Doc Kas
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For a bit of fun it doesn't matter. Enjoy the body and then move on.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
When will you guys realize that LOOKS are almost all that matters!?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
wifehunter
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Nah, not looking for a slut.
zekko
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Agreed, slvts are common.
zekko
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Some women are turned off by a guy who uses product in his hair. There is a perception that guys should not spend time on their hair, that's a feminine thing. (Product isn't Aquanet, but same principle applies). They think men should wash their hair and go, and should be concerned with masculine things, not primping their hair in the mirror like a woman. Women are about beauty, men are about action.
On the other hand, some girls really like guys with product in their hair, especially the spiked look. So go figure.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Mike32ct
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When I had full hair, I got a lot of mileage out of either a messy gelled look or more often by spiking up the front (using gel or wax).
The stereotypical soap star Chad has the front of his hair spiked up. If a white dude has the hair to rock that look, it works well.
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Haven't noticed this thread. but I'll throw my opinion in here.
Looks are not totally insignificant, but it's pointless to focus on it and let it hold us back. A good looking guy with good game will of course have a better chance than a not so good looking guy with the same level of game. However, a not so good looking guy with great game is miles ahead of a guy with similar looks but with bad or no game. It's not a whole lot we can do about our looks (without surgery, but fuck that), so even worrying about it is useless and that energy is better spent changing what can be changed regarding game.
My spiked hairstyle goes really well with my looks just like being bald goes well with a different type of looks. I don't think being bald would fit me and I know for sure many others would not fit my hairstyle.
Looks are not totally insignificant, but it's pointless to focus on it and let it hold us back. A good looking guy with good game will of course have a better chance than a not so good looking guy with the same level of game. However, a not so good looking guy with great game is miles ahead of a guy with similar looks but with bad or no game. It's not a whole lot we can do about our looks (without surgery, but fuck that), so even worrying about it is useless and that energy is better spent changing what can be changed regarding game.
I often use products to give a spiky sideways look, my hair is really flat without using it. I'm sure some women don't like it and I believe age is relevant here. I'm in my 20's and I don't think most women mind it then, but for men twice my age it can pretty easily look weird. If any woman doesn't like my hair because she has the opinion that it's a feminine thing, then she's probably a lot more philosophical than I'd prefer anyways. I can understand if some don't like it because they'd like to touch my hair without getting sticky, that's at least a pragmatic reason which is fair enough. I really don't care if someone thinks it's feminine, I simply cannot be swayed by social constructs like that.
My spiked hairstyle goes really well with my looks just like being bald goes well with a different type of looks. I don't think being bald would fit me and I know for sure many others would not fit my hairstyle.
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Totally not true
Back before i had game when i had low self esteem etc i got ZERO girls
after developing myself for a while i was getting girls i would have NEVER thought i could get before.
It's mindest
"looks is all that matters" is an excuse that cowards use who don't want to look at themselves and realize what they need to work on.
Back before i had game when i had low self esteem etc i got ZERO girls
after developing myself for a while i was getting girls i would have NEVER thought i could get before.
It's mindest
"looks is all that matters" is an excuse that cowards use who don't want to look at themselves and realize what they need to work on.
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AJ84
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Because it's easier to place blame and accountability than make an effort to change. I used to work with a girl who was very overweight and this was around the time that the body acceptance movement began. She embraced that of course but seemed to think that by doing that, men were expected to embrace it as well(?). Well when that didn't happen guess whose fault it was? Not hers of course :/.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
If I went to see Pamela Anderson at a comic-con like i nearly did, I figured if I was more attractive, there would be much more physical touching in the picture than the coy smile that would result. 
Putting aside the women subject, it's tough out there. The hardest thing I have learned is that I am merely a drone and recepticle. 10+ years being bullied, teased and picked on, now I am asked to put something back into society by working and have random strangers asking me for change. What's going on?
Putting aside the women subject, it's tough out there. The hardest thing I have learned is that I am merely a drone and recepticle. 10+ years being bullied, teased and picked on, now I am asked to put something back into society by working and have random strangers asking me for change. What's going on?
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