You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
A lot of men give women too much credit. They believe that most women have an agenda and completely intend to 5hit test and play games with the men in their lives.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Don't make any sense TO US... Or just don't make any sense?
They don't make any sense to us, and they sometimes don't make sense to each other. They also don't make sense to themselves at times.
So why did she like the jerk?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Do you mean works to solve my problem communicating with women?
How was your Backpage experience? Good and bad, price range, gotchas and safety?
that's just what women say to justify it a lot of the time though. the truth of the matter is that plenty of guys are only pretending to be nice to get laid, but plenty of guys are actually nice guys, but plenty of women have ridiculous standards about it (like a woman insulted a guy first and then he fired back and then she said that he must not really be nice then. I saw that happen on facebook), I don't blame a guy for not being nice to girls who reject him or lead him on or something
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You have a penile implant?
That is correct.
pretty much. I just wish it were a little bigger. I also got a silicone injection to make it thicker last October.
