationship in my life, where the hell would I fit one??"

This type of behaviour will only result in one being single all their life.

What's wrong with that.

One should never succumb to an exclusive relationship because of fear.

 

[Rainman4707]

This is the healthy paradigm and overriding frame for men.

You as a man, are the only constant in your life. From birth until death. Women come and women go. Friends come and friends go.

We are but passing ships in the night. Some ships may sail beside us for parts of the journey, but essentially we are the captain of our own ship.

Unfortunately, there are too many necessitous men out there. Believing that the perfect woman will complete their life and make them happy.

If you cannot be happy and complete while being single, a relationship will not make you happy. It will make you codependent and needy.

The key is precisely to build a happy single life.....for you.......not with the fvcking goal of "oh if I build a happy life then I will attract women..."

........build a happy single life where you and only you are responsible for your happiness and for your well being. You and only you are responsible for your needs being met. Build a happy single life pursuing your higher purpose, enjoying your career, fitness and health, passions, travel, hobbies and interests, a real social life (face to face), sampling women in a non exclusive way..........up to the point that
you have to ask yourself "damn, even if I wanted a relationship in my life, where the hell would I fit one??"


What's wrong with that.

One should never succumb to an exclusive relationship because of fear.

Nothing at all is wrong with being single. I would be happy if I was single, but my goal is to have a family, thats what I want. Most men would prefer to be in a LTR than single. Each to their own.